Text/Flying Fish
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Mr. Yang Dai once said: "We once longed so much for the waves of fate, and in the end we found that the most beautiful scenery of life is actually calm and calm in our hearts." ”
In this life, everything cannot be done too full, everything cannot be excessive, and it is necessary to know how to stop at the right time.
For example, the matter of feelings, suitable is appropriate, inappropriate is inappropriate, like is like, dislike is dislike, love is love, no love is not love, do not force others, do not be too attached to themselves, too persistent will often become paranoid, can not let go, can not consider the feelings of others, will always impose their own forever on others, is torture for both people.
Feelings of this matter, pay attention to fate, fate is not exhausted, cherish well, fate has been exhausted, learn to let go, do not have to entangle, is the best decency.
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In this life, people should not be obsessed, learn to let go, learn not to entangle, since the fate has been exhausted, two people are separated, we must learn to accept calmly, no longer disturb, is the best gentleness, not because of separation, still do not let go of themselves, do not let go of each other, still have to entangle each other, to disturb each other's lives, so that the good memories of the past that two people have all become nightmares, so why bother.
Remembering the story of a couple in "Gold Medal Mediation", when the woman first opened at the age of 19, she met a husband who was nine years older than her, and the love could not be stopped, the woman did not think too much, she impulsively married the man with a license, at that time there was nothing to him, nor did she ask for a bride price, and followed him away.
But after getting married, the woman found that this husband loved gambling too much, and even had a low eye, and only wanted to make a lot of money, but he would not live a down-to-earth life.
After a woman becomes pregnant, following his life, she will eat a hungry meal, this kind of day, too terrible, and want to persuade him to change, do not go to gambling again, seriously find a job, the family lives a stable life, but the husband just does not listen, can not change, but more idle, idle, do not want to change the status quo.
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And he has no skills, no education, low-wage jobs he still hates, and high-paying jobs others do not want him, so he has not worked, has been playing cards at home, thinking of gambling to make a lot of money.
The woman finally had enough and was disappointed, and the man could not change, so he chose to divorce and did not want to live such a life.
After the divorce of two people, the woman thinks that she is liberated, but she does not think that the man has been pestering himself, disturbing his life, always wanting to propose remarriage, no matter how the woman refuses, the man is always obstinate, only want to remarry with her, regardless of whether the woman is willing or not.
In this way, the man pestered the woman for fourteen years, and has been repeating itself, and even as long as the woman has found a boyfriend again, he will go to her house to make an extreme way, wanting to die with her. Knowing that women have remarried, they come every three or five to make trouble, and never let women have a peaceful life.
Women are very scared because men have seriously threatened their personal safety, so they apply to mediate.
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The end of this marriage, did not expect to spend more than ten years, women live every day frightened, and men always feel that they are right, feel that they love her, for her, more than ten years have not remarried, from young to old, has always wanted to remarry with her.
But men don't know, in fact, from the moment of divorce, the fate has come to an end, all because of their own obsession, because of their own paranoia, wishful thinking about others, whether others like it or not, willing or not, he will only think about himself, will not consider others at all, like a devil entangled with others, and even let his daughter's psychology bring a huge shadow.
This man, in the final analysis, is a scoundrel, women are remarried, but still rely on her, not love at all, but domination.
Men also go to the law and commit crimes because of their own obsession, hurting the personal safety of others.
True love is something that knows how to be fulfilled. When the fate of two people has been exhausted, they will leave with dignity, complete each other, wish each other a happy life in the future, and will not come back to pestering each other and disturbing each other's lives.
Selfish people will think that as long as they appear in front of her repeatedly, they can save her, but they can never hear the rejection expressed by the other party, and they never solve the problem that others have rejected him again, and they have clearly drawn a clear line and do not communicate again.
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Guo Ziying said in "Plain as Mud, Silent as a Mystery", "Small full is not enough, so thriving, this is just like life, always need a little expectation, a little progress, bring a little satisfaction, and life is not too full, because small full is complete." ”
In life, sometimes being separated is not necessarily a good thing, but because of separation, we can really know each other and find our own happiness again.
Man, be measured, know how to close, know how to put down, leave a little space for others, and leave yourself a little retreat, don't have to make the relationship too ugly.
When the fate is over, it is necessary to be willing to stop contacting, there is no need to break into each other's lives, there is no need to continue to disturb each other.
Learning to let go and let go, not to bother, is a sign of true adult maturity.
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