After learning that their children are being bullied, 1,000 parents may have 1,000 solutions. Low-level parents may swallow their anger and just think about big things and small things, say to their children that it is okay, and let the children choose to escape. Other parents may be very angry and choose to let their children fight back or seek justice for their children themselves.
The above two parental practices are actually very common, but this is only the practice of low-level parents. The first type of parent makes the child swallow his anger, not only can not let the child no longer be bullied, but there is a greater chance that the child will be bullied again. Because under this kind of parental education, children often form a flattering personality, become timid and afraid of things, and are cowardly and inferior.
The second type of parent chooses to let their children fight back, which is often impractical. You must know that if the child can really fight back with his own ability, then he will not cry and cry and ask his parents for help.
If parents choose to help their children get justice and help their children fight back, such a practice may not be conducive to the unity between children, but will escalate the contradiction between children into a contradiction between two families. Not only that, but it may also allow children to learn to use violent means to solve problems.
What do advanced parents do when they learn that their children have been bullied?
In the eyes of many parents, when they learn that their children have been bullied, they will be very angry, and the first thing they think of is to let the children fight back, or to teach the bad child a lesson and get justice for the children. But if parents do this, it is a bit of a distraction, although it may be fair for the child, but it is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child. Know that we can't protect our children for a lifetime, and children will eventually grow up and eventually need to face these things independently.
In the eyes of senior parents, when they learn that their children are being bullied, the first thing that comes to mind is to distinguish whether the child is bullied or the contradiction between classmates, and there is an essential difference between the two. The former can be said to be a contradiction between the enemy and ourselves; the latter is only an internal contradiction.
If it is the former, then the parents are just fighting back for the child, or seeking justice, which is okay once or twice, but it does not necessarily solve the problem. Parents should take the initiative to contact teachers, seek help from the school, and work together in many ways so that they can better solve problems.
And if it is the latter, then the contradiction is not fierce. It was just an occasional friction between classmates. Although the child is crying to the parents about being beaten, it may be that the child does not have much resentment at this time, but just wants to cry to the parents, and may have forgiven the other party in the child's heart.
If the parents do not distinguish clearly, and are eager to help the child get justice, this may not only intensify the contradiction between the two families, but also may make the child lose a friend. You know, some childhood friends may not fight or know each other.
In fact, at this time, the first thing parents should do is to soothe the child's emotions and ask the child's true thoughts. Maybe some of the ideas in the child's mind still have some extremes and wrongs. But parents should not rush to deny and oppose, but should first let the children vent their emotions.
Wait for the child to calm down, then say good words and comfort, analyze the pros and cons, and let the child choose for himself. I believe that at this time, the child will be able to make the right decision. All we need to do is approve of the child's decision and encourage the child to solve the problem on his own. In this way, we can cultivate the style of "children do not cause trouble, nor are they afraid of things".
How do high-ranking parents make their children people they can't afford to mess with?
Cultivate children's courageous and persevering character
Educating children to have good conduct is to let children not bully others, but our education of children not to bully others does not mean that we are willing to let our children be bullied by others. At this time, we also need to cultivate children's brave and persevering character. In the face of bullying, be able to bravely resist.
For example, when we accompany our children in our daily lives, we can play games with our children, and parents play the bad guys, so as to understand the child's reaction to being bullied, so as to guide and educate the child, how to respond and resist correctly.
In addition, we can often take our children on adventures. For example, some sports such as mountaineering, adventure, and exploring haunted houses make children more courageous and strong.
Let your child learn to refuse
In many cases, parents like obedient and well-behaved children, and when cultivating children, they also cultivate children in this direction, but many times parents cultivate children to be obedient and well-behaved at the same time, but let the children become flattering personalities, and do not know how to refuse and resist. When children encounter bullying and bullying, they will only silently endure, or choose to escape, which is what parents do not want to see!
Therefore, when educating children, we also need to let children learn to refuse and resist. In ordinary days, we should respect the child's choice, do not be too calculating, and blindly let the child obey himself and obey his parents.
We should respect the child's decision, when others want to share their children's toys, we can not directly make decisions for the child, but should seek the child's opinion, if the child is not willing to share, we better not be too reluctant and harsh. Don't morally kidnap children, think that children don't know how to share, say that children are too selfish, know that toys are children, children have the right to dominate and decide.
In this way, when the child is bullied or robbed of his own toys, he can bravely resist and say no loudly.
Encourage your child to make more friends
Children who are easily bullied in school are often children who are withdrawn and taciturn. Because such children often have fewer friends around them, they are more likely to be targeted by some bad children and become the target of bullying.
And those children who are cheerful, sociable, and like to make friends are generally rarely bullied. Because even if someone really wants to bully them, he will weigh up his friends around him, after all, if you want to bully him, you are not facing one person, but a group.
Therefore, if you want your children not to be bullied, then exercise and improve your children's social skills, so that your children have good popularity, which will also become an important guarantee that your children will not be bullied. And even if you are bullied, you will have a lot of friends to help.
Cultivate the habit of exercising your child
As the saying goes, playing iron also needs to be hard. If we have a good physique, even if someone wants to bully us, we need to weigh whether we can beat us.
Therefore, from an early age, parents should take their children out to exercise and strengthen physical exercise, which can not only promote physical development, but also enhance the physical fitness of children, so that children grow stronger, so that it is easier to let children be bullied less.
Help your child build awareness of anti-bullying
Children who are easily bullied in school are often a type of child who is taught by their parents to be well-behaved babies. This kind of child is very well-behaved and obedient in his daily life, but he lacks the sense of resistance. Even if you are bullied and robbed of your toys, you can only watch, do not know how to resist, and do not know how to ask for help. More often than not, just silently endure. Because from an early age, parents may teach their children to be humble, tolerant, and not to argue, but they do not teach children how to resist and how to avoid being bullied.
If we want to avoid children being bullied, then first of all, we must let children have anti-bullying awareness. I recommend this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying" picture book to everyone!
"Children's Anti-Bullying" picture book is suitable for children aged 2 to 8 years old, this set of books can better help us identify what is bullying. The book tells us that bullying is not only being beaten and scolded, but also being directed, ridiculed, or nicknamed, and so on.
"Children's Anti-Bullying" picture book this set of 8 volumes, including "I don't like to be bullied", "I don't like to be teased", "I don't like to be excluded", "I don't like to be nicknamed" and so on. A total of 8 different story themes are included to improve children's awareness of self-protection and anti-bullying from all aspects.
The picture books of "Children's Anti-Bullying" are based on stories from school life. These stories are close to life and drawn from real schools. Children may encounter, can better let the child recognize, let the child feel in the situation, and teach the child how to deal with it correctly to avoid being hurt.
Each story in the "Children's Anti-Bullying" picture book has a warm little tip behind it to help children learn while watching. The illustrations in this set of books are original illustrations, which are in line with children's aesthetics and can stimulate children's interest in reading. The paper of the book is also the original pulp, which is safe and odorless.
If you also have a 2-8-year-old baby, then you may wish to accompany your child to see the "Children's Anti-Bullying" picture book, so as to be prepared and let the child grow up healthy and happy.
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Whether children will be bullied at school often has a lot to do with their parents' vision and pattern. As parents, we don't want our children to be bullied, so we need to learn how high-level parents can't afford to mess with their babies. I also hope that every parent can calmly think about it when they hear that the baby is being bullied, not just unilaterally thinking of seeking justice for the child, but from an objective and calm analysis, how to do it so that the baby does not cause trouble, nor is she afraid of things, so as to better let the child avoid being bullied.