The feelings of a 53-year-old single woman who is the middle manager of a company in the south and has a decent income. When I was young, I didn't like children, and I didn't like the chicken feathers of marriage, and I felt that I had everything, and there was no need for a person to get married.
Her family was not here, she was alone on this side. There are colleagues, there are friends, there are parents at home. She would also go back during the New Year's Festival, so she always felt that she was not lonely, and her parents often urged her at the beginning to take care of her.
But she has a strong personality, and her parents can't do anything about her. Later, she was not mentioned, and the communication between them became less, until one day, the parents were gone.
They want to see their daughters get married in their lifetimes, and they want to hug their grandchildren. But it was impossible, and they left with a lifetime of regrets.
At this time, she suddenly felt lonely, because she had no relatives left. New Year's Day, festival, I don't know if I should go back.
She had lived in the southern city for so many years, and now she felt that she was wandering. She began to panic, she was really very dashing before the age of 40, rich, traveling everywhere, eating and drinking, and her relatives and friends around her were envious of her.
She also felt that she had lived the way she wanted to be. After the age of 40, she slowly felt that she could not play and began to work harder to earn money, because she was afraid that when she got old, no one would give her a pension.
She was afraid of inflation again, and the money was worthless. In 2008, she saved more than 400,000 yuan and felt that it was enough, equivalent to the current 1 million. Slowly, she found that it was not enough.
She also began to visit the nursing home in advance. Went to an upmarket company in all respects satisfied, but too expensive. She saved so much money that it might only be enough to be used until she was 80 years old.
In case they go up in price or the money is not worth it, it's even less enough. Then she went to an ordinary nursing home, the money was enough, but the environment inside was particularly depressing and lifeless, as if everyone was waiting for that moment
Not living in it, she had thought about it; otherwise she would live on her own and not go to a nursing home. But once she had an operation on her uterine fibroids, and there was no sign from her immediate family.
She thought; now she is still awake and can sign it herself, if she has a more serious illness in the future, there is no way to sign it herself. After the operation, it needs to be cared for. She thought about it for half a day and didn't know who to look for.
Finally called my cousin in for a few days. The cousin came, but with a look of reluctance. Because she was not familiar with her cousin, she did not take much care of her, and later she also hired a nurse, but there were some things that the nurse still took care of.
At this time, she deeply realized the powerlessness of not having relatives around. She was also afraid that she would live alone when she was old, and if she got sick, no one might find her, let alone anyone to take care of her.
She also understands that even if you have your own children, you may not be able to provide for the elderly, and if you are sick, you may not be able to take care of you. But at least you still have loved ones, you are not alone in this world, you can pass on your life.
About the child she didn't like when she was young, and now she is almost the age of a grandmother. She always likes to let relatives and friends bring their little children over to play.
She found that she was becoming more and more fond of small children, probably so-called alternate parents. She also finally began to regret it, regretting that she did not have a child of her own, she did not like to travel now, and she had been to many places when she was young, and she was really happy.
But she found that she didn't really like to travel. It may just be a kind of relaxation outside of work, but she has no relatives now, she feels that travel is a kind of wandering, she does not have the state of mind to play.
She thought more about it; what to do after that? She also felt more and more lonely, her friends and girlfriends began to be grandparents, and began to appear various diseases. He simply didn't have the energy to come to see her often, and he often came out to get together.
As the saying goes, parents still have a place to come, parents go only the way home. She's in this state now, desperately trying to make money before she gets old, and then make money.
Just to be able to support herself when she is old, but she is particularly afraid, what if she has Alzheimer's disease? She is not afraid of death, but she is afraid that no one will pay attention to her, afraid that others will calculate her, and even more afraid that she will not be able to change these things.
So she wants to persuade single friends to find their other half and try to find it early. Don't give up as early as she did. If you are really ready to be single for a lifetime, you must have a strong heart, work hard to earn money, so that when you are old, at least there are some guarantees.
Conclusion; Although older, you can also find your beloved. It is true that I did not meet the desired other half at this age, but in any case, there is no need to regret it.
Feelings are about fate, and since this lady's fate has not yet come, let's wait a little longer. Calm down, be optimistic and positive, and believe that you can meet a heartwarming Prince Charming.
Emotional things are sometimes really hard to say, and it is not something that human reason can control. Perhaps in terms of age, height, appearance, and nature of work, they are very compatible, and they are also a natural pair in the eyes of outsiders.
But after the two get together, they can't find the feeling, that is, they can't communicate and communicate further, and they can only go their separate ways. Therefore, the matter of feelings cannot be solved in a hurry.
The first consideration is to sort out your own thinking, find out the reasons for the previous failure, may be too picky, too much pursuit of perfection. In reality, there is no such perfect thing.
Not only is there no perfect man, there is no such thing as any perfect thing. Just as the so-called full moon is a loss, there is no absolute thing in the world. And why bother? And the result of that is self-inflicted troubles.
Therefore, in the next selection of "men", we must lower our own standards, as long as it is not a matter of principle, allow men to have certain small problems, or that sentence people have shortcomings, including their own shortcomings
Single at this age, there is nothing to worry about, as long as you put your mind at ease, treat everything positively and optimistically, lower your requirements appropriately, and believe that the wishful Prince Charming may appear in front of you tomorrow. Finally, good luck. What are your views on this, welcome to comment on the message.
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