Chen Yushu said: "From the moment the marriage is sold, it is destined to be the beginning of the tragedy of love." ”
Since ancient times, traditional Chinese marriage has a particularly standardized and perfect etiquette system, and the Book of Poetry has also mentioned many times that men marry women, such as if the man wants to marry a woman, the etiquette must be prepared, otherwise the woman cannot marry.
Perhaps many people at first glance, only think that this is a very early old yellow calendar, is a feudal thought, but think carefully, it is not difficult to find that this is also a means of protection for women, after all, in ancient times, marrying someone is indeed equivalent to the second reincarnation of women, "Qinse and Ming, raise the eyebrows" marriage, which woman does not want to have it?
Therefore, while complaining about red tape, it is undeniable that cumbersome marriage etiquette is also protecting women's rights and interests.
In contrast, at present, blindly advocating western freedom and "marriage freedom" on the street may not be a bad thing in itself, but the road of taking the essence and abandoning the dross has gone farther and farther, resulting in marriage gradually changing its taste, and I don't know when it will start, the trend of wanting to get married and leaving if you want to divorce is becoming more and more rampant, and even marriage has once become a transaction that some people clearly mark the price.
In fact, in a sense, the current advocacy of "marriage freedom" is more like a misunderstanding of the word freedom, the public advocacy of marriage freedom should never be the so-called "want to tie the knot, want to leave the departure", in the long run, will only let more people treat the marriage as a daughter-in-law, and no binding marriage, how can it last? How much awe can two people who are married have in their hearts?
In reality, there is such a woman, she not only has a high appearance, but also has a high education, but you will find that hidden behind her success is the clear price of several marriages.
Known as the "Su Daji" of the scientific research community
It is undeniable that with the change of the times, the status of women is getting higher and higher, and even in some positions, there has been a replacement of strong women and weak men, so many people have begun to think that the 21st century is the era of women.
From the analysis of big data, such a conclusion is not empty, after all, the thinking of Chinese women is indeed gradually being liberated, and the pattern view is getting bigger and bigger.
Shanghai Jiaotong University once had a high-value female scholar named Qian Lulu, this girl is not only good-looking, but also excellent, and the performance of scientific research is not lost to any male classmates of the same class.
On the school's official website, you can still find Qian Lulu's personal profile, a series of honors are jaw-dropping, from the Caltech bioengineering postdoctoral to the Caltech bioengineering professor, it can be said that this girl's life is very successful, after all, such a resume is indeed beyond the reach of most people.
However, with the astonishment of high achievements, her love life has also received a lot of attention, it is understood that from undergraduate, master's, doctoral to work in the four stages, Qian Lulu has been married four times before and after, and is with different men.
In fact, Qian Lulu is not a real sense of "learning bully", her open-ended life is more like an upgraded flow novel, that year, through the college entrance examination, she was admitted to the Nanjing Railway Medical College, because of good luck, the school later merged with Southeast University, the original humble school instantly became the Southeast University Medical School, and was promoted to a 985 college.
During this period, Qian Lulu met her first husband, and later after graduating from undergraduate, she joined the work, but she still wanted to go to graduate school, and after that, with the support of her husband, she was successfully admitted to Shanghai Jiao Tong University and began to study for a master's degree.
But at this time, Qian Lulu made another brother-in-law, and in contact, the two secretly had a relationship, so Qian Lulu ignored her husband's bitter pleading, chose to divorce, and ran to the arms of her brother, which was her second husband.
At that time, this brother did give Qian Lulu a lot of help, whether it was in life or scientific research, in this way, Qian Lulu successfully continued to pursue a doctorate with the help of the other party and his own efforts.
Perhaps because of a precedent before, after another transfer of affection, Qian Lulu chose to divorce her second husband quickly, came together with a high-achieving student who was also studying for a doctorate, and got married again to get a license, because with the help of the other party, Qian Lulu's "study road" went steadily, and then successfully won a doctorate.
After graduating with a doctorate, Qian Lulu began her postdoctoral studies again, at this time her school was the California Institute of Technology, and there she made a male Winfree with strong scientific research ability, perhaps for some purpose, or perhaps really pleased with each other, Qian Lulu divorced her third husband again, and then married her fourth husband Winfree.
Along the way, Qian Lulu's husband has changed from one term to another, and her social status has also risen, from a senior visiting scholar in bioengineering at the California Institute of Technology in 2012 to a professor of bioengineering at the California Institute of Technology.
Marriage should not be reduced to a transaction
Behind Qian Lulu's gorgeous transformation, more people are sighing, thinking that she is a woman who has ascended to the throne by marriage.
It is undeniable that her success does have the help of marriage, but in a sense, "the mud will not be able to support the wall in the end", in the field of medicine, if there is no research results and ability, it must be not far, in other words, just relying on marriage to go up step by step, can not go long.
In 2017, Qian Lulu, who was still a professor at The California Institute of Technology, published an article in the journal Science introducing a robot with the function of sorting DNA, which shocked the academic community at the time.
From this point of view, Qian Lulu is not an embroidered pillow, but also has her own ability, but for her suspected behavior of relying on marriage, to be honest, it is indeed criticized, after all, in the eyes of mainland traditional culture, marriage is sacred and inviolable, as a transactional marriage, it is still unacceptable.
Someone once said: Marriage is not a business.
If the marriage is used as a springboard to success, it will be sooner or later that the marriage will fall apart.
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