Many parents will think that their children are not doing housework when they are young, but only help. For example, let the child wash a bowl, he will accidentally break the bowl, and even unknowingly pick up the fragments with his hands and scratch himself; ask him to sweep the ground, he is very happy, learning the Shaolin sweeping monk comparison, using the home as a martial arts training ground, making it dusty...
There are also many parents who feel that their children's current tasks are to learn, and doing housework is a waste of time. The most typical is some mother-in-law, but whenever parents want to arrange for their children to take out a garbage and sweep the floor, she will intercept them halfway and let the children go back to reading, and she will do it herself. Then he also criticized us for not knowing the importance, saying that children will naturally do housework when they grow up.
There are not a few parents who believe in the above two ideas. It is precisely because of this kind of thinking that we neglect to cultivate the ability of children to do housework.
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What exactly are children doing while they are doing housework?
1. Know how to be grateful
Parents say to their children, "You just have to concentrate on your studies, you don't have to worry about anything else."
The child will naturally feel that he is the center of the family, he naturally feels that others should be good to him, and he should do nothing.
In the process of doing housework, he will realize that his mother usually has so many problems, and it is not easy to do housework at all, only after feeling his mother's feelings, he will feel that he has the responsibility to share.
2. Enhance the organization of doing things
Some parents say that their children are not organized.
A child who has been doing housework since childhood does not have to worry about this. They know when it's best to put salt in cooking, how to wipe the ground so it won't get dirty easily, when to do something, and what works best beforehand.
Housework is tedious and diverse, seemingly small, but in fact, it subtly affects the child's behavior.
3. Enhance hands-on ability
Child psychologist Piaget pointed out that children first develop their minds through movement. The more you like to do it, the more conducive it is to the development of the brain.
Many parents overlook that housework is also a skill. Like the most basic cleaning, to buy vegetables and cook to cut grass and flowers, and then to repair furniture and electrical appliances with higher difficulties, etc., special emphasis is placed on practice.
A mathematician obsessed with theory is not as shrewd as a housewife who travels through the market every day.
Life is a technical job, and reading three cookbooks is not as good as doing it once.
Age comparison table for children doing housework
For children of all ages, there are many kinds of housework worth trying:
1~3 years old: Doing housework is the best game
Eat independently, using a spoon or chopsticks.
Wash your hands and face, you can wipe your hands and face with a towel.
Learn to put on and undress, shoes and socks, and get back in place.
Try to pick up beans, peel eggs, and other labor that exercises fine hand movements.
Organize, classify and place toys.
Break and pair multiple pairs of socks to exercise your child's observation.
Choose your favorite clothing.
Play with the water and wash all kinds of things they want to wash.
Children of this age are very fond of imitation and may be eager to try all kinds of behaviors of adults. This is the embodiment of their desire to explore, and we can give children the opportunity to try as much as possible.
The classification and combination of daily necessities and toys is also a way for children to start math. The housework of this period can also help children exercise large movements and the development of fine hand movements.
4 to 6 years old: Develop imagination and self-confidence in housework
Sweep, mop, and clean the tables and chairs with a rag.
Participate in cooking, making cakes, biscuits, ice cream, etc.
Take care of flowers, pets, and help take care of young siblings.
Pick clothes to match and fold.
Pack your school bag.
Set up utensils and distribute food.
Learn to tie buttons, laces, etc.
Wash fruits and vegetables and beat eggs.
Guide children to conduct hygiene self-examination and develop the habit of self-observation.
Children at this age have a rich imagination and are keen on a variety of "home-making" games. Kids may be more interested in real-life items than toys, so give them some chances to try them out.
The process of children's participation in housework is also a process of constantly discovering self-strength. Children who regularly participate in housework will have more courage to challenge themselves to try new things.
7 to 9 years old: Master the ability to be independent in housework
Hand wash simple laundry.
Learn to use household appliances such as washing machines, vacuum cleaners, and rice cookers.
Try to learn to cook, make a simple breakfast or cook noodles, etc.
Choose dishes, peel shrimp, wash dishes.
Tidy up the room and participate in the furnishings in the home.
Renovation of old objects and hand-created.
Change of personal bedding such as bed linen, quilt covers, pillowcases, etc.
Keep the bedroom tidy and clean regularly.
Assist in cleaning the bathroom, kitchen etc.
Children are born with a desire to be independent, and the more things they can control, the stronger their sense of security and self-motivation. Children will be able to participate more actively in exploration and practice.
9 to 12 years old: master social skills in housework
He is in charge of some of the family's finances, such as arranging the family's book purchase expenses.
Organize family gatherings, write invitation cards, and prepare gifts for guests.
Organize family holiday events and buy holiday supplies.
Organize regular family meetings.
Draw up travel plans and travel strategies.
At this stage, children need to be given more equal rights and participate to some extent in family decision-making.
When children feel respected and able to serve the family, this effort will become the lubricant of the relationship between parents and children, and can also help children better adapt to social life.
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