Introduction to this article: The beginning of the school is imminent, the children are preparing for the beginning of the school, looking forward to the new harvest of the new semester. However, some children are afraid of the start of school. As long as parents mention the matter of going to school, the child either avoids it or appears impatient. What is the reason for this? What should parents do in the face of their children's situation?
The day before yesterday, a neighbor of the author told me that a child in the second year of junior high school suddenly said to her mother, "I plan not to go to school.", and when her mother heard the child say this, she was shocked, and there was some feeling that "the second monk was confused". My neighbor had obviously not experienced such an emergency and seemed a little overwhelmed.
In fact, near the beginning of school, children suddenly retreat and are unwilling to go to school, which is still a relatively common phenomenon. What is the reason for this? As a parent, how do you properly deal with the idea of your child skipping school?
For the child's sudden "escape from the front" phenomenon, for parents is tantamount to "sunny day thunderbolt", some parents may use excessive means for their children, which may not only hurt the child, but also may lead to more intensification of the incident. In this case, parents can do work from the following two aspects to make children "change their minds".
1. Understand the real reason why the child "escaped from the battlefield", so that when doing ideological work on the child, "the right medicine" is prescribed.
There are many reasons why children skip school, and in general, the reasons that really prompt children to choose to "drop out" are nothing more than these situations:
(1) Indulge in a comfortable holiday life
Winter and summer vacations are longer, and children are prone to indulgence. Compared with the school life of children, the contrast between the two is too great. Children at home have no worries about food and clothing, some children even have clothes to reach out, food to open their mouths; at the same time, children live at home, work and rest time is more arbitrary, there is almost no constraint, there is no pressure to learn; the boring of school life makes children more likely to be obsessed with family life. Most of the dropouts caused by this condition come from younger children.
(2) Boredom with school is the most common reason why children choose to skip school
According to the survey, the main reason for children's truancy is to develop disgust with school life. Some children cannot adapt to the hardships of school learning life, and think that school learning life is really unacceptable, thus having the idea of dropping out of school. Some children lose confidence in learning because their academic performance is stagnant or declining. Some children are overwhelmed by the excessive learning pressure brought by society, family and school, and have to choose to skip school.
School-weary children need to attract the attention of society, families, and schools, because external pressures make children lose the motivation and confidence to learn, and also let children lose the opportunity to study.
(3) Obsessed too deeply into the virtual world and unable to extricate oneself
During the winter and summer vacations, parents are busy with work and have no time to carry out refined management of their children, which creates the opportunity for children to indulge in the "virtual world". In the unrestrained virtual world, the child's thoughts are blurred, completely detached from reality, pinning their ideals on the virtual network world, resisting reading and learning, giving up the hard reading life, and skipping school has become a natural choice.
(4) The rebellion of adolescence often leads to children and parents contradicting each other
Children entering adolescence are increasingly having their own opinions and opinions. In the past, parents said that children who are inseparable from each other are easy to contradict the views of parents at this stage, and if parents point fingers at their children as before, children will not only not "obey their words", but will produce rebellious psychology.
After the child enters the rebellious period, parents and children need to change their previous style of doing things, get along with their children on an equal footing, and avoid the occurrence of contradictions and conflicts.
2. Near the beginning of the school, parents should guide their children to enter the campus life mode in advance to relieve their children's psychological pressure.
In general, children who choose to truancy are psychologically burdened with a heavy psychological burden. Therefore, on the basis of finding out the psychological burden of the child, parents carry out targeted psychological counseling for the child to calm the child's anxiety caused by psychological pressure. To this end, the author hereby gives parents and comrades three tricks:
(1) Near the beginning of school, parents should communicate effectively with their children. Whether children who are good at learning or poor in learning, parent-child communication before the start of school is necessary. Before the start of the school, parents should not only plan the plans for the new semester with their children, but also encourage their children, especially for those children with heavy ideological baggage, parents should enhance their children's confidence in the new semester through communication with their children.
The communication and communication between parents and children, it is important to release the psychological pressure of children and put themselves into campus life in a happy mood. During the communication, parents can chat with their children about topics that are easy and of mutual interest, so as to achieve mutual understanding and enhance their children's confidence.
(2) Parents should have a correct expectation of their children. Before the start of the school, parents should have a correct positioning for the development goals of the child's new semester, do not be ambitious, and do not blindly pursue high goals and high standards, which are in line with the actual best of the child, so that the child can accept it and avoid bringing unnecessary psychological pressure to the child, resulting in resistance and fear in the child.
(3) Once the child has the ideological mood of truancy, parents should actively seek help from others while actively carrying out ideological work. Children have the idea of truancy, parents can not avoid this reality, to quickly eliminate this sign in the bud, if allowed to develop, may cause irreparable consequences.
If the communication between parents and children does not work well, parents can seek the assistance of society and teachers, do a good job of children's work in depth and meticulously, and let children understand the significance of reading for personal growth from the mind.
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