"It's good to have only one child" Some young couples insist on this idea, so they only have one child. However, in old age, the old man's thinking has changed a lot, which leads to their imbalance in their hearts, and it is difficult to live happily.
Parents who do not have a second child, more blessed in their later years? The answer may be different
"Many children and many blessings! Children take pleasure in their knees, enjoy the joy of the world, and when they are old, they still have children around to accompany them, you see how good people's living conditions are! The elderly Sun Da Niang said to her wife that she often cast envious eyes on other people's families.
Sun Da Niang is 76 years old this year, and her wife is 80 years old, and she has given birth to a daughter, who has settled abroad. Sun Da Niang did not expect at that time that her daughter would study abroad, and she did not think that her daughter would bear to let go of the old two and choose to marry another country.
At first, Sun Da Niang was still proud of her daughter and felt that she had provided a very powerful international student. Whenever others praised her daughter for "having a career", Sun Da Niang still showed off and was complacent.
But as time went on, my daughter grew farther and farther away from her, and she didn't go home once in three years. Daughters give birth to babies, take babies, and live after marriage, and Sun Daniang does not know it, and mother-daughter calls are becoming less and less. Having such a daughter, Sun Da Niang was also depressed.
Once, Sun Da Niang was sick and hospitalized, and looking at her wife who was trembling in front of the bed, Sun Da Niang felt remorse: "It is really bitter for you!" I'm sorry, but if I had had one more child when I was younger, maybe you wouldn't have to worry about it! ”
This kind of guilt and regret has made Sun Daniang's health deteriorate, and the life of the elderly couple has become more and more sad. Every day, the old couple looked at other people's families with children and daughters, and there were grandchildren accompanying them, and the taste in their hearts was not to mention how uncomfortable it was.
Many people feel that having only one child, no pressure when young, do not have to worry too much about their children. However, on the day he got old, an only child set up a family and had no time to take care of his parents with his new life. Then, the living conditions of the elderly are likely to be another picture.
One-child families envy two-child families, what are the children of elderly parents busy with?
Many families with only children, when their parents reach their old age, are very envious of families with two children. So what are the only children busy with at this time?
The answer is obvious, children also have their own lives, their own marriages, families, jobs, careers, and even their own economic pressures, psychological pressures, and various burdens. Everyone's life is not easy, everyone is in a hurry. Especially young and middle-aged people, faced with rapid social progress, fierce competition for work, and trivial married life, are mostly busy and have no time to take care of the emotional needs of their parents.
Then turn your head to look at the parents of the only child who are waiting for the child to call and need the child's visit, they are under the pressure of public opinion, they are facing the mental burden, and their hearts are also very troubled, very pitiful. Even, some elderly parents have turned from envying the second-child family to jealousy, beginning to hate to interact with others, closing themselves off inside, and having less and less happiness in their later years.
How should an only child fulfill the obligation of "filial piety" to his parents?
Although every child will grow up, there will be their own circle of life, lifestyle. However, filial piety to parents and spiritual comfort are the obligations of every human child. So, as an only child, how to fulfill the obligation of filial piety? There are roughly three methods:
1 Strive to provide financial help to parents
It is necessary to help parents financially. Parents' lives are inseparable from money, and the only child who pays his parents living expenses on time is not only a manifestation of filial piety, but also a kind of responsibility for taking the initiative to take responsibility. As for whether the parents accept it or not, or whether they will keep the money for their children, this is the parent's business.
2 Try to call your parents as much as possible and spend more time with your parents
As a child, you should communicate with your parents regularly and call home on time. Children are the spiritual sustenance of parents, parents receive news from their children, hear the voice of children, will be very happy. Parents are happy in their hearts, and even if the child is dissatisfied, parents will continue to tolerate it.
3 If you can't do it yourself, you can let someone close to you occasionally do the work
The most important thing is that as an adult child, if you do not have time to accompany your parents, you may wish to obey the obligations of your parents and let your relatives and friends around you do a favor. For example, when you don't have time to go home, you can find relatives and friends to help buy daily necessities for your parents and send a visit and greeting. If it's not convenient, you can also buy something online and let the courier deliver it. Parents who receive their children's hidden love items will naturally rejoice.
Parents of only children can also live well in their old age. In fact, there is no need to envy the joy and harmony of the second-child family, each with its own way of life. Of course, if the conditions allow when you are young, parents have two or three more children, which can fundamentally solve the problem of loneliness in their later years and better prevent the hidden dangers of empty nests in their later years.
What kind of family do you think the elderly will live better in one-child families and two-child families?