After the child goes to kindergarten, the mother must be very worried about the child's life problems in the kindergarten, and does not know whether the child will cry, whether he will make trouble, whether he will be bullied, happy or unhappy, how to eat...
However, because the child's comprehension ability, expression ability, etc. are relatively limited, if the parents ask directly, then the child is likely to express the mistake, sometimes the question is not right, and may affect the child's emotions, so the mother must know how to "set words", so that you can get true and accurate information.
Antu's baby has been in kindergarten for more than a week, and Antu has been uneasy about the baby's life in kindergarten, every time the baby enters the kindergarten, Antu likes to lie around the kindergarten to observe the baby's situation, sometimes from the kindergarten gate, sometimes from the kindergarten fence, sometimes around to the back of the kindergarten, from the class window to secretly observe the child's situation.
This kind of behavior of Andu is actually not very good, one is that it consumes a lot of Andu's time and energy, and sometimes it is very difficult to pick up the wall; the second is that the effect is not good, it is difficult to observe the child, and it is impossible to learn the specific situation of the child; the third is that it may affect the child, because sometimes the child sees that the mother has been stranded outside the kindergarten, and may have a feeling of attachment, so that he cries and wants to go home.
Later, because Antu's behavior has affected the safety and normal teaching of the park, the park teacher told Andu that in fact, parents do not have to worry about sending their children to kindergartens, if they really want to know the situation of their children in the kindergarten, they can contact the teacher at the right time, or directly ask the children after school.
And Andou also felt that the teacher in the park was reasonable, and he was really tired, so he adopted the teacher's advice and prepared to ask the child about the situation in the park after school.
Because Andou's mother is very worried about the child, when the child comes home from school at night, Andu asks the child a few questions, but the results obtained are not ideal, and even let Andu misunderstand that the child is not doing well.
The next day, Andou found the baby's teacher, after some communication, Antu understood that it was his own way of asking questions that was wrong, causing misunderstandings, so which of the parents' questioning methods was incorrect and likely to cause misunderstandings?
01 When a child first enters kindergarten, he wants to know how he is doing, and asking questions may cause misunderstandings
Worry about the child's bad life, ask too negative questions.
After the child returns home, He nervously asks the child whether he has been bullied by others in the kindergarten, whether he has cried, whether he has been scolded by others, etc., and the child was in a good mood, but after the parents' questions were recalled, the child will subconsciously associate his day's encounter with the mother's problem, which is a very normal thing, and may be mistaken by the child for a problem with the mother, thus making a wrong expression.
Moreover, when children follow their mother's thoughts on negative issues to recall and consider, they will also be infected by this negative factor, so that they feel that they are living in an environment of being bullied and scolded by others one day, and become sullen and even resistant to kindergarten. But in fact, it is likely that the child will still have a happy day in kindergarten.
Neglecting the child's comprehension and expression skills, asking questions that are too general.
Some parents ask their children questions, although they are not as negative as Antu, but they ignore the child's expression ability and comprehension ability, and the questions asked are more general.
For example, some parents will ask their children how they are doing, and the children will answer very confusedly, because the children do not know where to answer, there are too many things on this day, which may cause children to have expression disorders.
Therefore, when parents ask their children questions, they should pay attention to stronger directivity, such as is the lunch eaten at noon today delicious? Are there any extra meals in the afternoon? Which book is being studied today? ......
The answer to the question will lead the child to prejudice.
There are also some parents who often make a mistake, that is, they have to let their children say "most", which is the most misleading problem for their children.
For example, parents will ask their children which teacher they like the most, originally, the child is very fond of each teacher, but when the parents ask this question, the child is forced to find an answer from several teachers.
In the process of finding answers, because of their limited ability, children will conduct some wrong condition screening and judgment, and finally select an answer to parents.
Of course, this answer is not positive at all, and it will also make the child think that he likes this teacher the most, thus ignoring other teachers, thus delaying the homework content or emotional relationship of other teachers, which is not conducive to the overall development of children in the kindergarten.
02 Parents want to know how their children are doing in kindergarten, the correct "cliché" technique is like this, hurry up and learn
In fact, to know how your child is doing in kindergarten, you only need to ask three simple questions:
Did you have a good day in kindergarten today?
This question will guide the child to recall the happier things of the day, and think of some ambiguous things in a positive way, so as to stimulate the child's positive emotions, let the child have happy emotions again, and have more expectations for the kindergarten.
Of course, if the child really encounters something very unpleasant in the kindergarten, he will also express it to the parents at this time. In this way, parents can better grasp the things that are worth paying attention to.
How many good friends did you make in kindergarten today?
This is a question to examine whether the child is integrated into the group, if the child is cheerful when talking about this issue, and the small mouth keeps saying the name of the child, then the child is well integrated.
However, if the child hesitates, or looks general, it means that the child is not well integrated, and the parents can appropriately enlighten the child's emotions, guide the child to strengthen the communication ability, teach the child some active communication methods, and let the child better integrate into the small group life of the kindergarten.
What progress do you feel today?
When children are asked such questions, the first thing that comes to mind is whether they have mastered abilities, knowledge, etc. that they did not have before today, which is a question that is very conducive to children to consolidate new skills.
For example, if the child has newly learned to draw, then under the inquiry of the parents, the child will revisit the main points of knowledge, which is equivalent to "review".
However, at this time, the baby's "review" is not only cultural knowledge, but also may be interest, ability and other aspects. This problem is very beneficial to the growth and consolidation of the baby.
03 written at the end
Generally speaking, sending children to qualified kindergartens is not necessary to worry too much, do a good job of home-school communication, often pay attention to children's words and deeds, and then learn the appropriate "cliché" skills, so that parents can more clearly understand the children's campus life.
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