The hurt of the doting of the next generation, although it will not be immediate, will appear sooner or later.
Today's family education model is that 6 adults circle around a small baby. Some people are specifically responsible for the baby's life diet, and some people are specifically responsible for the baby's school pick-up. Although it seems that the division of labor is clear, it is actually an "undercurrent" that competes with each other.
Because every family member feels that their own way of education is the most correct, they all want to let the baby grow up according to their own requirements, but we have to admit this fact: the next generation of parents = doting.
The 4-year-old baby was dropped out of school 3 times, and the teachers shook their heads when they saw it
The 4-year-old Xiao Doudou should go to kindergarten, but just the day before the kindergarten started, the kindergarten director personally called Doudou's mother and told her not to send Doudou to the kindergarten again, and the other parents of the kindergarten said that if Doudou continued to go to school, they would all leave the kindergarten.
In the face of threats from other parents, the head of the kindergarten can only suggest that Doudou's mother choose a kindergarten for him again, after all, we must adhere to the principle of the minority obeying the majority, and the interests of other babies are the majority.
Hearing this, Doudou's mother was not surprised, because this was not the first time she had faced such embarrassment, she had had 2 times experience before, and the words of other teachers were ten thousand times more difficult than this, so she did not make a big fuss, but was very calm.
Because she knows her children better than anyone, even if the teacher does not complain, she can think of what Doudou did in kindergarten, and she will hit her when she raises her hand, and drop things if she does not go well. What he wants, other children must not touch.
The teacher said bluntly: If you continue to coddle, no kindergarten can teach it.
In fact, Doudou did not behave so rudely before, but when Doudou was 1 and a half years old, there was a problem with the small business operated by the family, and Doudou's mother had to rush to the front line to solve it, and she could only hand over Doudou to her grandmother to take care of.
Slowly it became what it is now. Grandma Beanie almost spoiled Bean Bean to the sky, next to Grandma, he can lie down to eat, watch TV whenever he wants, it is also a response. Grandma is absolutely competent and has never let her grandchildren down.
But after such coddling, The personality of Doudou has undergone great changes, as the saying goes, learn badly for three days, learn well for three years! No, now the consequences have surfaced, and there is no kindergarten that is willing to accept beans!
Why do the elderly people in the next generation spoil their children so much?
Those who owe it to their children want to compensate their grandchildren
Many young parents are always busy with work when raising their children, and they want to provide the best material life for their children, which is bound to sacrifice some companionship for their children. But what can they do?
In this way, when their children have babies, most of them have retired, and there is only a lot of time left, and they will double the compensation to their grandchildren for the companionship and care they once owed to their children.
So, it's not that they don't have a temper, they don't want to lose their temper, they don't want to hurt the baby in any way, but it's this kind of unrestrained protection that makes the little ones lawless.
Educational thinking is too backward
In the eyes of all the older generations, they will not feel that their behavior is coddling, there is nothing wrong, they just follow their own inner thoughts, feel that this is conducive to the growth of the baby, they can not listen to anyone's dissuasion.
It is also a kind of good intention to do bad things. When their children accuse them of spoiling their children, they will still feel very wronged, I work hard to build time to take care of the baby, but finally end up complaining?
Moreover, they will rely on their own so-called experience to beat a rake backwards. I can raise you, can't I raise this little one? This is the biggest flaw in them, stubborn and not enterprising!
The internal involvement of society is too serious, and it is rolled up to the grandson
I would like to ask, what is the hope of a retired old man and old lady? Isn't it family harmony and filial piety of children? Whoever marries well, earns more money from work, and gives birth to a small doll are the contents of their inner volume.
In their eyes, the eating and wearing degree of the little dolls represents their strength level, and wearing famous brands to eat imported food is synonymous with high society. Compare yourself to each other and spend time on your child. I don't know what the point is!
Alpaca mom has something to say:
It is a bit of a pipe dream to unify the educational thinking of the whole family, but young people must know how to "brainwash" and guide the older generation, telling them what the current way of education is like, and what kind of education is the mainstream.
Reason with them, the reason why they will do wrong behavior is because of ignorance, our task is to help them fill the blanks in the brain, only by letting their concepts change, the baby's future development will be more promising, right?
Today's Topic:
What would you do if your parents doted on your child? Welcome to share your thoughts!