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The American writer Eldridge Criaver once said:
"If you can't solve the problem, you will become the problem."
We will encounter many problems in life, how to deal with them, can best reflect a person's knowledge and literacy.
And truly intelligent people not only know the way to deal with the world, but also solve problems without losing their standards.
When they are in trouble, they often have these abilities.
When a person is controlled by emotions, 80% of the decisions made are wrong.
At a high-profile event, there was this scene:
In the 1965 World Billiards Tournament, the defending world champion Louis Fox soared all the way to the point where he almost scored the last no. 8 black ball to defend his title.
Just then, a fly flew in and stopped on his arm holding the rod, and the player had to stop the action to drive it away.
But when he posed again, the fly landed on the crucial black ball.
Enraged, he took the club and stabbed the fly.
As a result, the fly flew away, and his club touched the ball, so it was the opponent's turn to hit the ball.
The other side seized the opportunity and scored all the remaining balls in one go.
Fox also missed the opportunity to win the championship due to a momentary anger.
Only by controlling their emotions can people handle things more calmly.
Don't be in a hurry, press your emotions, think quietly, and do things calmly.
In this way, you can better control your own life and dominate your own life.
Finding the problem clearly is the key to breaking the game.
If you can't find the root of the problem, it is like an old donkey pushing and grinding, and you can only spin around in place.
There was a missionary in the United States named Ham who went to a new village as a missionary.
The local villagers assigned him an old car, but the car was a bit faulty and it was difficult to start again once it stopped.
When he needed to stop on the road, Ham parked the car on the slope so that it was easy to start again, or sometimes he didn't just stop the ignition.
Later, a new missionary came to the village, and Ham proudly taught him the skills of using the car.
The new missionary listened to Ham as he opened the lid of the car and checked it out.
After a while, he twisted the loose engine line hard, then sat down in the cab and started the car at once.
Do you see it? Identifying problems is often more important than solving them.
Write down the problem clearly and you're halfway there.
Pull out the root knot, the right medicine, and the matter can be solved.
I've seen such a story.
There was a farmer who lived at the foot of the mountain and often had to go back and forth to the market to sell lamb and goat's milk.
There are two ways to get to the market from his house:
One is in front of the house, which can lead directly to the market, but it is blocked by a boulder, which is very difficult to walk;
One is behind the house, winding and winding, and it takes several hours to arrive.
The farmer decided to remove the boulder in front of the house, but after half a year of hard work with his son, there was almost no progress.
One day, my son was tired from work and suddenly shouted when he sat down to rest:
"Since we can't move this big stone, why can't we move our home to the other side of the stone?"
Stupid people, when they meet the "boulder" of life, blindly stumble, consume time and effort, and finally do half the work.
At the end of the road, it does not mean that we have reached the end of the road, but it is a reminder that it is time to turn a corner.
Really smart people, know how to be flexible, understand that turning is also a kind of wisdom.
There is a short film that is only a few minutes long, but it is meaningful:
A little boy wearing shiny new leather shoes goes with his parents on a train ride.
Due to the crowding of people on the bus, one of the boys' shoes was squeezed out in the confusion.
At this time, the stray child on the platform saw it, picked up the leather shoes and handed them to the boy.
But the speed of the stray children can not keep up with the speed of the train.
The boy watched as the shoes on the platform moved farther and farther away from him, and a look of loss appeared on his face.
As the train was about to leave the platform, the boy suddenly took off the other shoe on his foot and threw it forcefully toward the platform.
The stray child went forward to pick up the leather shoes, as if he had obtained the treasure, and at the same time, the boy also showed a smile on his face.
Not every choice must be upheld, and not every persistence is the right one.
Life is like this, there is a sacrifice to get.
Only when you give up what you should give up can you concentrate on insisting on what you should insist on.
Luo Zhenyu, the founder of Luo Ji Thinking, said:
Lifelong learning is the only way to fight not dying at the age of thirty.
Our own lives are also the product of iterations.
Starting with the best kernel, iterating one by one and making small choices at a time, will make your product and your life.
It doesn't matter what kind of point you have today.
What matters is how you will continue to iterate in the coming years.
Academic qualifications represent the past, and learning ability represents the future.
Life will find that it must be those who can continue to learn to laugh until the end.
As long as you insist on learning, you can run farther and farther in your own track life.
Finally, may you and I encounter problems, not be swayed by temper, learn to compare hearts to hearts, be flexible and flexible, and have the ability to continue to learn.
All the good things will come as expected.
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