As the old saying goes, "If you don't filial piety to your parents, it is useless to worship the Buddha." ”
No matter when and where, filial piety is a blessed person, so parents are the greatest blessing in the world, and treating parents well is the greatest blessing for a person.
The Four Treatises on the Guan Jing record this story:
During the famine, his majesty went out to beg for food, but for several days he returned empty-handed.
One day, a monk met His Holiness and asked him, "Venerable, have you gotten food?" His Holiness replied, "No." ”
When the monks heard this, they were very sad, so they sold their three garments, bought a bowl of fasting rice, and gave them to His Holiness.
After learning the origin of this bowl of fasting rice, His Holiness said to the bhikkhus, "The three garments of the monks are extremely valuable. I have received your kindness, but I cannot bear this bowl of rice. ”
The monk hurriedly said, "You are the blessed land of the Three Realms, you cannot absorb it, and who else can absorb it?" ”
His Holiness asked the monks, "Do you have parents?" ”
The monk said, "Yes." ”
His Holiness said, "Take this meal and feed your parents." ”
The monk said, "You can't bear it, so how can my parents qualify?" ”
His Holiness replied, "Your parents can bear it, they gave birth to you, and they have a great grace for you." ”
Yes, there are too many things that our parents have given us in this life, but after we start a family, how much feedback have we given to our parents?
We are always accustomed to criticizing the various bad things of our parents, but we forget that our parents in this life are the people we should most honor and repay.
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Respect your parents and don't give them a look.
I think many people can buy a lot of gifts for their parents to visit them during the New Year's Festival, but it is difficult to respect their parents all the time.
When parents don't pay attention to doing something wrong, we will feel unhappy and sometimes put a face on our parents. Maybe you don't think there's anything wrong with you doing this, but you know what? As long as you have a slight unhappy expression in front of your parents, it will make them fidgety and sad.
I remember when my daughter first learned to walk, it was my mother who was at home to help me carry it.
Once I worked overtime very late, the mood was not very good that day, and when I came home and saw that my daughter had a bruised mark on her cheek, I asked my mother what was wrong.
The mother said that the daughter walked unsteadily and fell and touched her face.
At that time, I didn't know why, the fire in my heart suddenly rose, and yelled at my mother: "She has just learned to walk, why don't you look after her, what if something falls out?" ”
To tell the truth, as soon as I said it, I regretted it, because I saw my mother bow her head like a child who had done something wrong, her face was full of sadness and loss, and her mouth was murmuring: "I am not good, I did not look favorably on Nini, next time I will pay attention." ”
Seeing my mother's helpless look, I was very ashamed, and hurriedly said to my mother: "Mom, I am a little anxious to speak, this can not blame you, children learn to walk where there is no wrestling, you don't get angry with me." ”
After listening, the mother said: "How can a mother be angry with her own child, it is true that I am not optimistic." ”
Until now, I still remember the cramped and aggrieved look in my mother's eyes, and I really regret my behavior of getting angry with her that day, although I apologized afterwards, but I still hurt my mother in the end.
The writer Hu Shi once wrote in the article "My Mother": "The most disgusting thing in the world is like an angry face, and it is worse to show the angry face to relatives than to scold." ”
I hope that each of us can remember this sentence, and not putting on angry faces in front of our parents is actually the best respect for our parents.
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Learn to be grateful for the love of your parents and cherish the love of your parents.
Talking with friends that day, talking about the relationship between parents and children, he said to me with great emotion: "As parents, we will give all our love and all the good to the children, but at the same time, as children, we will not necessarily give back all the love and all the good to the parents." ”
My friend is right, it is true, you can willingly help your child urinate when he is young, but you may not necessarily serve your parents when they are old and unable to take care of themselves.
We also always take the love of our parents as a matter of course, thinking that this is the responsibility of our parents, but we forget to be grateful and cherish their love for us.
Just like my cousin, when he got married and had his first child, his mother came from his rural hometown to help them with the child, and he always brought the child to kindergarten, and in the years when he took the child, the old man took all the housework in the family, which was really hard work.
But when the old man was ready to go back to his hometown, the two little people did not even have a word of thanks and retention, but wanted to let her go quickly, the old man said that he wanted to go back to his hometown, and his cousin booked a train ticket for the night.
Later, the cousin gave birth to a second child, called his mother to help them with the second child, his mother refused, saying that he was old, his hands and feet were not flexible, and he could not take the child.
The cousin lost his temper on the phone, saying that his mother was too cold-blooded, unwilling to help his son, etc., and his mother said on the phone: "I raised you as an adult, I have fulfilled my obligations, I am not obliged to help you with your children, I am born myself." ”
Man, that's it, taking the love of his parents for granted, but never thinking about how to love his parents, and even complaining that his parents did not do well, turning a blind eye to their efforts for themselves.
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We often say that filial piety comes first, but in fact, filial piety to parents is a person's greatest good deed.
Each of us will grow up and become parents, and every parent will grow old one day.
So, when your parents become "old children", please give them a little more patience and love as they did with you.
Because the parents are there, it is the home, the family is harmonious, and only then will it be blessed.
Finally, please remember to go home often when you have time, when we were children, our parents grew up with us, and now let's accompany our parents to grow old.