There is no love at first sight falling from the sky, and there is no sudden dissipation of feelings, but when you gradually enter the play, the other party's feelings begin to cool, and you are not so up to you.
When you are in love, have you ever encountered such a situation?
Obviously, I was still chatting with you the day before, and the two people were excitedly discussing where to go to play and where to eat.
But the next day, the other party not only released your pigeons, but also how to contact, no one answered the phone, no one returned the information, as if everything that happened before was just a dream of yours.
Xia Mai once shared one thing with me:
She and the boy met through the introduction of relatives, and at first she did not report much hope. But after going back, the boy has been taking the initiative to chat with her, trying to make her happy, giving her meticulous consideration and care, and has shown his like more than once.
In the process of slow acquaintance, Xia Mai found that the boy talked funny and humorous, and both of them also liked movies and dramas, and gradually began to feel good about him.
But just when Xia Mai was ready to clarify the relationship and go further, the boy suddenly became very cold, and even in the end he didn't talk to her much, so he disappeared into each other's lives.
Xia Mai himself was quite depressed, "Why do some people always talk and talk and disappear?" "It is he who gives you hope, and it is he who completely extinguishes hope; it is he who first says he likes it, and he who cannot choose it in the end."
In fact, if you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that this kind of person who comes up and says that he likes it does not have enough seriousness to treat this feeling. Qiqi once encountered such a relationship:
She and Daewoo met at a dinner party, during which time Daewoo had just ended a relationship, and the whole person was in a very bad state.
Qiqi feels that the two people are still quite compatible, so they chat with him from time to time, enlighten him, and with the deepening of understanding, Qiqi also hopes that the two can formally determine the relationship.
But Daewoo suddenly stopped replying to the news and played "human evaporation" with her.
Later, Qiqi learned that during that time, Daewoo was not the only one who talked hotly. Through the drama of lost love to win good feelings and sympathy, and at the same time launch a huge "concubine selection", the name is not clear about their own intentions, in fact, it is simply an irresponsible scumbag.
Therefore, there will be many people who say that the boys in the relationship use the exclusion method, while the girls are the accumulation of good feelings, and over time, their feelings for a person will become deeper and deeper.
If you think about it, in fact, those who disappear while chatting are nothing more than because of these three reasons:
At the same time, I picked up several, cast wide nets to focus on fishing, and finally found that you were not the focus; just because of the first acquaintance, the freshness disappeared, and he also disappeared; the so-called disappearance or snub, but the drama of wanting to catch the old, and when you suffer from loss, he will appear again and trap you.
People who have been in love know that if you really like someone, you will want to reply to her message at the first time, where is there anything that suddenly disappears and wants to get away with it? Therefore, if you really meet the kind of person who habitually plays disappears, don't plunge into it, first see if this person is worth liking, worth paying.
The most frustrating thing in the relationship is not empathy, not love and not love, but when you are still looking forward to this relationship, the other party suddenly does not reply to your message.
It's like a child who has suddenly been robbed of his candy, and can only be stunned in the same place, and he can't get out for a long time.
Because you don't know what purpose this person is approaching you with, you don't know if his original intention of chatting with you is to really want to associate with you, and you don't know if he is using various tricks to please you.
You think you really met love, you didn't expect to be just the object of the other party's wide net, when you start to fall, he is already thinking about how to get out, when you fantasize about a romantic wedding, he has completely disappeared into your world.
The person who can play with you and suddenly disappear must be an unreliable scumbag, without exception.
If a person is still saying "like" to you the day before and suddenly disappears the next day, then you don't have to feel sorry, you should be glad that you saw his true face in advance.
For these people, all you can do is forget about him early, minimize his impact on your life, and always believe in love, always believe that you deserve to be cherished, and more worthy of being loved by the right person.
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