Xiao Chen recently had a headache for the child's mischievous mischief. The school holidays, the children stay at home, and finally experience the mischievous children in the teacher's mouth. Le Le is the baby of the Xiao Chen family, brought by his grandparents before he was three years old, and received from his parents when he was in kindergarten.
Usually Xiao Chen and his two sons are busy with work, the child is picked up and dropped off at kindergarten, and he accompanies the child to walk around on weekends, eats, drinks, and plays, and does not feel how naughty the child is.
Now the winter vacation at home, that noisy, the vase at home is broken, Xiao Chen's cosmetics are smeared everywhere by Lele, staying at home is restless, just like the teacher said that Lele is a naughty child, but also need parents and teachers to guide together. In fact, Xiao Chen knew that the children in the class all said that Lele was a bad child, loved to do damage, took the lead in shouting, and originally thought that the child was very good at home, and it would be good to wait for a long time.
The recent performance of Lele at home is really a headache, what should such a child do?
Naughty children, naughty children are not different, we must look at the child objectively and fairly, and we must actively guide the child, we must use a patient attitude, carefully observe the child, and take corresponding measures for the child's personality.
Speaking of mischievous, I have to say Xiao Doudou, this classmate is a headache for the teacher, the child who was dropped out of school, see how her mother educated her?
The book written by Japanese writer Ryoko Kuroche is similar to an autobiography based on a true story that happened when she was in elementary school.
Tetsuko Kuroyanagi (born 9 August 1933) is a japanese writer, NHK television presenter, best-selling author, UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador, Chairman of the "Little BeanIe Foundation for Social Welfare", Director of the "Box of Social Welfare Corporation", Member of the "Japanese Literature Club", Japanese Director of the "World Conservation Fund", and Director of the "Iwasaki Picture Album Museum". In February 1984, she was appointed UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.
When she was a child, she didn't know that she had been "dropped out" because of naughtiness, and her mother never told her. In school, Xiao Doudou often attracted the attention of her classmates because of some of her own actions, and the teacher often criticized the girl's undisciplined behavior. In the end, he was talked to by his parents and led back by his mother.
Xiao Doudou is a mischievous child, in our words often say that it is a bear child, but in her mother's view, the child is healthy and upward, and there are excellent qualities behind Xiao Doudou's behavior. So Xiao Doudou's mother found a school for her - Ba Gakuen.
It is the mother's insistence, believing in her own children, giving the child the correct guidance, and not telling the child about the problem that the original school teacher thinks of Xiao Doudou, and respecting Xiao Doudou. No matter what Xiao Doudou plans to do in the future, whether she wants to be a conductor or a singer, her mother supports her ideals.
Many mothers will be angry when they hear that their children will grow up to be drivers, or sell roasted sweet potatoes. You should be like the little bean mother, kindly tell the child, yes, as long as you like. Respect for the child, understanding of the child, the child is willing to rely on, willing to talk to our parents.
The growth of Xiao Doudou is inseparable from the teaching of her mother and Principal Kobayashi.
Studying at Ba Gakuen changed her life, and her excellent foundation for life was consolidated.
This story takes place in Tokyo before World War II, and although it is a long time ago, Ba Gakuen's educational philosophy has always led to education.
Principal Kobayashi of Ba Gakuen said, "No matter which child is born, he has good qualities. In the process of his growth, he will be affected a lot, from the surrounding environment, but also from the influence of adults, these good qualities may be damaged, so we must discover these good qualities early and cultivate them into personality-rich people."
This is like what we Chinese often say, "At the beginning of man, nature is good", because of the influence of the environment, we also know "Mengmu Three Migrations". It is also because education has artificial factors: "The son does not teach, the father's fault, the teaching is not strict, and the teacher is lazy"
Aren't naughty kids good kids?
In "The Little Bean by the Window", the author Black Cherry Willow, that is, the little beanie in the book, because in the ordinary school, all kinds of naughtiness, provoked the teacher to be very angry, only the first grade was withdrawn.
Xiao Doudou's various behaviors in school make the teacher very angry, thinking that her behavior is very bad, and it also affects the teacher's teaching and affects the learning of other students.
Xiao Doudou's mother is a mother who is very good at educating children, and did not send Doudou to Ba Gakuen because of the criticism of the previous teacher, and sent Doudou to Ba Gakuen.
Children's growth requires respect
Xiao Doudou went to Ba Gakuen and received her, Principal Kobayashi, who could squat down and listen to her, and say anything, as long as she liked to talk. The first time they met, Xiao Doudou talked to Principal Xiaolin, and Xiao Doudou actually spoke for four hours, but the principal smiled slightly during these four hours, and did not show impatience or boredom. It was this principal who influenced her whole life.
Xiao Doudou is particularly happy in Ba Gakuen, and the friends in Ba Gakuen are also very welcoming to her, and what happens here is very interesting. Originally, Xiao Doudou was a "little trouble" in other schools and grew up happily here.
In "The Little Beanie by the Window", The little beanie's wallet fell out of the toilet, and she liked to look down when she went to the toilet, and dropped the wallet into the toilet. She actually went to the school worker to get the tools herself, and took the toilet herself. When Xiao Doudou took out the toilet, the principal saw it, and Xiao Doudou began to be very nervous, but he did not expect the principal to say that he remembered to put it back after taking it out. There was no blame for the little beanie for soiling the clothes and the floor.
At Ba Gakuen, Principal Kobayashi's educational philosophy is to let children communicate with him equally and listen carefully to them. This is not like the average adult, used to use their own thoughts to ask children what they need to do, what can not be done, which will make children very disgusted, and we adults will feel that children are disobedient.
In Ba Gakuen, the growth of children is more of encouragement, less blame, understanding what is behind the child's behavior, and rarely imprisoning children.
And look at more of our parents who don't know how to educate, always say how their children are disobedient, how can they be so naughty and love to make trouble? In fact, more is our parents are using our adult thinking to understand the children's behavior, for the children's curiosity is more of a stifling, just like the school before the little bean, the teacher only blamed the child's naughty behavior, did not chat with the child in depth, and did not pay attention to the child Why do this?
Teach children to love and be tolerant according to their aptitudes
Each child has its own unique temperament, Ba Gakuen has a different educational method, there are different ways of education for different children, but for each child is caring, and tolerate the child's shortcomings, to praise and encourage the children's strengths.
Educating children, starting from children's interests, learning is everywhere, not limited to books. In the little bits and pieces of life, children can also learn more knowledge, such as eating in Ba Gakuen, the taste of the mountains and the taste of the sea, so that children also learn more knowledge in eating, and each child is equal, and does not feel that who brings the bento is good or bad.
Every child is kind and has excellent qualities, and as an educator, I hope to love children like Principal Kobayashi, willing to listen to children, and tolerate children. We parents are also, as the child's first teacher, understand the child, communicate with the child, even if the child is naughty and makes mistakes, we should not hold on to the mistakes, we should listen to the children talk about the reasons behind the matter. This way the parent-child link is more intimate.
As a child, I prefer small beans. I hope there is a school like Ba Gakuen, right?
I hope that all parents and educators can learn from Xiao Doudou's mother and Principal Kobayashi, treat their children according to their aptitudes, and educate their children to moisturize and be silent.