Do you really know children? Don't pull up the seedlings!

Now a parent, and teaching for more than 20 years, Fang knows the hardships of parenting and the difficulties of teaching students. Since the implementation of the Family Education Law, I have been quite interested in and committed to the study of family education, so I paid more than 1,000 yuan to apply for the family education instructor at my own expense. Online purchase of N books, all of which are guide books in family education. In my spare time, I held up the book "Family Education" written by Mr. Chen Heqin, and my understanding of children's psychology was so straightforward and open-minded.

01 Children are active

Yes, the children are active. Having raised two children, I have a deep understanding. When my youngest daughter was 2 to 3 years old, because my wife and I were both at work, I had to let my elderly mother, who was not in her legs, bring her younger daughter. The little daughter is very active. The floor of the home is a mess all the time. What teddy bears, tangrams, blocks, ropes... Thrown on the ground everywhere. My mother is also a very particular person, and she classifies these toys one by one at all times. The mother picked it up, the little daughter threw it, and the two of them were very busy. The little daughter, always yelling at her mother to take her out, wandered the streets. As long as she sneaks out of the house, the little daughter is like a small wild horse. Touch it here, touch it there, but the puddle that shouldn't have been stepped on is stepped on, and the water wets the shoes. Things that should not be touched have been touched, and the toys placed in the store have been touched and fallen many times, and several times they have almost lost money before leaving.

02 Children are good imitators

On weekends, we always like to have a few friends to play at home. At this time, it is also the time when the little daughter is most happy. My friend's daughter, Xiao Tongtong, was a year younger than my daughter, about the same age, and the two of them played with all the toys in the house. The two also played imitation games, picked up toy phones, there were looks, and the two imitated the scenes and sentences of their parents who often talked on the phone.

"Hey, little sister Tong, are you at home?"

"Well, what's the matter with you looking for me?"

"Yes, you come to my house to play, I have a lot of toys at home, and there are delicious ones."

"Okay, my mother and I'll be here later."

"Okay, bye bye"

"Bye bye."

Parents are the object of children's imitation, and parents making correct and good examples is the key to guiding children to healthy development and forming correct values.

03 Children are curious

The nature of the child is curious, and curiosity is all the driving force for the child to be active and imitate. When my eldest daughter was 6 years old, once our whole family played at a friend's house in Longxi. Less than 10 minutes near a mall, the eldest daughter was out of sight. Nearly 100 meters in a straight line around, we have all looked for them one by one, but there is no result. The more I looked for it, the more worried I became, so I called all my friends and almost turned around, only to report "110"! As a result, she was found at a nearby child's home. Asked why, a few children were doing a fun game, and she played with them and went to the house together. The stone that our whole family had pressed into our hearts had finally been put down. An inattentive, due to the curiosity of the child, instantly disappeared from our sight, like our small town is good to say, if in a large public place or a larger city, lost a child, it is difficult to find it!

04 Kids love to be successful

Recently, a good friend Dao Brother said that you can pay attention to the "Odora Science Planet" public account, which has various experimental videos to guide and educate children, and experimental materials can be purchased in Heli Supermarket. After work, I went to Heli Supermarket and spent 55 yuan to buy a box of experimental materials. After dinner, under my guidance, I did the experiment with my little daughter. I made an agreement with her that we would only do two experiments at a time. The first experiment was to use red, yellow, and blue colors plus water to mix into other colors. The younger daughter came and went many times, mixing them one by one with water in a cup, and the experiment was finally successful. She was so happy that she was clamoring to finish the second experiment, which would have to be made with her own dish soap and pure milk. However, there was no pure milk at home, and finally peanut milk was replaced, and the experiment failed. The little daughter was not happy, muttering, slightly crying, looking very aggrieved. While comforting her, I explained to her that it was probably the failure of the experimental experiment to be due to the failure of the prepared raw materials. I promised her that I would buy a bottle of pure milk the next day, and if I did this experiment, it would be successful. Finally, the corner of the little daughter's mouth barely squeezed out a smile.

05 Kids love the wild

As the saying goes: "It is difficult for pine seedlings in the room to become towering trees, and caged birds are difficult to soar thousands of miles in the air." "Without free growth in the wild, it is impossible to truly grow up inside." Nowadays, whenever the weather is cold or snowy, many parents always tell their children to wear more clothes or forbid their children to go out, always on the grounds that they want to catch a cold, get sick, get dirty clothes, etc., and a lot of grandiose reasons stifl the children's nature. As a result, many children nowadays do not distinguish between cattle and horses, do not recognize the grain, do not recognize the plants, do not understand the animals, and the real two eyes are smeared. Looking back at my own childhood, in those years, the family was in financial difficulties, the living conditions were extremely low, there was no charcoal fire for the winter, and there was no heating supply. We are in groups of three or five, we like to play outside all day, noisy, and now we are not growing up healthily? A person to be able to grow, always have to experience ups and downs, always have to adapt to the external environment, we can not because of the fear of children sick or cold, and prevent their nature from playing, but also should let the children go out of the house, close to nature, in nature to contact, to understand, to grow.

06 Children like to praise

Anyone loves to hear words like praise or praise, especially for children. Whenever my little daughter wore a beautiful dress or dress, she would show off in front of me. "Dad, you see this dress, I put it on beautifully, don't I?" Looking at the childish little face, I will also really praise her a few words. "Xiao Yuyu put on this dress, it's really beautiful, as beautiful as a princess." Sometimes, when my little daughter was playing a bullfight game with me, the two sides met their heads and pushed hard, and the backslider lost, and each time I won or lost with her. When she won, I gave her a heartfelt thumbs up, and she was so happy that she was as sweet as honey. It can be seen that moderate praise is good for the growth of children, which can increase children's self-confidence, cultivate her self-confidence, and stimulate the child's own internal motivation.

A child is really a great subject that cannot be studied thoroughly and is worth studying forever. In the education of children, only by fully recognizing the psychological characteristics of these personalities of children can we find and use the correct methods and methods to educate and guide children to grow up healthily and vigorously.