Pay attention to the diary of the fish parenting do not get lost on the way to parenting
Do you understand that children raised by irritable parents have five characteristics? Parents are the child's first teacher, the parent's words and deeds are crucial to the child's influence, especially when the child is young, if the parents are not rational education, but emotional education will guide the child in the wrong direction.
A heart of inferiority constantly apologizes, because the parents' temper is very bad, the child is always worried about triggering the parents' fiery temper, so the child who grows up in such a family becomes cautious.
The second forms a flattering personality, especially afraid of disappointing people. Such a child, ah, always try to please others, take care of other people's feelings, consider the needs of others, no self, live very tired.
Three feel that other people's behavior always has a deep meaning, think too much, because parents are always emotionally out of control, then the child will think, Oh, today I have something to make my father angry, make my mother unhappy, then fall into a deep anxiety, if it is someone else's unintentional talk, a subtle action will also cause him to be alert, he is there to secretly speculate, what does this imply me, imagination.
The four inner fragility becomes a glass heart, because the emotionally unstable father himself is a glass heart, and when he encounters a small matter, he is emotionally unstable, and at first glance, under the influence of this emotion, the child will also become sensitive and fragile, unable to control his emotions.
Five insecurity feel that they are a supporting role in life, the child's sense of security is given by the parents, if the parents are emotional, hurtful, how do I raise you so many things, I already know that it is good not to give birth to you, then the child, how to talk about happiness, how to talk about security? In the face of bad-tempered parents, children cannot live according to their own wishes, and in the long run, they eventually live as a supporting role in life.
Lucky people are healed by childhood, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives. For the sake of children's irritable parents, please control your emotions.
I'm a fish, like to pay attention, to understand more children, less anxiety