The ancients said: "People are not filial and have no righteousness", if a person is not even filial to his elders, then how can he be good to others?
In the past, when women chose a husband, they would put filial piety first, and if they found that the blind date was an unfaithful and filial piety person, even if he was a cousin, he would not marry him.
There are clouds in the ancient classic book "Filial Piety":
"Those who love their relatives do not dare to be evil to others; those who respect relatives do not dare to be slower than others"
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This sentence tells a sincere and filial person, not only filial piety to his parents, but also push one or the other to treat others sincerely.
As the saying goes, "Children are not filial piety, there is no blessing", and there is the first half of the sentence, and those who are elders may wish to take it as a warning
, the experience of the ancients
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Children are not filial piety, and there is no blessing
Everyone knows the truth of "filial piety comes first", in fact, this sentence has the next sentence "On the heart regardless of the trace, on the traces of the poor family without filial piety."
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Many people believe that filial piety to parents means letting parents live in buildings, eat big meals, and wear new clothes
As everyone knows, this is only one aspect of filial piety, if the children do not have enough respect and patience for their parents, then even if they eat a full table, they will not be happy.
Children are the heart of parents, so from childhood to adulthood will be held by parents in the palm of their hands, which leads to many children being spoiled, they only care about their own ideas and preferences, never care about the feelings of their parents. Even if they call out to their parents at every turn, they will accuse their parents of the slightest unhappiness, and this kind of child is not filial piety.
If the child does not filial piety to the parents when he grows up, it will definitely break the parents' hearts. At the same time, it will also be condemned by the people around it, and once the reputation is not known, it will have no foothold in society. More importantly, if you do not filial piety to your parents, you will definitely be punished, and the road of life will be full of bumps and sorrows.
"Children are not filial piety, there is no blessing" is definitely not empty, because all the children who are not filial to their parents will certainly be looked down upon by others, and they will think that they are not worthy of contact, and over time they will inevitably lose credibility.
But if you think about it again, you will find that children are filial to their parents, and they must not blindly be foolish.
Do not engage in the feudal society's "father for son", that is, what parents say is what, children have no chance to refute it
After all, parents are also one of the many sentient beings, how can everything be right?
Therefore, in the face of the problem of filial piety of children, I advise everyone to understand a truth, that is, do not engage in "one-word hall", do not let children have a little embarrassment and either beat or scold.
If parents misbehave and have to make their children listen to themselves, this is a big mistake. After all, sometimes relying on the old and selling the old is the taboo when educating children.
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Never make mistakes, parents must correct mistakes in time, do not knowingly make mistakes, otherwise how can it be educated
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What about children?
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The old man has no virtue, and the family suffers
When people look at the same thing, they hope not to just focus on one side of the thing, but to have a global view.
Because there are both positive and negative sides to everything, filial piety is not only for children, but also for parents. If parents do not have the right values, not only will they not be able to educate their children well, but they will also cause the whole family to suffer.
The most taboo thing in Chinese is "lack of morality", a person who has no virtue or has very poor virtue will definitely be regarded as a flood beast by everyone. Not only is there a reluctance to contact and associate with such people, but they will also avoid it like a plague.
As the saying goes, "There is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", but sometimes the old man is not a treasure, and may even be a scourge of the family.
"Elderly" does not refer to parents alone, but also to other elders. It can be seen from this saying that if the old man in the family has no virtue, or if the virtue is very inferior, then it will definitely make a chicken and dog restless.
Not only are they unable to teach their children properly, but they can easily cause the family to fall apart. Everyone knows the importance of a good "home style" for a family.
The elderly in a family must do it, be consistent in words and deeds, have good moral character, be fair and just, otherwise their own behavior is not correct, not to mention whether they can educate good children, first of all, they have lost the right to manage the family or the family.
If the elderly in the family are infected with bad habits, or they usually have nothing to do, then it will become a hindrance to the development of the family. It will even lead the whole family downhill
Even if the children are capable and courageous,
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It will cause the family to go further and further in the bad direction. Because children cannot persuade their parents to change from evil, they can only watch the family continue to decline.
Conclusion
Parents, children and other elders in the family all have important responsibilities for family development. Whichever side has a problem, it will cause the balance of the family to start tilting
Once the family begins to show signs of decay, for example, if the children are not filial to their parents and elders, or if one of the parents is infected with a vice, then there is no cure for the family.