Many people in life, obviously have not done anything all day, but also feel very tired.
Over time, I fell into a state where life was exhausting everywhere, and even if I was on vacation, my heart was extremely uneasy.
In fact, these people are engaged in a kind of thing called "mental intriguation" from beginning to end, entangled in ideas out of nothing, and troubled by unnecessary things in life.
So, after repeated thoughts, under the irritability of going around, I finally got tired.
Qian Zhongshu once said:
"Some people, when they think about it, lose sleep; others, when they wake up, think wildly, and fall asleep in a daze."
The greatest wisdom of being a person is to refuse to think wildly and refuse internal friction. Whether awake or confused, tell yourself to do it.
Only in this way can we stay away from complaining, self-blame, self-pity, and self-harm, and avoid falling into infinite self-torture and internal friction.
1: Let yourself go
If a person wants to live more relaxed, he must learn to let himself go.
And the best way to let yourself go is not to pay too much attention to what others think.
We must know that if a person cares too much about other people's opinions, evaluations and eyes, in the end, it is himself who will bury more beautiful things.
Because many people's evaluations and opinions about you are likely to be just a whim, but also a moment of want to discuss.
So, you're more serious and you're caught in their trap.
The writer Yu Hua said:
"Life is what everyone feels, not what anyone else thinks."
Indeed, life is your own, your feelings are also your own, and others do not give you money, and do not give you benefits, why should you listen to them?
Life is full of ups and downs, everyone has their own story, life goes ups and downs, and every life deserves to be treated well.
Therefore, life is varied, and it is difficult to adjust the mouth, it is better to let go of yourself, live out of yourself, and live out your own wonderfulness.
I've seen this fable:
There was a farmer who once went out to the beach for the first time and picked up a lot of shells that he thought were beautiful.
So the farmer wanted to take it to a nearby place to sell for a good price, and after a few days of hard work, he finally picked the shell to the downtown area.
He put the shells on the street for everyone to see, and after several hours, the flow of people was good, but they all came to look at it and slipped away, or they talked about it and left, and no one had the will to buy it.
The farmer, who was puzzled, finally decided to take the shells back to his old home.
Then, when the villagers saw these shells that they had never seen before, they all liked them and appreciated them so much that each family bought a little back to decorate them.
The farmer finally understood that everyone has their own opinion, and there is nothing in this world that makes everyone satisfied and liked.
Therefore, when you are not welcomed, or encounter injustice, remember to tell yourself not to live with yourself, and not to live with others.
Let go of others, let go of yourself, you get your hands on it, after all, it will be the whole world.
2: Empty yourself
The writer Adler said in The Courage to Be Hated:
"We have at least a small part of the world, calm down to study ourselves, pay attention to our own needs, in order to live a self-control." 」
At a certain age, we may understand that a person's high quality of life lies in seeking inward, not asking outward.
That is to say, people who are truly happy and beautiful do not depend on how rich they have materials, but on how high their spiritual level they have.
So, how do you have these high-level levels?
First of all, for distractions, for evil thoughts, for covetousness, everything that is excessively consuming oneself must be found out in a timely manner.
Then, boldly and decisively clean up, that is, one must know how to clear one's heart and mind of the noisy things in order to calm down.
Only by calming down can you truly perceive what you want.
If a person does not know how to consciously and regularly empty himself, then impurities such as distractions from life, work, feelings, society, etc., will penetrate his thoughts.
Therefore, if a person is accustomed to living and growing up in such an environment, he will often fall into an involuntary fantasy.
Plato wrote in the Republic:
"Fantasists often like to fantasize arbitrarily, because they are always in the dream, and when they encounter something, they begin to imagine how it will proceed.
Everything they think will become a reality, and whether this thing is possible or not is not the scope of their consideration, the only thing they consider is the plan after the success of the matter. ”
Indeed, a person who is becoming more and more tired in life and more and more fond of self-infighting prefers to think wildly rather than act directly.
They like to stay in the fantasy world, always feeling that they can easily complete the goal, achieve reality, and achieve the ideal.
As everyone knows, this habit of just thinking and not doing will develop a lazy personality over time, and the really feasible things they come up with can be said to be minimal.
Many times, we are always complaining about the injustice of society, the hardships of life, the meanness of others, and everything is not satisfactory.
But I have never thought that when I face these aggrieved and painful things, do I dare to empty these negative energies in time, and then create a strong execution, change myself in time, and bravely break out of my own world?
Man cannot live in a mirage, because such a life is doomed to be a childish and failed one.
As Lenin said: Don't be a giant of thought, a dwarf of action.
Step-by-step practical action, a period of non-stop struggle, is more important than any thought or idea.
Because all the happiness and beauty of man must be created by his own hands, not by a momentary thought.
3: Live yourself
If a person wants to live out his own life and stay away from internal friction, he needs to be his friend.
Of course, if one knows how to use books as one's friend, then they will eventually be able to illuminate our way forward.
In fact, the process of life is the process of continuous practice, and this kind of practice is destined to be not simple and uninterrupted.
Mr. Yang Dai once said that your problem is that you think too much and read too few books.
In order to live yourself and be able to live a better self, you need to read more in life, read more, think more, and act more.
The British historian Tor Fuller also said:
"Whenever you want to get rid of your annoying wild thoughts, you may wish to turn to books, which always welcome you kindly."
Only by reading more, absorbing wisdom and thinking, maintaining the habit of combining work and leisure, and integrating knowledge and action, can we find the direction of life and find the goal of struggle.
Then, find the goal that you are willing to pay to the end, and throughout your life, polish yourself without complaint or regret, and will not stop working hard.
Writer Yu Zongde said this:
"People can give up a lot of things, but they can't give up and work hard.
As long as you don't give up your efforts, everything will turn around. ”
It is not easy for people to live a lifetime, but if they can refuse internal friction, be high-spirited, and boldly break through themselves.
Then, such a you have undoubtedly lived your own life, and you can really live a wonderful and splendid life.
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