Why is Gu Ailing difficult to copy? These six points replicated her path of education.
The best part of her parenting is that she is not required to be a successful person, but to be a better version of herself. Many people only see her grow into a genius, but I believe that as long as she is independent and confident and has ideas, even her mother will be proud of her, which is what many Chinese parents lack the most.
Author Feng Yuhui, President of Central China Urban Research Institute
I heard that many parents ran to pick up which cram schools Ailing had attended, and those children were so pitiful. Gu Ailing is full of love for the world, full of passion for his love, and full of enthusiasm for his passion. The baby that is chicken out has nothing, it is better to die than to live, the specialty is wasted, and the hobby is to kill time. Then the child can say so with the parents, you don't look at how good Gu Ailing's parents are, her mother Stanford + Peking University graduates, people's genes are good, Gu Yan's love for Gu Ailing is full, do not ask for returns to pay, do not give up the pursuit of personal life value, she said: You don't have to thank me (cultivate you), I want to thank you (play with me), just go back.
Lack of love and high-pressure education can not cultivate such a strong sense of self-confidence and self-identity as a person, her self-identity is not based on her achievements, but in turn, her ascent is based on a sense of self-identity, is the embodiment of her full acceptance of her own hobbies under the embodiment of her own hobbies, her mother must be a very powerful educator!
Ai Ling said that the biggest secret of her success in doing things is concentration, when to do something, single-mindedly do that thing, will also set a reward mechanism for herself. This is obviously the most successful side of the parent's acquired education, and her self-confidence, I found that when I am confident, the efficiency of doing things will really improve, and the mind will be much clearer. Self-confidence is a normal psychological state, Puxin has a certain degree of problems with your own cognition, the real annoying Puxin is actually an excessive narcissism (everyone should have a certain degree of narcissism in a normal state), but healthy children will not be overly narcissistic. The formation of men and women is a blind identification with themselves that have not been clearly planned. Gu is actually like a psychological cue in some way, imprinted in the subconscious. It is to know that they are such people, so they will continue to move closer to this goal. Like the Law of Attraction, you believe that you will become that kind of person, and the gods and the universe will be touched by your efforts and come to your aid.
In addition to her talent, she has also made extraordinary efforts, from a young age, even if she had a high fever training before the competition and a concussion, she insisted on completing the competition, and her mother advised her not to participate in her own to insist that her mother would respect her choice. She said that what she did was what she wanted to do, the training plan was almost all made by herself, and she also said that she was tired physically and mentally tired, and that physical tiredness in doing things she liked was nothing, so it was more useful for children to have a sense of autonomy than to be a chicken baby all the time.
Remember a sentence that Gu Ailing's mother said, "Ailing does not necessarily have to be stanford, but to find what you have always wanted to do and continue to do it", there is a classmate who is a negative example, living under the views of his parents since he was a child, he does not dare to have a little relaxation in learning, and his heart is particularly serious in learning, until the spirit of graduation is very tight. After the failure of the examination, the whole talent relaxed and began to think about himself, found that he knew nothing about himself, and he was still depressed or even extremely tired of learning for more than a year. In high school, I heard a girl with particularly good grades say to me, "I envy you guys who have mediocre grades, but who can experience more things, more fun, and I'm just constantly learning. I hope you want to open something I carefully suggest: maybe you just need to liberate a thought: there are many people in the world who are stronger than me, and the most important thing is not to compare, but to find the goal you really want, even if this goal is also to go to school, or to make a lot of money, there is no problem. The point is to see what you really want in your heart, which is really hard, but I believe that you can do it with your friends.
Please ensure that the child sleeps for 10 hours, at least during the primary school period, it is really difficult from the current situation, so parents need to have enough patience and skills to plan time and train children's perception of time, create a sleeping environment for children, and cultivate the ability to fall asleep even if it is not too quiet.
Widowhood parenting is becoming a social problem, and many parents in families with both parents ignore their children. This division of labor according to gender is actually the result of gender stereotypes. Personality is the characteristics of people, everyone has their own relatively stable personality, the formation of personality and biological gender differences have no correlation, but the society artificially built up a gender stereotype system, this stereotype allows everyone to associate human personality traits with gender. Words such as gentleness, sensuality, strength, rationality, etc. are just words to describe people, and have nothing to do with gender. Thus emphasizing the different traits of mothers and fathers is the influence of gender stereotypes.