It seems that the tears of the baby are the best weapons in the world.
From the moment a child is born, crying becomes their norm. When they are in a good mood, they cry, when they are hungry, when they urinate, they will turn the crying into a way to communicate with their mother.
When the child can talk, crying becomes a way to vent. They've learned how to express emotions and don't choose to cry when they're happy.
The difference between the baby who shed tears at every turn and the baby who endured not crying is not a little bit in the process of growing up
Some babies seem to have very sensitive tear gland switches, and they cry when they encounter a little problem, even if it is not their fault, they dare not defend, just cry.
If this happens to a little girl, parents may not be so excited, after all, girls have a weak personality and normal, and girls' tears are also the best killer skills.
But if it is a boy who cries and grins all day, the parents will be very sad. As the saying goes, a boy has tears and does not flick, even if he bleeds, he cannot shed tears. It is better for boys to be stronger.
Aspects of the probability of suffering from mental illness
Although the two behaviors of crying at every turn and always holding back tears are very extreme, either of which will make people feel that there is some lack of personality, the probability of the former suffering from mental illness must be much lower than that of the latter.
Because crying is a way to vent emotions, when you are helpless or in pain, hiding and crying is more problem-solving than complaining and asking other people for help.
If you suppress your sad emotions for a long time, sooner or later there will be problems in your heart. If they really can't stand it, they will also hurt their bodies because they are used to hiding themselves.
When the body cannot bear it, it is the choice between outbreak or death. Most of the people with mental illness today are the so-called emotional management masters of the day. That is, the baby who has endured not crying since childhood.
Emotional intelligence development aspects
From the age of 2, the development of emotional intelligence should be put on the agenda. Because as long as it is interacting with the outside world and interacting, it is necessary to assist with emotional intelligence.
Among them, the baby who shed tears at every turn will naturally get more love and concern. It is also known that the crying child has milk to eat. Although the frequency of their tears is a little high, who can refuse the request of a poor girl?
And those babies who have to hold back tears and don't cry, they naturally become the objects of snub. Because they bury their emotions in their hearts. It's hard for other people to know what they're thinking and don't care about them any other way.
Over time, those babies who hold back tears will be labeled as wood. Closing yourself off because you don't want to bother others creates an illusion that is difficult to reach.
Personality development aspect
Those babies who cry at every turn must belong to emotional children. But if reason prevails, how can a child accept himself crying helplessly?
And the child who endures his tears is, of course, the child of reason. They know that crying is not the way and way to solve the problem, and if they have time to cry, it is better to find a solution to the problem quickly!
And the personality between emotional children and rational children will also change subtly. Emotional children cry not only because they have problems, but also cry when they see other people in danger, even when they hear sad stories.
On the contrary, rational children will be very cold. Because I have become accustomed to not crying, when I see other babies crying, not only will I not coax, but I will also pour cold water.
In this way, everyone will choose to associate with the former and not have anything to do with the latter. After all, no one wants to make friends with cold people, if you really encounter something, won't you just laugh at yourself?
If you can neutralize both situations, it is even more perfect
Many parents will think that children who cry at every turn must be inverse quotient, so they should strengthen the guidance and training of children's anti-quotient, and always think of some difficult problems to test their children.
But in fact, when such a situation occurs in a child, it is likely to be insecure. Because I feel that I am alone, I will find a way to attract the attention of my parents, if I change from this aspect, maybe the child's related behavior will be much lighter!
After all, all parents want their children to be more perfect, but if parents don't intervene and just imagine, what is the difference between them and daydreaming?
Today's Topic:
Does your child belong to the former or the latter? Do you think your child's contrarian quotient is high? How will you guide him?