Do a good job of cheerling for kids

Everyone who is a doctor must keep at least two sentences in mind:

One sentence is: I believe that in this world, there will be diseases that doctors cannot cure.

Another sentence is: believe that every patient has the inherent potential for self-recovery.

In psychotherapy, the humanistic scholar Rogers believes that everyone has an inherent potential for self-improvement within the psychology, and psychotherapy is nothing more than promoting the self-realization of that potential.

The therapist only needs to provide a therapeutic relationship and situation that is conducive to the client's growth, and the client can gradually restore his or her mental health with the help of such therapeutic relationships and situations.

So, Rogers would insist that a good therapeutic relationship is not only necessary, but sufficient, for curing mental illness. ”

Excerpted from an article by a psychiatrist doctor, because it is very professional, it is carefully read many times, one small paragraph after another.

As parents with mental illness, the cost of psychological counseling is very expensive, and we have no say in whether the counselor has the heart and ability to establish a good therapeutic relationship and situation with the child.

Then, we parents can only do our part as well as we can.

There is a counselor who encourages parents to be their child's exclusive counselor. Because even a professional psychological counselor, once a week for fifty minutes of counseling, can not meet the child's twenty-four hours, at any time of the psychological needs.

Therefore, it is very necessary for parents to learn to grow and change, adjust cognition, improve themselves, maintain emotional stability, and be a good needle in the haystack.

Of course, as non-professionals, parents who shoulder the responsibility of supporting their families cannot quickly grow into real counselors. However, it can maintain emotional stability, not be biased by the child, can carry the child's emotions to the maximum capacity, and provide good guidance. This must be the only way to recover, there is no other shortcut.

Before finding a better way to cope, it is a good idea for parents to smile and shut up, live themselves, and love their children unconditionally.

Unconditional love is not coddling, it means equality, respect, understanding, acceptance, compassion, empathy, empathy.

Unconditional love is true love, in order to establish a harmonious parent-child relationship. Only when there is a good relationship can there be a good leadership.

Let the child like you, willing to stay with you, willing to grow up to be what you are, this is actually the right direction for parents to work hard.