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The poem says: "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but I am only in this mountain." ”
Everyone likes to think of themselves as the protagonist and expects others to revolve around them. Only those who remain sane at all times will be good bystanders and self-aware.
Perfect. Everyone has flaws, and once the flaws are magnified, they are loopholes in human nature.
Those who are powerful will not only see themselves clearly, but also be able to see through the relationship between people, take advantage of the loopholes of human nature, and do their own things.
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People who can't see others' goodness: as long as they grasp his "very small" characteristics, they can fight back at any time.
My grandmother told a story about a farmer who planted two acres of sweet potatoes and an old neighbor who raised a flock of ducks.
Ducks run to the sweet potato fields every day to play and eat the sweet potato seedlings.
The farmer quarreled with the old lady many times over this.
One day, the farmer asked his son to tell the old woman's grandson that his family ate duck eggs every day, and the duck eggs were picked from the sweet potato field.
The old lady listened to her grandson and then made a cruel decision to drive the ducks to the creek far from home to play.
Obviously, the old lady was very unhappy to see the sweet potato seedlings in the farmer's house, growing happily; she was even more unhappy to hear that the farmer had received free duck eggs. It is this kind of psychology that guides the behavior of the old lady.
Usually, people who don't see others well will squint at others, be jealous of those who are better off than themselves, and do anything in the hope that they will get benefits while preventing others from profiting.
When you quietly take advantage of those who "don't see others' good", he will behave abnormally and keep a distance from you, never disturbing each other. From another perspective, you have less trouble.
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Hypocritical person: As long as you praise him a few words, he will be led by your nose.
Carnegie wrote a story in the book: a technician, who had been in a certain unit for many years, had achieved success in technology, but had not been promoted, so he was very uncomfortable and had the idea of leaving.
The boss had a clever move, and let the personnel department hang a sign of "technical department" at the door of the technician's office, and appoint the technician as the minister.
The technician had a title, but he didn't have a single employee and didn't increase his salary, but he felt that he had a lot of face and was more motivated.
Lu Xun once said: "The word 'face' itself is a key to open the lock of many important characteristics of the Chinese. ”
A false name cannot bring wealth or status, but many people care very much; a flattering remark is clearly a deception, but those who want to listen to it mistakenly think that their achievements have been recognized; a false happy event, in the eyes of hypocritical people, is a very important thing.
A person's fate, created by oneself, those hypocritical things and words, will only lead you to develop in the direction of falsehood, such a truth, we all understand, but many people can not do it.
If "hypocrisy" is exploited and "vanity" is stimulated, something that "gets in the way of face" will be done.
For example, when you borrow money from a friend, you tout him as "so rich, already rich", and borrowing money is easy to do.
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See the unrighteous person: As long as you are good at seduction, he will help you.
The ancients said, "All the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit; the whole world is bustling for profit." ”
It is human instinct to seek advantage and avoid harm, but if a person cares too much about interests, there will be loopholes in interests.
The "suggestive effect" tells us that if a person knows that he is about to receive some kind of benefit, he will actively do the corresponding thing.
For example, if you want a friend to help contact a certain business, just hint to the friend that after the business is done, you can get a big commission, and you can succeed.
A powerful man is a flexible man who understands this: if you want to get a herd of horses, you can't just lead the horses, but plant a piece of grass; to catch a group of bees, just put some honey somewhere.
"Grass, honey" is a benefit to others and a bait. As the saying goes, give up small profits and get big profits.
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Hesitant person: As long as you arrange the Ecstasy Array, he will retreat.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Sun Quan took his soldiers to attack the City of Shiyang in the State of Wei.
At that time, Shiyang City experienced a heavy rain, and the protective facilities were washed away. Just when everyone was hurrying to repair it, Sun Quan was approaching step by step.
The general who guarded the city, Wen Hired, pretended to sleep at home, and ordered the people in the city not to panic and not to appear.
Sun Quan lingered at the city gate for a while, hesitating, and said: "Northerners are very upright, if it were not for foreign aid, they would not be so calm." ”
After speaking, Sun Quan left.
From ancient times to the present, many battles have staged empty city plans. Its fundamental principle is to exploit the human loophole of "hesitation and doubt".
There is a saying that goes: "Man always torments himself in hesitation and wandering, and the more he struggles, the more painful he becomes; he does not fight, but he is not willing." ”
Everyone wants to win, but anything has two outcomes: losing and winning.
If you take advantage of the other person's fear of losing, and then arrange the Ecstasy Array, the other party will retreat or be deceived.
06
The ancients said: "People see profit but do not see harm, and fish see food but do not see hooks." ”
No matter how perfect a person is, you can't think about everything thoughtfully, you can't see everything around you, there are always some corners that will be overlooked.
In addition to the above several human loopholes, there are also "refuse to listen to criticism, fear of not living long enough, worry about disasters, hope that they will always be young, hate the rich and hate the officials, be very tolerant of their shortcomings, take the kindness of others for granted", etc. As long as you can think and act in the opposite direction, you will find the use value and bring some benefits to yourself.
Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise. Really powerful people can always know themselves and know each other, spend some time to study others, do not regard themselves as protagonists, ask others to revolve around themselves; often quietly take advantage of other people's loopholes.
People are alive, and since they can't plug the loopholes in human nature, then stay sober and don't fall into the loopholes.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.