Men do not know how to keep their distance from the opposite sex, and then he blames you for thinking too much, what to do? Come to Teacher Hu for help from female friends who ask for such problems, I know that you especially hope that the teacher can scold men with you, but scolding can't solve the problem, and now it is we women who are tormented by this matter, right? So the next three things you must practice.
1. Build self-confidence
Leaving aside the man's problem, let's take a look at ourselves, is it that he and his female colleagues talked two more sentences on the mobile phone, and they felt that they couldn't stand it? When eating, a man hands a piece of paper or a dish to other women at the same table, and you are very angry? That is to say, these behaviors are affecting you, stimulating you, and you feel that he is close to others, which is equivalent to me not being important, and I am not the only one in his heart. Right?
You are completely unsure of your position in the hearts of men, and you are not sure whether your feelings can withstand these temptations? You're afraid that men will dump you anytime and anywhere because of other women. On the surface, I don't believe in men, but in fact I don't believe in myself.
Then you tell me, if you are not attractive, how did he marry you? How come he wasn't attracted to the temptations outside and still lived with you? Right? So it's useless for you to solve the man or solve the temptation outside, you have to untie that knot in your own heart.
Where does people's self-confidence come from? Recognize yourself, find your own strengths, looks, body, temperament, network resources, work ability or deal with people. Then objectively look at which aspect of yourself is weaker? For example, not very good at communication, not very humorous, more direct personality is not very considerate, etc., transfer the external attention to themselves, and establish their own aura.
At this time, if you look at the man's behavior again, you will know that this is his confusion, he is breaking the rules of marriage, it is his problem, and it has nothing to do with you. You haven't made a mistake, so why should you deny yourself because of his mistake, right?
2. Effective communication
Men make mistakes themselves, and in turn say that you are stingy and ignorant, on the one hand, men fool you in order to escape punishment, on the other hand, it also shows that your expression does not grasp the point. In the end, this thing is jealousy, who doesn't want to be the only one in their partner's heart, right? So say something like, "I don't like it, it makes me feel like I don't matter in your heart, you're undermining the trust between us."
To be clear, don't feel embarrassed and then throw a tantrum around the bend through something else, it's useless. The more directly you talk about it, the more you can tear apart the little cleverness that men want to hide. Do you think about why a child's expression is always very moving? If you kill him, he will say, "My mother yelled at me, so my mother doesn't love me anymore", and the adult's heart will melt immediately, right?
3. Express your feelings
How does it feel? "I care a lot about what you do to me, and the reason I don't like you doing this is because you're important in my heart. As partners, we should give emotionally equally. "You have to tell the other person explicitly about this.
Don't fall short on this principle, the man coaxed a few words, buy you a bag to empty the shopping cart and you will compromise. No, the principle can not be lost, the tighter your bottom line is guarded, the higher the cost of a man making mistakes, and he will not repeatedly tempt and challenge you. Don't let him feel that your emotions are only temporary, you have to let him understand that what I cherish most is feelings, and what I care about most is that you give back equally, and this line cannot be moved.