All the adults were once children, but few remember it.
"When I was six years old, I drew my first painting, my first work, in colored pencil, and it went like this:
I showed this masterpiece of mine to adults, and I asked them if my paintings were frightening them.
They replied to me: What's so terrible about a hat?
I painted a python that was digesting an elephant! How can it be a hat?
So I drew the situation in the belly of the python so that the adults could understand it, and my second work looked like this:
The adults laughed, and they advised me to stop drawing these pythons and focus on geography, history, arithmetic, grammar.
The failure of Works No. 1 and No. 2 discouraged me, and in this way, when I was six years old, I gave up my profession as a painter. ”
In "The Little Prince", he felt that the adults were really boring, but the laughter and incomprehension of the adults still hurt him.
In real life, we rarely see children drawing pythons eating elephants, but we have certainly seen children draw this:
Doesn't it feel familiar? Does it feel like there's something right inside? Red sun, blue sky, green grass, red fruit, brown fences and tree trunks...
Someone did an interesting experiment before, they gathered a group of adults and asked them to pick up a paintbrush and draw, with the theme of the house, around the house, and they could draw whatever they wanted.
As soon as the work is collected, the appearance is almost the same as in the previous picture, most people have the same association and structure of the picture, and it is interesting that there must be grass, trees and fences around each house.
Adults like to put standard answers on everything and tell their children what is right with "profound knowledge."
"The grass is green, the sun is red, it should be painted like this"... When children give different answers, parents will only be busy correcting: "Little children, understand what, don't talk nonsense."
Once saw such a story:
Today is a parent observation day, and there are many parents in the art training class.
One by one, the red sun "rose" from the drawing paper, and the parents were very happy, because their children drew the same big red sun as the teacher's fan painting.
Occasionally, there are a few golden suns, which can be reconciled in the eyes of parents.
Only a little boy drew a black sun, and the little boy just wanted to explain excitedly,
His father hurriedly said, "You have drawn the wrong sun!" The sun should be red, you just taught you forgot? ”
The little boy became overwhelmed, and the pride at the corner of his mouth was too late to be withdrawn, and he said: "At night the sun sleeps, it is invisible, so it is black, and I paint the sun at night."
His father did not understand the child's thoughts, nor did he listen to the child's explanation, and directly went to teach the child...
The child's imagination has become a sin in the eyes of parents who have lost their imagination.
Is there really no black sun? We know there is a total solar eclipse, but we always forget.
One day in the future, when the child finds out that his black sun is real, how ecstatic it must be!
All adults used to be children, but few remember it.
When we were children, we fantasized about birds singing in the silver sea, colorful horses flying in the sky, we wanted to stand on the moon and play indulgently... We always speak of our imagination in a childish tone.
We have to admit that childhood was the most imaginative and creative time of our lives.
Picasso said: "I have spent my whole life learning how to draw like a child."
All children love nonsense, or imagination or imagination, and the parents' approach will directly determine the height of the child's future imagination.
In 1968, a peculiar lawsuit took place in the United States.
A 3-year-old girl named Edith told her mom that she knew the first letter "O" of "OPEN" on the gift box.
The mother was very surprised and asked her how she had met, and Edith said, "Miss Vera taught her."
After the mother praised her daughter, a complaint took Miss Vera's Laura III Kindergarten to court.
Because she thinks that before she knows "O", she can say "O" as an apple, a sun, a football, a bird's egg and other round things.
However, ever since kindergarten taught children to recognize the English alphabet, Edith has lost the ability to imagine.
She demanded that the kindergarten be held accountable for the consequences and compensate Edith for her mental disability of $10 million.
Immediately after the complaint was filed, there was an uproar, and Laura III Kindergarten thought the mother was crazy.
Some parents also thought she was making a big fuss, and her lawyer did not approve of her approach, believing that the lawsuit was a waste of energy, but the mother was determined and insisted on fighting the lawsuit.
Three months later, the case went to trial, and the result was unexpected, and the court ruled that the kindergarten lost the case because of Edith's mother's strong claims.
"Today, I came to fight this lawsuit because I felt that Edith had become a flightless swan in kindergarten.
They cut off one of Edith's wings, one of his fantasy wings, and they threw her early into that little pool, the little pool that only existed in ABC.
For children of this age, I don't need her to learn subject knowledge, I just need her to wander in the pond of imagination. ”
A child's imagination is priceless, and Edith is lucky to have such a mother who defends her imagination.
The best gift a family can give to a child is not to stifle, limit his imagination, encourage the child to express boldly, and let the child have a voice in the world!
When Darwin was a child, he would often ask all kinds of strange "silly" questions:
"Mom, can there be kittens and puppies growing in the dirt?"
"Who was the world's first mother, and who gave birth to her?"
"Who created God?"
His mother, on the other hand, was very fond of his "stupid questions" and gave very patient answers every time, and it was this affirmation and appreciation of his mother that made Darwin plant the seeds of curiosity about all things in his heart from an early age, sprouting and blossoming, so that he later discovered the great theory of evolution.
Darwin recalled: "Without my parents' 'tolerance' of my imagination, I would have been nothing more than an ordinary person. ”
When we face the "nonsense" of our children, patient listening is the best way to give back to our children.
None of us want our children's innate imagination to be innocently damaged, none of us want our children's thinking to be fixed, and we don't want to train our children to be a standard product produced in a workshop.
We hope that our children will be imaginative, fearless, forever young, always proud, and have a pure heart that is not blinded by worldliness and desire to break into the unknown world.
Remember the poems of the children who touched countless people?
lamp
Jiang Eryan | seven years old
Lights put the night
Burned a hole
light
Jiang Eryan is | six years old
At night
I walked with a flashlight
When you're tired, use it as a crutch
I was carrying a beam of light
forgive
Iron Head | eight years old
Spring is here
I went to the creek to smash the ice
Smash spring to the head and break the blood flow
Straight to tears
It's time for the flowers to bloom
It forgets those things
Truly forgive me
Back to the ground
Duo duo | five years old
If you laugh too much
You'll fly into the sky
To get back on the ground
You have to do a sad thing
The trees I painted are so beautiful
Ming zhi | eight years old
I painted the tree
It's so pretty
Next draw the bird
Paint the clouds
Painted ponds and flowers
None of them deserve it
Pick Mom
Jules | eight years old
You ask me what I was doing before I was born
I answer I pick my mother in heaven
I see you
Think you're especially nice
Want to be your son
I thought I might not have that luck
Didn't expect that
Early the next morning
I'm already in your belly
Such clean, soulful language makes adults deeply ashamed.
You will find that the "nonsense" of children is far more profound and moving than we think.
Listen patiently, take care of it patiently, and one day you will be pleasantly surprised.
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