I remember reading a poem when I was a child that still moves me to this day: My father bent his body into a bow to shoot my arrow farther.
This poetic sentence not only describes the father's love for the child to the fullest, but also explains the importance of the father to the healthy growth of the child. The noble man of the child's life is obviously not a teacher or a leader – but a father.
When a child grows up, he will meet a teacher who likes him, and he will also meet a friend or leader who appreciates him, but he can be liked and appreciated by others, and he must have valuable points, and this valuable place is the strong vitality that has been given from childhood, and has been marked with a beautiful life background. This is why fathers bend their bodies into a bow shape, in order to make their children go farther and fly higher.
Lin Huiyin is one of the few women in the Republic of China who is both talented and happy in marriage, but few people know his father, Lin Changmin, who is the cousin of Lin Juemin, one of the 72 martyrs of Huanghuagang.
Lin Changmin did not give up the cultivation of Lin Hui because she was a girl. In order to broaden his daughter's horizons and free herself from the trivial affairs of daily life, he took her on a tour of Europe.
This had an extremely important and far-reaching impact on Lin Huiyin's growth, and it was during her travels that she was exposed to European art education and laid a solid foundation for her future as a famous architect.
What I admire most, however, is her profound insight into love and marriage. In the face of Xu Zhimo's crazy pursuit, she always remained calm, and finally rejected him, and Liang Sicheng eventually became a family member, and was happy and happy in life.
Years later, she told her son Liang Congjie: "Xu Zhimo did not love the real me at that time, but Lin Huiyin he imagined with the romantic emotions of a poet, but I was not actually the person he thought in his mind." ”
A woman who can have such awareness and awareness must have grown up under the watering of strong fatherly love. Because her father made her understand from an early age what is true love, what is her own love, and what is the love worth cherishing for a lifetime.
If the girl does not receive sufficient father's love, the soul will be in a state of malnutrition and ignorance, not only will she be insecure and confident, but she will also be extremely vulnerable to unladylike people and step into the hell of marriage, because she does not understand what true love is.
A good friend of mine was born into a poor family, but he worked tirelessly all the way to get a PhD and achieved good results in his work.
When asked, "How did you do it?", his answer was unexpected: "I am not very smart, but I have met many noble people who have helped me greatly in my most difficult times." Many people envy my luck, but I think that the reason why I have met so many people who are willing to help me is because of my hard work and kindness, and these good qualities are deeply influenced by my father. In fact, my father is my nobleman. ”
In contemporary society, the father seems to have taken a back seat and become a marginalized and dispensable person. Every mother is doing her best to find good educational resources for her children, but she does not know that the person close at hand is the person whose child needs the most and has a decisive role in the child's growth, that is, the father.
If you turn a blind eye to the existence and value of your father, but for the sake of your child's beautiful life, you are looking for noble people outside the family, which is tantamount to "holding a golden rice bowl and asking for rice."
Every father should be aware of his or her value and mission to the family and children, and strive to make himself a noble person for his children and families:
Love your wife
The gift a child wants most is to see his father love his mother deeply. You must learn to respect your wife, see your wife, thank your wife for her dedication and hard work for the family, and the child will respect and love your other half in the future.
Children who grow up in a loving family will love themselves, love others, have the ability to love, and will have a happy family life in the future.
Read and think
Graduating from school only after completing your studies does not mean that you can stop studying, especially after becoming a father, you must be more active and work hard to learn and grow with your children.
In learning with children, you will be more aware of your own shortcomings, more fully understand your own strengths and weaknesses, more clearly understand yourself, know your children, and also establish a good parent-child relationship with your children. Your own improvement in all aspects gives the child a better example, the child's starting point will be higher, and the future development will be better.
Play with your child
Although the father takes the child is not as gentle and meticulous as the mother, the father will encourage the child to take risks, explore and try, which is conducive to the child's ability to "develop outward".
You may wish to spend more time with your children outdoors, playing football or running. Children can not only exercise and develop exercise habits, but also form an optimistic, cheerful, cooperative, and persistent character, thus forming a healthy personality.
Physically and mentally healthy children will never be too bad in learning and life, and the road in the future will be wider and the development space will be greater.
Help your child plan their lives.
Only the father who loves learning, is diligent in thinking, and fully understands himself and the child will have the ability to help the child plan his life, and the child will respect and listen to the father's advice.
Children are minors, and they need the correct guidance and help of adults in order to better recognize and find their own development path, and make unremitting efforts for it. Children have their own life goals, in order to take every step with peace of mind, it is easier to achieve success and happiness.
"Father's love is like a mountain" not only refers to the depth and calmness of the father's love, but also the father's love is as tall as a mountain, and the child can stand on the mountain, see farther, and fly higher.