For some men, their view of love is that they would rather suffer pain in a relationship than cherish a relationship.
Because such men are born with a sense of narcissism, they feel that they are the center of the world, they are the protagonist, with the aura of the protagonist, and all the women will revolve around themselves.
But they forget that the core of love is responsibility and responsibility.
It is this psychological drive that makes them indulge in a period of relationship and cannot extricate themselves.
Feelings experience more, will become indifferent, because, they seem to be used to the division and integration, accustomed to the way of dealing with feelings, in the final analysis, is not to like to be responsible, some gamers attitude.
Today, I want to talk about a man who wanders between his ex-wife and his current lover, lives a very tired life, and in the end, in exchange for the blank eyes of everyone, in the end, he can only find someone to live with.
In his words, it was his attitude towards the human world and the psychology of playing with feelings that ruined him.
Let's give this man a pseudonym called Lao Liu!
His ex-wife was a very beautiful woman, and he had worked hard to pursue her.
After Lao Liu's unremitting efforts, he finally embraced the beauty and returned.
However, the life after marriage has left him in a trance, because his wife is too beautiful, outgoing, and has a lot of friends of the opposite sex, which makes him unable to accept it.
After having children, he found that his wife had changed, became more and more indifferent to him, and even often ran outside.
Finally, he discovers the fact that his wife is cheating, and the machismo is determined to divorce him.
The wife was reluctant to divorce at first, but at his insistence, the two went through divorce procedures.
After the divorce, Lao Liu's personality changed drastically, and he began to play the human world.
He has never refused to give the woman who takes the initiative to give hugs, and he is even more flattering to the woman he looks up to.
Because of this psychology, he has a lot of women around him.
After a period of playing in the human world, he was a little tired, so he randomly chose a woman as his wife.
However, life after marriage will not be satisfactory.
The current wife is not as beautiful as her ex-wife, nor is she as bright as the flowers and plants in life.
He forgot his original intention again, and soon had another lover.
But he was tired of the pain of divorce, and he didn't want to divorce, and his wife was also single-minded about him, so he tangled up, didn't want to divorce, and didn't want his lover to leave, and could only wander between two women.
At this time, the ex-wife entered his life again, because of the relationship between the children, there are still contacts between them, the ex-wife is very regretful after the divorce, so he wants to continue the frontier, but he, it is impossible to divorce, so he is in such a relationship deeper and deeper.
Lao Liu's abnormal behavior was finally discovered by his wife, who was heartbroken, and did not expect that he actually had contact with his ex-wife, and there were lovers outside, this fact she really could not accept, so she took the initiative to file for divorce.
Old Liu did not want to divorce, but his wife's firmness made him lose money, and in the end, he went out of the house and became a lonely man again.
Old Liu thought that he was divorced and had a lover to take over, but he was no longer the same person he was then, the divorce made him lose his property, and the years made him old.
Therefore, the lover also left him, because in his body, there is no oil and water to dig, and the ex-wife has also severed her relationship with him and no longer pays attention to him, because even if she was wrong at the beginning, but in the face of such an old Liu now, she can no longer go back to the past.
Old Liu was physically and mentally exhausted and embattled, and he knew that all this was his own fault, and if it were not for his casual feelings, there would be no such result.
He regretted it, but it was a fait accompli and could not be recovered.
Through lao Liu's story, let us understand several truths.
First, love is not a game, be responsible.
As a man, you can't be blindly confident, so confident that you think that you are the center of the world, that you are the protagonist, and that everyone has to revolve around you.
Love is not a game, to have a sense of responsibility, men without a sense of responsibility, will eventually end up being despised by others.
Although he did the right thing about his ex-wife's mistake, the next thing was that he was repeating the mistakes made by his ex-wife, and he not only did not learn the lesson of the failure of the last marriage, but played with feelings and let himself fall into a situation of no return.
It can also be said that he takes himself too seriously, don't you know that others are also people, everyone is the subject, and no one will pay for their mistakes.
Therefore, love is not a game, no matter which relationship, you have to pay the responsibility, your behavior, will affect the lives of other people.
Therefore, feelings should not be blasphemed, do not let mistakes continue repeatedly, so that you can live a good life.
Second, don't attribute every relationship to fate, because fate is also born from the heart.
Lao Liu's mistake is that he always thinks that he has a woman's relationship, and after the divorce, he indulges himself and makes himself think that he is very feminine.
Thinking that your fate will continue to continue, in fact, every relationship will hurt a person, unless this person is as indifferent as you.
You have to know that everyone has a scale in their heart, and how you treat others, others will treat you the same.
Therefore, when you have experienced a failed marriage, the most important thing is to think hard, continue to grow up, mature, and summarize mistakes when a relationship is made to make the marriage more stable.
And Lao Liu's mistake is that after the divorce, not only did not summarize the mistakes, but also indulged himself, repeating the mistakes of his ex-wife, thinking that he had opened a new life, letting himself fall into a period of feelings, unable to extricate himself, and finally, finally ruined himself.
In fact, every fate is not necessarily beautiful, it may also be a poison that makes you irreparable.
Therefore, about love should conform to the law of love, only single-minded feelings, will harvest a better future.
Sum up:
Love is not a child's play, every relationship is worth cherishing, if you have a painful past, then be sure to sum up the past and live a good future, rather than indulging yourself, letting yourself lose your way and forget yourself.
Marriage is fragile, and your mentality and attitude towards marriage will doom your marriage to resolution.
Sometimes, there is a need for tolerance and understanding in marriage, and sometimes marriage needs to be maintained.
Let's not let our feelings repeat our mistakes in a vicious circle, then, it will only make your life full of suspense and danger.
Some marriages are so fragile that a single thought can lead to a bitter ending. Divorce is not a child's play at any time. Even if you dare to give up marriage, when you talk about love in the future, you will inevitably lose that confidence.
Plain and plain is also called happiness, and when some people understand it, they are no longer happy. This is called marriage ups and downs, love and hate are impermanent, and it is good to accept.