After 17 years abroad, I have not heard from them so far, and my parents are waiting at home, but I have not been able to see my daughter for the last time.
This is not storytelling, an old couple in Dalian has experienced such a human tragedy,
Their daughter Cao Qian studied abroad many years ago, and broke off contact with her family.
Parents are suffering from cancer, waiting hard, wanting to see their daughter for the last time,
But Cao Qian never responded, why was she so desperate? How did this family tragedy happen?
Born into a farming family, his parents looked forward to his daughter Chengfeng
Cao Qian was born into a peasant family in Dalian, and the family depended on the harvest in the fields to survive.
Father Cao had read for several years, but the conditions at home were too poor and he dropped out of school.
With the help of his family, Cao's father married very early and lived on his own.
Although they got married early, the couple had children very late.
This is because the wife is not in good health and has been recuperating during the period.
It wasn't until Cao's father was 25 years old that the two finally got a baby daughter.
Family planning in the northeast region is very strict, so the Cao couple has no idea of having another one.
Began to cultivate Cao Qian with all his strength and regarded her daughter as a treasure.
Although the conditions at home are not good, Father Cao still does his best to give his children the best life and not let the children suffer too much.
Cao Qian is also very sensible, since she was a quiet personality, she has never complained about the bad family, and has always been very strong.
At the age of school, Cao's father began to become strict with his daughter.
Because the Cao couple, whose ancestors have been farmers for generations, believe that reading can get ahead,
Ask your daughter to study hard and get ahead.
This situation is almost a microcosm of the vast number of peasants on the land of China, hoping that their sons and daughters can change their fate through reading.
There was nothing to question, but Father Cao's methods were too fierce and tough, resulting in some changes in the situation.
In the primary school stage, Cao Qian performed well, every year she was a good student, and various awards were soft.
Her parents were very proud, pasting her awards all over the house, and whenever people came to visit, they would perform a wave of Chinese bragging.
However, when Cao Qian went to junior high school, the contradictions with her family began to increase.
Cao Qian began to become rebellious and unwilling to accept more discipline from her parents.
Such a situation is also a normal situation of adolescent psychological development, and if it is correctly guided, the result can still be controlled.
But unfortunately, Father Cao did not have much educational experience, and for many years he had a paternalistic style.
He could not accept the rebuttal, so he began to use tough means to deal with Cao Qian's frequent scolding,
The father and daughter did not communicate and communicate, and when they met, they did not deal with each other, and they were in a state of all-out Cold War.
As an ordinary housewife, the mother also lacks experience in educating her children, and can only try to reconcile the father-daughter contradiction in the middle.
Of course, more often than not, he reprimanded Cao Qian with Cao Qian's father, and the couple jointly put pressure on Cao Qian.
The family atmosphere became more and more eccentric, and Cao Qian's relationship with her family was also bad.
The time gradually came to the end of the college entrance examination, and Cao Qian was eager to get out of the control of her parents when filling out the volunteer form.
So she chose only the southern university, and there was no school near her home.
Cao Qian's intention to flee was too clear, and she did not even consult with her parents and directly decided.
Cao Qian thought she could do what she wanted, but she still looked down on her parents.
When the admission letter came down, several gilded characters of "Liaoning Normal University" came into view.
Her parents changed her volunteers without authorization, deleting all the universities in the south and keeping only the schools in the northeast region.
After Cao Qian learned of such news, she trembled with anger and yelled at her father in extreme anger.
Cao's father did not pay attention to his daughter's opinion, and directly slapped him down and reprimanded Cao Qian loudly.
Cao Qian felt the blood rushing towards her brain, and her eyes were pitch black, and she cried out loudly.
Study abroad, no news
In the summer vacation after the end of the college entrance examination, Cao Qian experienced a roller coaster-like tragic and happy encounter.
But she was a strong girl, and after wiping away her tears, she calmly thought about her future.
At present, she does not have any means of livelihood, no capital to confront her parents, and wait until she enters college to find a way to get out of her parents' control.
After going to college, Cao Qian felt happier than ever,
Without the discipline of her parents, she made her own decisions, and this feeling made her obsessed.
During her college years, Cao Qian had a bold idea that she wanted to study abroad, no longer stay in China, and enjoy greater freedom.
As soon as this thought appeared in her mind, it never dissipated, and Cao Qian wanted to go abroad.
In order to achieve this goal, she needs to improve her academic performance, actively participate in activities, and enrich her resume.
The most important thing is to seek the consent of the parents, and the support of the parents in the early stages.
The Cao couple are both very supportive of their daughter's idea, and the word study abroad sounds very high-end.
No one in the family has ever been able to go abroad, so this is a matter of honoring the ancestors.
After considering the prospects, or do you want to return to reality, what should you do with the money to study abroad?
The conditions in Cao Qian's family are not good, and the source of income for her parents is also very small, and the 80,000 yuan for studying abroad is a big number.
For the sake of Cao Qian's future, Cao Qian's father took out all the money in the family, and the remaining gap was borrowed from relatives and friends.
Pulling down the old face, I finally made up enough money.
Cao Qian's results meet the conditions for studying abroad, and after applying for a visa, Cao Qian took a plane to Germany and officially began her study abroad trip.
Cao Qian is full of longing and yearning for foreign countries, fantasizing that it is paradise.
But when she actually came to Germany, she knew the cruelty of reality.
The prices here are very high, and the money brought from the family is simply not enough,
In addition, according to school regulations, Cao Qian could not go out to work, so she could only ask for help from her family.
The family is really not rich, and can not give Cao Qian more support.
Cao Qian made several phone calls to her home, and each time she asked for money and gave her parents a problem.
After her parents insisted on remitting more than 30,000 yuan, they finally said a few words to Cao Qian, calling her a "white-eyed wolf" and "not filial piety".
Cao Qian watched the phone being hung up, and her heart was cold.
Cao Qian was abroad, under great psychological pressure, and was questioned fiercely by her parents.
The thread in her heart collapsed, and she never opened her mouth to care about her parents asking for money, nor did she ever send news to the family again, a posture of evaporation in the world.
The Cao couple who were far away in China only received two letters and a few phone calls from Cao Qian at the beginning, and then there was no news of their daughter.
After Cao Qian's parents could not receive news from their daughter, they thought of various ways to contact Cao Qian.
But the two peasants did not have so many relationships to use, and Cao Qian was in Germany.
There is no channel at all, so this disappearance is 17 years, and Cao Qian has not been in contact with her family.
Her parents were suffering from cancer, and her daughter never showed up
We don't know how Cao Qian's life is, but Cao's husband and wife live in deep trouble.
Previously, in order to make up for Cao Qian's tuition, the two borrowed money from relatives, thinking that when Cao Qian returned from school, they could repay this money.
However, Cao Qian has not been informed, and the creditors have been forced many times, so they can only repay the debt on their own.
The two couples relied on the output in the field and struggled to pay off the money.
But before they could catch their breath, the two of them found cancer during the physical examination, and such a blow suddenly crushed them.
The daughter is in a foreign country, there has been no news, she is suffering from cancer, the family is on the verge of collapse, and the Cao couple does not know where the road is.
As the two old people grew older, they gradually lost the ability to work,
They can only live on the government's 1,000 yuan a month, which is enough for their daily expenses.
However, for the treatment of diseases, it is a drop in the bucket, and the illness of two people can only be dragged on like this, and finally it becomes more and more serious.
The local media learned of this news and began to mobilize forces to find people and try their best to help the two elderly people.
Thanks to the efforts of many parties, many volunteers began to join the search team and exchange information among the German Chinese.
After many inquiries, they learned that Cao Qian had returned to China to visit friends.
Such news made the Cao couple feel cold, the daughter was not in an accident, she just did not want to see them!
Under the huge blow, the two old men had no heart and only wanted to see their daughter before they died.
But such a request could not be satisfied, and Cao Qian herself did not appear, but only brought a message: "I don't want to see them"!
According to the clues found by the media, Cao Qian changed her name after graduating in Germany and did not want her family to find her.
Therefore, in the search for people some time ago, it took a long time to find some information.
Cao Qian, who now settles in Germany, has started a family, and works as a professor at a university, making a good living.
However, she just did not want to see her parents, according to the disclosure of insiders, Cao Qian said in the exchange of resentment towards her parents,
The extreme control of her parents makes her unable to breathe and feel the warmth of the family.
Therefore, he completely cut off contact with his family and did not return to China to visit for many years.
In this way, Cao Qian has not returned to China, and cao's husband and wife have persisted for five years under the invasion of cancer.
The two couples died one after another and did not see their daughters.
Since that parting 17 years ago, the family has been separated by thousands of miles and have never seen each other again.
Even if Cao Qian knew about her parents' condition and learned the news that they were suffering from cancer,
He also did not return to China to visit, and eventually the stalemate reached the last moment of his parents' lives.
Cao Qian may have a lot of bitterness, she suffered hardships in the early years, but after so many years of washing, she still can't forget.
Such a human tragedy makes people cry, and I hope that there will be less hatred among relatives in the world, more mutual affection, and hand in hand.