A child's childhood experience will run through the growth of a lifetime.
There is a saying in the anecdote: three years old looks big, seven years old looks old. This is also a theoretical basis for many elderly people to judge children. Smart and sensible children when they are young will not be bad when they grow up.
Although it is not excluded that the child will be affected by the environment and take a crooked road in the process of growing up, as long as the essence of the child is determined to be good, the relevant guidance can be reversed!
Three years old to see big, seven years old to see old! Before the child is 7 years old, smart parents will pay more attention to these 3 things
Bring your own children, even if you are busy at work, you must take time to accompany them
Today's young couples raise children with the concept of mothers and grandmothers. When the child is weaned, he will give the child full authority to the grandmother, and he will fight for his career in the name of himself.
But parents don't care from beginning to end, and when their children go to school at the age of 7, they are taken to their side for discipline. I feel that it is not too late to make up for the children now.
In fact, this idea is very wrong, most of the children who have not lived with their parents since childhood will always have friction and estrangement with their parents in their daily interactions.
Mainly because their childhood memories do not have the presence of their parents, they feel that their parents do not love themselves. Even when he returned to his parents, he still felt that his parents were not his "relatives".
In the process of slow contact, although many children can break the original defenses, the premise is that the parents are patient enough and have a scientific guidance method. Successful parents are also rare and rare.
Reject the child's unreasonable demands and resolutely do not spoil
As long as the child and the elder contact, the next generation of relatives will tend to the elders doting on the child, holding it in the palm of their hands for fear of falling, and holding it in their mouths for fear of melting. I don't know how to express my emotions, but I can only put them into action to meet all the needs of my child.
At this time, parents must intervene to prevent this behavior of the elders. On the one hand, it is to cultivate a sense of rules for children, and all behaviors must conform to standards.
On the other hand, it is necessary to let the child have some scruples and cannot blindly do whatever he wants. Once you develop such a bad disease, when facing the society, only you are hurt.
In addition, the sensitive period of children's rules is around the age of 3, and parents seize this opportunity to formulate relevant life rules for their children to make them more polite.
Break the sense of superiority of parents and create a fair atmosphere
In traditional thinking, parents are the image of the high, can not joke with children casually, when adults talk, children are not allowed to interject... There are many, many more similar "unreasonable demands."
The reason why this situation occurs is because parents do not respect their children, feel that their children are their own belongings, and everything must be arranged by parents.
But in fact, children who grow up in this family environment are more likely to develop bad habits. At the beginning of the temptation, parents can not help them to clarify the direction, naturally will take a detour.
The right thing to do is to be friends with your child. Put down the so-called parental shelf and consider the problem from the child's point of view. Give your child a chance to justify and surround them with love.
Once children are affirmed and respected in the family, they will not be ashamed to admit it even if they make a mistake. They even thank them for the mistakes they made and give themselves another chance to improve.
Family education and schooling play a pivotal role
Family education is mainly focused on life, and school education is mainly focused on academics, and the two are inseparable.
After many parents send their children to school, they will feel that the teacher will be fully responsible for all the children, not only to learn this unilateral, but also to take into account the behavior habits.
Therefore, when the child returns home, he completely ignores the child's behavior, even if he is aware of the problem with the child, he also comforts himself that he has a teacher to help!
Although such parents are full of trust in the teacher, they fully recognize the teacher's educational behavior. But for children, the best educational opportunity is missed. If the child can be stopped immediately, it may eradicate the child's bad behavior.
The most correct way is to keep in touch with the teacher, lead by example at home, and pay attention to it immediately after encountering problems, even if it is your own worries in the end, do not leave regrets.
Today's Topic:
What do you think is the focus of your child's education before the age of 7? When your kids go to school, will you become a hands-off treasurer who doesn't care about anything? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!