Many people will be very anxious when they are redeemed, do not know what to do, and do not know whether girls will accept themselves again and get back together? As a result, many mistakes in redemption were made. In fact, if you want to save each other, you may not be very active, sometimes use some methods, in fact, you can also let the ex take the initiative to save you. Doesn't it feel hard to achieve? In fact, it is very simple to do, so how to do it?
The first thing to do is to adjust the status
Brothers should know that sometimes saving is not to save a relationship, but more importantly, in the process of redemption, to repair their inner pain and give themselves a relieved answer. That is to say, sometimes it is not the relationship that is saved, but yourself.
Some brothers after the breakup, after a long time, or indulge in sadness, can not eat all day, can not sleep, can not understand why the other party will propose to break up? But if you think about it, if you've always been like this, can the other person see it? The other party can't see it, and even if she knows it, she won't sympathize with you. So the first step we have to do is to adjust our state first.
The second is to show value
As we adjust our state, we must also build self-confidence, enhance our value, and then show our value to each other after we are finished. For example, in terms of appearance, you can learn to dress yourself, change your previous image, and change your style. If you really don't know how to do it, you can check out my man's charm column.
In terms of career, you can work hard, learn more, and show your positive side after you are done. When the other party sees that you have to change some changes, she will slowly change some negative impressions of you, have a new understanding of you, and even re-attract the other party. Then this means that your redemption is about to succeed.
Finally, learn to guide each other
I found that many people like to ask each other questions after breaking up: "Have you ever loved me?" "In fact, it is really not necessary. If the two of you still have contact information, but you send her a message, she just won't reply to you, so what to do?
Then you need to go and see, what is the content of the chat between the two of you? If you always send her something: "What are you doing?" "Why don't you reply to my message?" "Are you going back to me?" "Why are you so cold to me?" 'Can't even make friends after breaking up?' Wait, then it's normal for her not to reply to you, because such a message is meaningless, so don't send this information.
If you want the other party to be able to reply to you, it is actually important to choose the right chat topic. For example, you can ask the other person some more answerable questions: "I am really sad after the breakup, I have been reflecting on myself, I want to ask you, what else do I have to offer?" In this way, the other party will unconsciously say your strengths under your guidance. After that, she will easily develop psychological identification, which will strengthen her positive impression of you. Slowly like this, she will feel: Hey, in fact, he is still very good, do I want to give him another chance? You see, your purpose has been achieved.