Introduction: In the process of children's growth, mothers are a very important role, and mothers have long played maternal characteristics such as kindness, gentleness and tolerance around their children. However, in the process of getting along with the relationship between sons, there are often some parent-child obstacles, especially when the children grow up, it is difficult for mothers to grasp and deal with the relationship with their children.
We all aspire to be able to maintain a good relationship with our children, but we can deteriorate our relationships in our daily lives due to various things. So, what should the best state be in the relationship between mother and son? In front of the son, how do we do the role of mother?
In the editor's view, the relationship between mother and son is actually a relationship that constantly changes with the child's age, and in each age of the child, the role and status of the mother need to change accordingly, only this dynamic mother-child relationship can achieve more benign development between each other.
Infancy: The mother is the caregiver of the child
After the child is born, it is in a state where everything depends on us to survive, so in early childhood, mothers are the caregivers of the child. The needs of the child need to be met, so that the child can get more security from the mother, and the personality will continue to be nurtured in this satisfaction, becoming more gentle and stable.
In infancy, we need to meet all the needs of the child and give the child the proper care of growth, and the child is attached to his mother. As children grow and they have stronger personal abilities, this attachment will slowly weaken, and this is also the process of the mother gradually letting go.
Childhood: The mother is the leader of the child
When the child grows up and gradually breaks away from our embrace, he knows how to run and begins to go to school, then the mother is no longer just the caregiver of the child, the leader of more of our children. Lead the child into life, lead the child to understand the world, lead the child to show himself, and let the child have a direction for growth step by step.
Therefore, in the process of children's childhood growth, the mother's education is mainly based on guidance, leading by example to give children a good example, taking children to contact the new world, to contact the circle of interpersonal relationships outside the family. This is the key early stage of children's growth, they will experience more under our guidance, and lay the most solid foundation in life.
Juvenile: The mother is the child's counselor
As the child grows up, there will be fewer and fewer parts of our parents who can intervene in the child's life and growth, because the child begins to have his own space and more self-contained ideas. At this time, the mother cannot dominate or even control the child's life as she did as a child, and we need to learn to respect and let go.
But this does not mean that our education abdicates, and the relationship between mother and child should become a listener and a counselor for the child's life. When children encounter difficulties and are confused about life, mothers should use their life experience and experience to enlighten their children, and try to give their children life advice and answer questions for their children.
Adulthood: The mother is the child's waiting
Just as Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Sending", the relationship between parents and children is a process of seeing away, and children are far away from being clingy and intimate to being independent, which is a necessary process in the parent-child relationship. When the child becomes an adult, they need to face life alone and start a family, the child slowly no longer needs us, and the mother becomes the waiting man behind the child.
But in fact, the physical relationship between the flesh is far away does not mean that the emotional relationship between the family is far away, and although the mothers watch the child stay away, they can also wait until the moment when the child returns. At this time, the child is no longer the center of our lives, and the relationship between each other will become more reciprocal relatives.
Important note: The relationship between mother and son is a dynamic process of slowly letting go, and the state of children at different ages is different, from the caregiver of attachment in infancy, to the leader of exploring the world in childhood, to the counselor of personal growth in adolescence, and the prince to the waitress of children in adulthood.
Today's topic: Dear mothers, how are you getting along with your children now? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.