Why is the man so desperate after proposing to break up?

I have always said that men are absolutely infatuated, and women are amorous but ruthless, so after a breakup, it is far easier for women to save men than men to women.

Why is the man so desperate after proposing to break up?

It's just because I'm afraid of you pestering, afraid of getting involved with you, so that you can die as soon as possible and accept the fact of breaking up.

Therefore, it is not so much that men are desperate, but rather that they are afraid of trouble.

The man is very smart, he has a prejudgment of your series of behaviors, so not replying to the message is not because he does not love you, but he prejudged that your various clever or clumsy excuses point to the intention of compounding;

Men are very lazy, since he decided to break up with you, then afraid of you crying, afraid of you swearing, afraid of your entanglement and other kinds of redemption behavior, in order to avoid letting himself enter hard mode again, he simply avoids you from afar.

The man is very sensible, he knows what he wants, and he also clearly has a value ranking of what he wants. So even if he still loves you, if he finds that you are no longer suitable, you do not meet his requirements for mate selection, you are not suitable for marriage, he will still break up.

Yes, men are such men who are afraid of trouble, and there are quite a few men who are afraid of trouble.

So, once a man has the idea of breaking up, or has another love, you can no longer get him back? of course not! This is also the funny thing about men.

Since men can redeem it, how should we redeem it?

Men and women have constant frictions in their relationship, but they are not aware of it, and naturally they cannot explore their very different emotional needs, so they instinctively do not know how to provide emotional support to each other.

We know that a woman's greatest emotional need for a man is love. Especially many women are lack of love, as long as the man is loyal and good to the woman, the woman will love him warmly and do everything possible to be better for him.

But for men, love is always just the icing on the cake, and it is not good to say that it is "dispensable".

So what are the core emotional needs of men in intimate relationships?

More realistically, there are not a few men who do not consider love as an absolute element when they are married. To put it more seriously, there is even no love, as long as the other party meets their own mate selection requirements, men can live with them. In the eyes of men, even if there is no fierce love, but two people live together, day by day, feelings will naturally cultivate. The passionate feelings only bored him.

So, in a sense, men do not have such high emotional appeals to women, in addition to sexual desires, there is a requirement for girls - "respect".

That said, many of the strengths you have, such as empathy, resourcefulness, financial independence, and dedication, are all pluses rather than necessities for them.

Women are more romantic, but also greedy, hope that men set romance, respect, understanding, communication, intimacy, security... Equal to oneness – such a man, of course, exists only in the imagination of women.

In contrast, men also have two demands – sex and respect.

Men's sexual appeals, everyone can understand, the loss of women with whom they can maintain a sexual relationship, is very fatal for men. Even to some extent, even if the relationship with women has been indifferent, as long as they do not find a new suitable woman, men will not make up their minds to break up.

As for "respect," the most convincing is the teaching in the Holy One: a man must love his wife as he loves himself; a wife must respect her husband. What could be clearer, more decisive, and more profound than this description?

So how to satisfy the man's demand for "respect" and thus save him?

Follow the men.

Let them want to do everything "unexpectedly" smoothly, grasp the big and let go of the small, as long as it does not hurt your fundamentals, it will "smooth the hair".

First of all, respect men's breakup requirements and gradually eliminate each other's antagonistic emotions.

Of course, it is not for you to really break up, you can use the other party's guilt and take the opportunity to make some preparations.

• When the other person proposes to break up, you are calm and acceptable, and then generously bless the other person... (Take the opportunity to make a small request to leave yourself a way back, be a friend or keep contact information)
• Don't dwell on it, just say things like "I understand you and take good care of yourself". (Just for a period of time not to look for him, men break up generally feel free and stress-free first, and then feel the pain of hindsight, let them pass the cool stage, you appear again)

When you are unusual, he must have muttered in his heart:

She accepted the fact of the breakup so decisively, would she have been dissatisfied with me long ago, and would have liked me to mention the breakup!

She doesn't complain or attack, she does things so atmospherically and dashingly, how could I have thought of breaking up with her?

Did she really not hold back at all? Did she ever love me? Are those good in the past all disguises?

Shouldn't I break up?

As a result, he will constantly reflect on the doubts in this state of cognitive dissonance, and the seed of 'breaking up is wrong' is planted.

Those questions, of course, he had no way of knowing, would also torment him deeply for countless nights to come!

When a man is confused, anxious, and uncertain - he turns back to you, is it not just around the corner?

Finally, I hope that girls in love can get out of the emotional framework and see the real world outside of emotions, a lover who is different from your planet.

May you learn to appreciate the spring, summer, autumn and winter of love from a realistic perspective, and the change of seasons will also help you overcome the obstacles in the relationship and let the magic of love continue to remain vibrant.