I want my children to be excellent and grow up quickly to be the way my parents want them to be, so I discipline them strictly in life. Subconsciously, as long as parents do things in the way they set, children will certainly fade to excellence. But parents forget that all things grow regularly, and if they pull up seedlings to promote growth, it will only be counterproductive.
"Persecution education" is the housekeeping skill of many parents, but they do not know: children are like sand in their hands, the tighter they are forced, the faster they leak. The greatest danger of persecution education is to put children on the opposite side and never consider their feelings.
It is thought that persecution can make children grow faster, but the result is persecution that makes children more mediocre. Because in the persecution of parents, children have no way to be themselves, not even the right to express themselves, and are completely "puppets" in the hands of their parents. If you grow up in such an environment, you will only become a full-fledged "mother treasure" and "nibbling old".
Especially these things, please don't force your child anymore
1. Force children to perform
In order to get the praise and envy of others, many parents force their children to perform in public, such an "embarrassing" thing, I believe many children have met. Parents are happy to compare, but they don't know how sad the child is inside. They are like "toys", waiting for the comments of the crowd, with no self-esteem and ideas to speak of.
2, force children to suffer losses
Some parents' brain circuits really can't understand and communicate, and they actually force their children to suffer losses. Although the old saying goes: losing is a blessing, on the road of life, suffering a loss will make children develop a psychology that is easy to compromise. When encountering anything, do not dare to fight for themselves, especially easy to be bullied by others, is this the result that parents want?
3, force children to be brave
Obviously do not dare to do things, but have to force children to do, such parents are really unqualified. Imagine if you are afraid of heights, will you try with all your strength? There is nothing wrong with being brave, but each child has limited abilities, and if they show serious timidity, then parents should not force it.
4. Force children to sleep in separate rooms
When can children sleep in separate rooms? Many parents say: three or five years old, but this is not the exact answer. Age is never the reason when it comes to sleeping in separate rooms, the focus is on whether the child is brave and independent enough. Sleeping in separate rooms, to overcome psychological fears, as well as inner imagination, this parents should be clear.
Persecution will not grow, but will make children lose self-confidence, and even become timid and cowardly. True excellence is poured out by parents with love and encouragement, because children who are surrounded by love are rich in heart and brave and fearless.