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The master of etiquette William Hansen once said that a person who is good at observation can know what the background of your parents' lives and what your educational background is with only one meal.
During the New Year's holidays, there will be many gatherings between relatives and friends, and if you carefully observe the children present, you can guess the family quality behind them.
The Spring Festival and several relatives gathered, did not expect a child at the table, so that everyone lost their appetite.
Before the food was served, everyone was chatting when they heard the clanging of the bowl. It turned out that 10-year-old Xuan Zai was knocking on the plate with chopsticks, knocking on the bowl, while knocking, while shouting loudly, "Not yet serving, starving, starving to death"
In our hometown, it is believed that only beggars knock on bowls, so it is very taboo to knock on the bowl with chopsticks, and the big New Year's Day, also keep saying "starvation", the old man feels particularly unlucky, and immediately becomes less happy.
This is not to count, after serving, the old man has not moved the chopsticks, Xuan Zai will pick up the dish with chopsticks, eat it in a big mouth; when he encounters the dish he likes to eat, he must put it in front of him, and no one is allowed to turn away; when he encounters a dish that he does not like to eat, Xuan Zai loudly evaluates "who ordered the broken dish, it is difficult to eat and die", which makes the person who orders very embarrassed.
The most terrible thing is that Xuanzai's mother does not think that there is a problem with the child, but just laughs and says "the child is still young and does not understand things."
"Children are small and don't understand things", is this really the case?
Another 6-year-old child at the same table can always wait quietly for meals, eat without noise, and let his mother clip what he wants to eat.
Why are two children so different?
Because of a meal, it is not only the difference between the two children, but also the quality and upbringing of the two families.
The table sees character
I know there is a question: what did you break up with the object for?
One of the high-scorn replied, "Because of a meal." ”
The answerer said that the boyfriend came to the door for the first time, and his parents made a good table. Unexpectedly, at the dinner table, the boyfriend only cared about eating by himself, and his mouth was stuffed with fullness, while constantly adding vegetables to his own bowl. In the face of the girl's mother's specialty dish, the boyfriend directly got started, grabbed the bone and sucked it, and after eating it, he also happily hit a long full burp.
The boyfriend's performance disappointed the whole family. After this meal, the girl proposed to break up.
A friend told me a story about a project that the company once talked about a project and was interested in working together, but because of a meal, they decided to terminate the cooperation with the company.
In the meal, the other party sneezes without taking a tissue to cover it, and the spit stars fly wildly; spitting and blowing the nose do not avoid people, making people lose their appetite; eating not only spits, but also turns over the dishes inside the plate, shaking.
They believe that although the other party has excellent business ability, but my quality is too poor, no education, and I like to turn over vegetables, indicating that this person is actually very selfish, and there will be endless troubles in future cooperation.
The table is educated, and the details are in character.
The writer Lin Qingxuan said in the book "Looking at People's Personality from Food": "From a person's diet, you can see his personality." ”
Above the dinner table, people are often the most relaxed, and these most subconscious actions can easily expose the real side.
On the surface, people with poor table manners do not understand the rules, but in fact, they expose their own character and morality. Etiquette is almost informal, but rude and barbaric, selfish at heart and blind.
And these bad habits at the dinner table, low upbringing will also be exposed in their lives, work, and life in the world.
As the philosopher Locke said: "In the uncultured, bravery becomes rudeness, learning becomes pedantic, wit becomes amusing, simplicity becomes rudeness, and gentleness becomes flattery." ”
One meal is enough to get to know someone.
Children are the fruit of family education
When the child is young, we can say that he does not understand things. When children grow up and become adults, this kind of "ignorance" is already the basic quality rooted in their bones!
I once saw such a sentence: "The most advanced show of wealth is not wearing gold and silver, but you go out with a cultured child." ”
As parents, we must focus on the basic qualities of our children and teach them basic etiquette.
Be a good example
There is a child's confession in the CCTV documentary "Mirror" that is impressive: I am a mirror, and my face can reflect how loyal I am to my parents, whether on the outside or inside, and how similar they are.
The child's upbringing exposes the parenting of the parents, and the quality of the child exposes the quality of the parents.
You ask your child to obey the traffic rules, but you run a red light and change the line at will to overtake;
You ask your child to be civilized and polite, but you export it dirty and ignore any public order;
You ask the child to respect the teacher, but you scold the leader in front of the child and say bad things about your colleagues.
Parents are a mirror of the child, if you just blindly ask the child to be educated, and never restrain yourself, no amount of discipline is in vain.
Attention to detail and timely correction
Educationist Yin Jianli once said: "Education is all in the details, and every seemingly small good and bad detail may have a huge impact on children." ”
In the quiet movie theater, several children chase and fight in front of the screen, and parents only care about watching movies by themselves and do not ask questions about their children.
The little boy held a wooden stick and beat the passing tourists one by one, and the parents did not stop it, and they thought it was funny.
In the face of children taking the subway to evade tickets, parents even praised him as a "little clever".
If the parents do not correct the mistakes when the child makes mistakes, it is equivalent to agreeing and encouraging in disguise.
Children not only think that they are not wrong, but will become more serious, and even eager to try other wrong things. Eventually glide all the way down the wrong path and step into the abyss.
Ying Cai'er once said that she was very strict about her son's table manners education. In this regard, Zhu Dan did not think so, thinking that Ying Cai'er had set too many rules for the child.
In the face of Zhu Dan's questioning, Ying Cai'er unceremoniously shrugged back: "This is not a lot of rules, this is basic etiquette." ”
Accumulate less into more, water droplets stone wear.
A person's upbringing is accumulated from the small things in life, bit by bit.
Guo Degang once said: "Parents in the world, poor and rich, are not as good as parenting." ”
Feng Yiyin said in "Remembering Father Feng Zikai": "Born and raised, raised and taught." Parenting is the best gift that a family can pass on to its children. ”
Good upbringing is the paving stone of a child's life; rude quality is a stumbling block on the road of a child's life.
Do you want your child to go smoothly in the future or stumble? The decision is in the hands of the parents!