We face a variety of choices in marriage, such as choosing to be a stay-at-home mom or "white-collar, backbone, elite"? The question is not which choice is absolutely correct, but what mindset you face it with, which will determine the final outcome. Today, we will talk about the topic of highly educated women choosing to be full-time mothers.
Girlfriend Xiaofang is a master's degree graduate of Beijing Normal University, once a famous school teacher, full-time mothers like her in the eyes of others, wasted their hard-earned academic qualifications, did not make good use of their talents and professional training to support themselves in society. Although they know that being a stay-at-home mother will have an immeasurable effect on the character development of the next generation, they will inevitably have regrets and entanglements.
Xiaofang told me about one of her classmates, an executive of a large company, who had been divorced twice, and the children did not talk to her rebelliously. Occasionally seeing each other, always envious of Xiaofang's life.
Some of the part-time moms need to rely on work to survive, and some want to get enough sense of accomplishment and independence through work. These working moms are also guilty because they don't have much time to grow up with their children.
Choose to get started better
Career is a tool to earn money, and career requires true love. Home is a haven of love, isn't it more worthy of our business?
When Xiaofang's work was flourishing, her husband was also on the rise, business trips were commonplace, and all the trivialities of life were lost to her. During the days when the husband was at home, they often quarreled, and during that time, the child's education went wrong.
She was called to the school by the teacher to talk because the child had no intention of learning. Slowly found that the child's emotions became dull and depressed, showing inferiority and timidity.
One weekend, she accompanied her son to the xiaoshengchu cram school, with the class Teacher Wang is a familiar person, Teacher Wang joked: You have a strong sense of enterprise, sell yourself to the unit is to make a contribution, people educate their children well is not to do business? Is it not a contribution to cultivating a high-end talent for the country? At that moment, Xiao Fang was awakened by the poke.
Parents know that educating children is really not an easy task, and it is not too much to say that "raising children is like starting a company, parents are CEOs" is not exaggerated! A good career requires careful management.
After repeated consideration and consultation with her family, she gave up her job, became a full-time mother in the family division of labor, fully managed her own life, and began to accompany her children's education.
While combing and helping children get out of difficulties and rebuilding family affection, trust and self-confidence, she also began to plan family financial management, and diversified investment reserves through multiple channels.
Despite the exhaustion to the point of collapse, her son's change gave her confidence, and the profitability of investment and financial management also gave her enough confidence in life.
Later, his son was admitted to Peking University in the college entrance examination, and her husband also knew how to cherish family life in the envy and praise of the people around him.
In her junior year, her son used the salary earned from his own internship to take Xiaofang on an in-depth tour of Japan, and when the mother and son walked side by side in the empty and quiet snow of Hokkaido, she shed hot tears, and at that moment, she completed her self-redemption.
Being a stay-at-home mom is her own choice, and her son applied for a master's and doctoral degree at a university in the United States two years ago on a full scholarship. Xiaofang said that every choice of her own is worth looking forward to.
Take the time to run your life and choose to achieve your own happiness
What kind of life a person lives is something that they can decide, and a good self should have courage to bow their heads and have confidence in looking up.
Sun Yanzi, who is popular throughout Asia, graduated from Nanyang Technological University in Singapore. In order to find the life she wants and accompany her family, she gave up her career at the peak of her life three times and chose to retire and return to her family.
She lives a spontaneous and natural life, in her conception that "singing is what I like, but life is very important, love and family are the first." As a singer, it may be difficult for someone to understand that girls who have won so many awards will soon fight for the peak of their careers at a good age, and it is not a pity to choose to leave?
Choosing to leave means losing fans, losing exposure and earning opportunities, and losing the possibility of becoming a winner in life in the eyes of others. Of course, she understands that highlight moments can indeed give people a sense of "protagonist", but that is not the daily life after all. Everything needs to be maintained, and the family needs to be run.
Sun Yanzi is a person who lives through, as she sang in "Start to Understand": "It is still good to have yesterday, but tomorrow is her own; I began to understand, happiness is the choice." ”
From falling in love to getting married and having children, she is with people she likes, doing what she likes, and living a happy life.
People who live seriously will never be disappointed
If the seed is the cause, the harvest is the effect, and your efforts can dominate the course of life.
Ms. Jiang Peirong is the China General Interviewer at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in the United States. However, she is proud of Mr. Lin as a good wife and a good mother of three sons.
She has worked in many world-renowned multinational companies and successfully started a business, and her career is smooth sailing and the prospects are bright. After becoming a mother, she resolutely decided to retract the light and return to the family, because she wanted to be with her children and accompany them to grow up.
She managed and maintained her marriage with her heart, adhering to the principle of marriage first, and taking precedence over her children in marriage with her husband, laying a solid foundation for a healthy family. In children's education, insist on shaping children's character and urge children to be diligent and persistent in moving forward. Her common goal with her children is to participate in life's marathon, not a high-scoring exam.
When a strong woman in the workplace puts all her enthusiasm and wisdom into the family life of her husband and godson, her family is no longer just an ordinary family of five, but a luminous body. Achieve yourself and illuminate others.
Now, her eldest son, Kevin, has been accepted to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, not only because of His high score, but also because of his many original musical compositions and a 100,000-word novel. Doesn't this surprising young man reflect her stay-at-home mom's achievements?
The so-called high education should not be to let a person learn how to think, cope, be optimistic, and be brave in life? And that requires wisdom.
Seeing her girlfriend Xiaofang again, her eyes are full of tenderness of the years, and the clouds between her eyebrows are light and breezy. She said that she never felt a loss, and the occasional fleeting regret was also filled in by her, and she enjoyed running her own life.
Highly educated full-time mothers have the wisdom to dominate the family course, and a good life needs to be managed with heart. Perhaps, rubbing life into the years, fireworks and tenderness infiltrating the body and mind, with poetry and distance, is the greatest respect for life.