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Nowadays, WeChat has long become a tool for people's daily communication, and the circle of friends has also become a platform for people to record their lives.
People share their lives, express their feelings, and in the interaction with friends, let others understand their own lives, but also understand the lives of others.
Everyone's daily performance in the circle of friends invisibly reveals their personality and life status.
They are either enthusiastic; or hard at work; or positive energy. Most of those who are active in the WeChat circle of friends have these qualities.
Love life and discover the sweetness of life
Yu Hua wrote in "Alive": "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings, not to the opinions of any others. ”
The way a person lives, many times depends on the attitude towards life.
Girlfriend is a single mother, ex-husband introverted, always play games at home, "Ge You paralysis", housework, childcare, care for the elderly are all borne by the girlfriend alone.
The trivial chores of life, as well as the imbalance of family status between husband and wife, eventually crushed the marriage.
After the divorce, the girlfriend lived with two daughters. She gets up every day before dawn to prepare breakfast, sends her children to school, works several jobs, and sets up a stall at night.
However, in her circle of friends, she can always see the young leaves of spring, the sun of summer and the happy details of children.
My girlfriend once said: "Life is not easy, if you don't learn to find something beautiful, you won't have the courage to love." ”
Anyone's life may be devastated, and people who know how to live seriously can always find candy hidden in life.
Those who love to send a circle of friends are mostly good at discovering the small beauty in life and insight into the small emotions of life. The people and things they encounter, the moments they feel good, and their perceptions of life will appear in their circle of friends.
Hidden behind them is their expectation and love for ordinary life.
Maybe sending these circles of friends doesn't really make life particularly beautiful, but at least you can tell yourself that your love for life is as good as ever.
The world is your own, has nothing to do with others, learn to care about your feelings, and live authentically and comfortably.
Please yourself and have your own rhythm
Haruki Murakami once said, "No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feelings are the right ones, and no matter what others think, I will never disturb my own rhythm." ”
Only when a person first learns to love himself can he better love others and love life. Knowing how to live in your own rhythm is the beginning of pleasing yourself.
Colleague Xiao Su is a post-90s girl, encountered some beautiful things in life, she always likes to post in the circle of friends.
A colleague dinner, she took photos as usual to send the circle of friends, Xiaoli, who was sitting on the side, saw it, also took a photo, hesitated after editing it, but still silently set "only visible to herself".
She worries that the circle of friends she sends out will attract the sneers of her relatives and friends.
Relatives may say that when eating a meal, we should also send a circle of friends to show it, as if others can't afford to eat; friends may say that we are not called when eating, and it is not appropriate for us to be friends.
I don't know when it started, some people began to be afraid to express themselves, share their lives, afraid of being misunderstood, afraid of words that did not reach their expectations, language was not beautiful enough, afraid of becoming the object of complaints from people around them.
I like the saying: "If life must please a person, then the most important thing to please is ourselves." In a life that cannot be repeated, there is nothing more worth cherishing than yourself. In the future, remember to be nice to yourself. ”
Life is ultimately your own, and it is cruel to care too much about the opinions of others and please others.
More than 30,000 days of life, how to live is a lifetime, living in their own rhythm, only worthy of themselves.
Not all trees grow in the same woods, and shrubs don't have the vision of ancient trees. Whether the shoes fit or not, only you know; whether life is good or not, only you can feel it.
Don't aggrieved yourself in the evaluation of others, and don't let other people's opinions define your life.
Reject internal friction and successfully control emotions
Someone said: "One of the signs of maturity is to learn to manage your emotions, understand the behavior of others, have strict requirements for yourself, and let go of unnecessary complaints about others, from everything to everything, learn to be light and light." ”
There is a very good mother in the circle of friends, who shares the life trajectory of herself and her children every day, and from time to time there are some practical things to share, which is particularly light and bright in the circle of friends where micro-business and advertising are rampant.
However, many people know that she once fell into depression because of the triviality and anxiety of a stay-at-home mother, which led to marital discord. For the sake of her children, she went to counselors and tried to manage and reverse her emotions.
At that time, she began to adjust her emotions by sending a circle of friends, and a year later, she not only came out of depression, but also filled the whole person with positive energy.
People in this era are very strong, have pain to sustain themselves, have emotions to be introverted, but no one has ever taught us how to face pain and vent our emotions.
So slowly, we get used to being pulled by emotions and consuming ourselves internally.
You know, a person who can't manage his emotions well, no matter how strong his ability, can't get happiness; he can manage his emotions well, in order to better embrace himself and reject internal friction.
And the circle of friends is the easiest and most direct way for you to reject internal friction.
Remember, moodiness is not true temperament, and it is the real strength to control emotions.
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In the book "Behavioral Design: Zero Cost Change", it is said: "Bright thinking can help us improve problems." ”
Just like a piece of white paper, obviously a large area is white, but most people only see black spots, which is people's inertial thinking, because of this inertial thinking, it is difficult for people to see the bright spots hidden under the surface.
Those who are active in the circle of friends have light in their hearts:
They love life and can find the sweetness in life;
They delight themselves and live in their own rhythms;
They reject internal friction and can control their emotions.
When we use "bright thinking" to look at the circle of friends, we will find that it is not important to send a circle of friends, what is important is that those who love to send a circle of friends are often loyal to life, keep the truth, and live comfortably.
If your circle of friends also has such people, please be sure to cherish them.