Author | Fan Deng Reading · Jin Heng
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yang Gun Gun
When we were children, we all heard the story of "Sitting in the Well and Watching the Sky".
Everyone laughed at the frog at the bottom of the well for not seeing the world, thinking that all they could see was the whole world.
But what few people know is that the author Wang Jianping later rewrote the ending:
The bird said, "Don't believe me, jump out and take a look." ”
The frog said, "This well is so deep that I can't jump out, so for me, the sky is only so big." ”
The bird said, "Then you are so pitiful, if only you had wings like me." ”
The frog said, "I can't have wings like yours, so I'm content to see the sky at the mouth of the well." ”
Life is not a good thing, we hope to be a bird soaring in the sky, to be able to see the wider world, but in fact, we are just frogs without wings and sitting in the well to watch the sky.
Many times, although the heart is unwilling, but there is nothing to do; although it is constantly sprinting, it is powerless to change.
Only with a strong "self-healing power" can we get what we want after doing the opposite thing again and again.
Some time ago, Liu Weisong, vice president of Hainan Provincial Cancer Hospital, was on fire.
At the sports meeting of Hainan Medical College, Dean Liu held a discus and moved cleanly.
He is 46 years old, but his body is very well-proportioned, his muscle lines are obvious, and he is called "the dean in the novel" by netizens.
But in the eyes of netizens, he is handsome and compelling, in fact, he is a "sick number".
As early as 2016, Liu Weisong was diagnosed with a brain tumor and received radiation therapy under the advice of a doctor.
Although his condition is relatively stable, his hearing and balance ability have been damaged to varying degrees.
In order to maintain a healthy body, Liu Weisong insists on exercising every day, and when he can't go outside to exercise, he will also practice dumbbells and barbells at home.
He uses illness as a driving force for his persistence and strives to live with confidence and optimism.
No one's life is complete, and it is gradually enriched by little by little stitching.
Those scenery that others see in their eyes are just the sharp edge after surviving all the hardships.
A psychologist once did such an experiment:
He arranged for three speakers to give a speech, the first speaker was generous, charismatic, and performed perfectly;
The performance of the second speaker was astonishing, illogical and the language was bumpy;
The third speaker and the first speaker were equally generous and expressive, but accidentally knocked over the water cup on the table during the speech.
After the speech, psychologists surveyed the audience and found that most people's favorite speaker was the third speaker.
Although his speech process is slightly flawed, it is also very affinity. The first speaker was too perfect to feel condescending and inaccessible.
This is the famous "up-and-up eight-foot effect" in psychology.
Lin Yutang once said:
"Imperfection is the most perfect life."
Everyone's life has gaps, and although it is not perfect, it is incomparably real.
Instead of indulging in self-pity in your own shortcomings, it is better to accept it calmly and face it with a smile.
Once upon a time, a farmer had two wooden buckets.
One is intact, the other has a small crack, and the farmer has not repaired it, so he has been using it.
Every time I finished picking up water and went home, the intact bucket was still full of water, and the bucket with the gap had to leak more than half of the water.
One day, the cracked barrel asked the farmer:
"Why don't you fix the cracks in my body?" It's a shame that most of the water leaks out every time. ”
The farmer said:
"Don't you see the blooming flowers on the side of the road home every day?"
The droplets that flow from you every day can just water the flowers on both sides of the path, bringing a lot of scenery to our way home. ”
There are cracks in life, which is our regret and our proud medal.
It is because of them that we can shine more sunlight into our lives.
In the documentary "Long Live Life", there is an old man pedaling a tricycle in Lhasa.
He left his hometown for Lhasa to make ends meet by making some money from the daily visitors.
There is one scene in the film that is particularly moving.
The old man asked the guest if he had ever been to the Potala Palace, and the guest said that he had not been.
The old man said to himself: "When I first came, I was not willing to go for 100 yuan, and now it is more expensive, and I am even more reluctant to get it." ”
This old man is the epitome of countless people who are busy running for their lives.
The Potala Palace, the potala palace that cannot be visited, the rivers and lakes and the end of the world without wine, the poetry and distant places that cannot be reached, have all become out of our reach.
But even if we sigh at work every day, two points and one line of boring chagrin, whenever we come home, we will still look in the mirror and give ourselves a smile after a busy day.
Tagore once wrote:
"Shouting at the empty valley, it will take a while before you hear the long echo."
Inhabiting the world, we all struggle to survive in the gap between reality and dreams.
We keep working hard and healing, just to make our lives less regretful.
Because life is bitter, but we deserve it.
Only by accepting the ordinary self can we usher in a unique highlight moment.
Cai Kangyong said: "The stronger a person's ability to heal himself, the more likely he is to be close to happiness." ”
Life is not always smooth, but even if the thorns are everywhere, we must grit our teeth.
The self-healing force is our protective umbrella, the stronger the self-healing force, the more we can not be afraid of challenges and overcome difficulties.
Variety show "Collection! In Pistachios, there is a "special" talk show actor - Leona.
She opened with sign language and siri, bringing a very rare sign language opening talk show.
Many people began to question why the actors did not say a word until Leona unveiled the mystery and people were moved to tears.
Because Riona is a deaf mute.
At the age of two, Leona lost her hearing to a high fever. Because she didn't know how to pronounce it, she didn't start speaking until she was eight years old.
Growing up, Riona studied acting and aspired to become an actress, but repeatedly ran into a wall in interviews.
Watching Riona's warm smile and confident expression on stage, it is difficult to associate her with such a bumpy life experience.
She said:
"Of course I know that it is difficult for me to be a good actor in this life, and I insist on just to let everyone see that there are still people in this world who have been working hard."
Ostrovsky once said:
"Human life is like a flood flowing, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs."
Life is free of fairy tales, and pain and suffering are also part of life.
Only with a strong ability to heal themselves can we bravely move forward in the storms of life.
Only after surviving all the suffering will you find that you are no longer the self you used to be.
I remember a picture book I once read, "The Missing Corner".
A circle has been missing a corner since birth, so it hummed a song and walked forward, just to find the part it had lost.
Despite the countless mud and bumps along the way, despite the cold eyes and misses it encountered again and again, it did not give up, and finally found its missing corner.
In fact, each of us spends our whole life trying to find the corner we are missing.
And the driving force for us to keep moving forward is the ability to experience and heal ourselves at the same time.
Haizi once had such a poem: "When you come to the human world, you have to see the sun." ”
Although life is bitter, may you not be invaded by all poisons.
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Author | Jin Heng: Write hard, live hard, try to love and be loved
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Zheng to the north
Music | Maroo - Heart