Those who were born in the countryside, grew up in the countryside, went out from the countryside, and the rural people in the cities after the 50s and 60s are now over the age of six, and they have all retired and rested at home.
Rural people always have a "homesickness complex", and every rural person in the city has this temper, this character, and this habit, and it is always a bad problem that cannot be changed.
Often when talking about this "homesickness" in their own life circle, fellow villagers say that "the city routine is deep, or go back to the countryside", and friends who were born in the city since childhood always reply that "the rural road is very slippery, the routine is more complicated, or the city is better!"
We are born in the countryside, grew up in the countryside, from the countryside out of the rural people, naturally will not believe that "rural roads are more slippery, routines are more complicated", homesickness, unstoppable, now retirement, no job for no reason, decided to go back to the countryside now to retire, to achieve the "fallen leaves back to the roots" of the bad wish.
My wife and I, like those fellow villagers, packed our bags and gave up the space of the city to the children, and we resolutely returned to our hometown in the countryside to give birth to me and raise me.
When we return to our homes in the countryside, people who have parents alive are in a better situation, and the place where our parents live will always be home.
For those whose parents are not there, the situation is very different, and the feeling of returning to the countryside is heaven and earth, and there is always a thought, "I regret that my brain was hot at the beginning, and I decided to go back to the countryside", so I have three feelings.
(1), I feel that when I return to my hometown in the countryside, life is always so "out of place".
Although we have lived in the countryside for nearly 20 years since we were children, under the halo of our parents and under the care of our families, we have lived happily and grown up happily and unrestrained, but we have not yet understood the true meaning of life, still do not understand the countryside, or have not understood the rural world.
Even if the parents' housing is narrow and cannot be accommodated, every parent has already left a back road and a door for their children who work in the city, so that they can go home to live and provide for the elderly, so that their parents have their own homes in the countryside.
For those who return to their hometowns where their parents are gone, the vast majority of the houses in their hometowns and the houses left by their parents are generally involuntarily divided by the brothers and sisters who remain in the countryside, and even if they have the ability to keep them, they will be occupied by the brothers and sisters.
When we return to our hometown in the countryside, we will inevitably live in the homes of our brothers and sisters, and if our parents are here, our parents are not at home, and if our parents are not there, our brothers and sisters' homes are not home, and we have no ability to climb at all.
When they returned to the countryside, the brothers and sisters welcomed a hundred people, and they could eat a full meal for three days, and after a long time, their family was a little better, and they reluctantly gave up the house, and there was nothing on the surface, but they were very unhappy in their hearts.
But after all, I have a foothold in my hometown in the countryside, I have a home of my own, and my life is peaceful.
If you live in the house of your brothers and sisters, after three days of enthusiasm, when you can't get the house that belongs to you, the situation is very different, and there is no real meaning of your own house in the countryside, so you can only place your trust in the home of your brothers and sisters.
At this time, I realized that the feeling of being under the fence of the host, life has lost its taste, there is no dignity and personality of one's own, everything depends on the faces of the brothers and sisters, and the indescribable taste is indeed too difficult.
At this time, there are two choices, stay and only rent a house in the village, or borrow a house to live, and the house will never belong to you, so you can't find a home in the countryside that really belongs to you.
Another option, the countryside can't stay, there is still a way out in the city, and it is still too late to "go home", but the "homesickness complex", the dream of going home to care for the elderly has been completely shattered.
At this time, even if they stayed, the customs in the countryside were very embarrassed because of the interruption of many years, and even the brothers and sisters treated themselves as inappropriate relatives, let alone others!
Living in a rural hometown, there is no courtyard, it originally belonged to itself, but now it is someone else's, there is nothing to be done to take it back, there is no land, there is no way to grow flowers and grass, it is impossible to grow vegetables, all the land is not related to oneself, there is no chance to plant, even if someone gives up a little land, it is all exchanged for it at a huge price.
(2) Feeling the pension conditions in the countryside will not make you satisfied. Take three meals a day as an example, you need to buy the food you eat, you need to buy the vegetables you eat, and you also need to buy the meat, eggs and milk you eat, which is the same as urban and rural life.
If you want to buy these foods, you have to go to the market, and there are few people in the village, and there is no market, so you can only go to the far away towns and villages, which is very troublesome.
If you are in the village, buy it with some acquaintances nearby, one is that the price is too expensive, and you can't bargain for the sake of face, so you can only buy it expensively, and the other is a human affair, and people with a bad relationship will not sell it to you.
It is very inconvenient to go back to the countryside to live and retire, and if you buy online, the express package does not enter the village, but can only go to the township to pick it up, which is too inconvenient.
If you are sick, the village doctor in the village is generally unable to see a doctor, and the township health center is also not able to see a doctor, and you still need to go back to the city to see a doctor.
There are generally no bank outlets in rural areas, and if you want to withdraw some pocket money, you may not be able to get it in the township, because many banks do not have business outlets in the township, and you can only get money by going to the county or the city.
The rural transportation is inconvenient, I have no means of transportation, I want to go to the township, to the county seat, even if there is a shuttle, every day is to go early and return late, a day to come and go, or not through the bus.
Therefore, the countryside is not suitable for the elderly who return to the countryside from the city to provide for the elderly.
(3) I feel that the ancestral industry in the countryside has been given to my brothers and sisters, and you will be a guest when you go back. The elderly who return to the countryside have this feeling, when their parents left their ancestral business to them, they have a house to live in, a yard to grow vegetables, and a living space, and the situation is still good, and they can live for a long time.
If you give up your ancestral business in advance, or let all the people in your family divide up, your rural hometown will have nothing but emotion, no house, no yard for growing vegetables, no living space, and nothing in the countryside will have anything to do with you, just a passerby, and going back to your hometown to live and care for the elderly is a fantasy and an unrealistic thing.
All in all, rural people working in the city, it is best not to go back to their hometown after retirement, the above 3 reasons are very heart-wrenching, I have to admit that the hometown complex, in fact, is a spiritual haven for adults, is a kind of spiritual sustenance, and the reality is very cruel, only people who return to their rural hometown, can really understand, what is lovely, what is ruthless, the rural hometown is not the first wishful thinking hometown, has disappeared in real life.
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