Women in this life, no matter what, must have their own job. It doesn't matter what you pay, you can support yourself. It is important to remember that even if you get married, have children, and take care of your parents, you can't give up your job even if your family is busy. Otherwise, you have been living for others all your life, looking at others.
Many girls fantasize about their future married life, have a husband who is very rich and very fond of themselves, have two cute and good children, and an in-laws who never interfere in their own lives and can bring themselves children. As for myself, I only need to be responsible for making food, makeup, going shopping with my girlfriends, and finally showing a circle of friends.
But this is only whimsical, and this fantasy, even in idol dramas, mostly ends in tragedy. Many girls feel that as long as they are beautiful and attractive, their husbands will always love her. Dong Huahua, the ex-wife of former Ali vice president Jiang Fan, is an example.
If you live simply by being attached to your husband and clinging to your family, you will inevitably have to accept the inferior status of the marriage relationship and the doubts of the gods and ghosts all day long. In fact, a high quality of life is not given by others, but earned by oneself. The value of the work is obvious.
Even if the family is rich, girls should have a job of their own. This is not about wages, but determines the equality of personalities in marriage. The root cause of Japan's high rate of infidelity lies in the marriage system in which women are only responsible for taking care of the family and are dependent on their husbands. The end result is that the more girls value the family, the more disconnected they are from society, and the more difficult it is to integrate into society, the more dependent they are on the family.
The end result is that the wife feels that she has worked hard for the family all her life, and every day is very hard, but the husband does not understand her and does not help take care of the children and the family. For her, her husband is no longer a lover, but a garbage that can only get money.
Similarly, husbands feel that their wives only need to take care of the family, and it is very hard for them to work hard in the workplace. The wife not only did not understand herself, but treated her coldly every day. The family is no longer a haven to rest, but another sad place. Many men, even if they travel every day, even if they stay in the car all the time, are not willing to go home.
A lot of people ask "What does marriage bring to a woman?" What does marriage bring to men? "The fact that this is not the fault of marriage, but the lack of understanding and communication, and this is rooted in the inequality of both parties in the marital relationship."
Since two people are in love and form a family together, the family is two people, and the same responsibility for the family is also two people. Any kind of unilateral payment can only be exchanged for the disintegration of the family. As far as housework is concerned, if you cook, I should finish washing, and if you sweep the floor, I should wash my clothes. The house is for two people, and by what one of them does nothing but enjoy. In the same way, children and parents are two people, and naturally they should also be borne by two people.
Responsibilities are common, and the spirit should be equal. The kind of husband kneeling washboard on the Internet, "You are responsible for making money to support the family, I am responsible for beautiful flowers" can only be a love interest in life, but if you really go to superstition, then in reality it will only be a chicken feather.
The reason why women must have a job of their own is that the core lies in separating personal life from family life. In this way, you can have the same workplace topics to discuss and the same troubles to solve with your husband. When you quarrel, you can have your own circle to talk to. When he doesn't give you money, you don't have to go down three or four times, but you can have a guarantee. When the marriage is lost, you can also find self-confidence in your work and rebuild your self-worth.
There are many examples online of women being housewives but being convinced by the family, but that's not the norm in society. Compared with the wife's lifelong efforts, how many good husbands and filial children are there? This is something that can be encountered and unattainable. You can only balance it if you think of it as a windfall, not something you deserve.
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