Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In the marriage of men and women, people are always willing to stand in the queue of women and tell women: "Don't marry wrongly, otherwise the rest of your life will only be accompanied by misfortune"!
In fact, a man's wrong marriage and a woman's wrong marriage are the same misfortune.
After the end of a failed marriage relationship, as long as a woman has a few postures and fertility, she is often more "sought-after" than a man! Because, in the eyes of many people, a man's divorce is the existence of price reduction. Or, some people think that as long as the man is divorced, he must be the party with the greatest problem and responsibility.
This one-sided argument also greatly makes too many men lose their "advantage" in the marriage relationship.
In real life, because of a failed marriage, a person completely loses the ability to love life, men are not a minority.
Some men, after saying goodbye to a past that cannot be looked back, will be devastated for a long time! Because, he can no longer take out his heart to believe in a woman!
Unless, in his lonely days, a woman appears and gives him new hope, he must have lived "ego" either fully into his personal work or in the two extremes of a broken jar.
In the relationship between men and women, probably because women want to marry into other doors, there is a personal extreme caution about what kind of man is worth marrying, and there are also extremely heartfelt "advice" from others.
However, very few people tell men what kind of women are worth marrying!
Come to think of it, the equality of feelings between men and women, in the two issues of how to choose a mate, who is the most responsible person for the failure of marriage, has there been inequality, right?
A woman carries the feng shui of a family and carries the fate of a man for the rest of his life. Once the wrong marriage is initiated, it is a man's doom for the rest of his life.
The good woman jujube in "Fences And Women and Dogs", on the beauty and kindness, is simply a superior woman. From her unhappy marriage with Ge Tongsuo, I believe that few people say that Ge Tongsuo is a "man", let alone a "good man".
When Ge Tongsuo was waiting for Jujube Flower, he didn't know how many people were going to wear into the screen and teach Ge Tongsuo a painful lesson. But when we delve into the jujube flowers and their people and see the happiness and prosperity of the days after the combination of Ge Tongsuo and the dog's leftover daughter-in-law, we find that:
Some men's "bad" are really toxic women, forcing "bad"!
To tell the truth, the author never wants to wash anything white for the domestic violence man Ge Copper Lock, the author only wants to say, "for a wife" can not make dates!
A "good woman" like Jujube is not suitable for marrying into the door at all! The reason is simple:
First: selection and acceptance, jujube flowers can not be distinguished
Jujube flowers and small geng green plum bamboo horses. However, the unsightly "feelings" between jujube flowers and the old man of the Ge family made jujube choose to obey her mother and marry Ge Tongsuo, who had no feelings, in front of filial piety.
This marriage, Jujube could have refused at the time, but she did not!
If a person can understand how to live in the moment, she will definitely take responsibility for her own choices in the moment and accept the moment wholeheartedly!
However, Jujube accepted the arranged Ge Copper Lock, or broke the connection with Xiao Geng. Such an act of not giving up the ex, replaced by anyone is a Ge Bronze Lock, is difficult to accept.
Perhaps, some people will think that Ge Tongsuo can choose divorce, but should not hit the jujube flower! But has anyone ever thought that since Jujube could not be separated from Xiao Geng, why did she choose to accept it in the first place, and then she could not let go of Ge Tongsuo? Finally, what about causing pain to three people?
In the face of possessiveness and self-esteem, Ge Tongsuo's fists and feet are hateful, but they are also understandable.
Adults should have the ability to bear the consequences of their choices. Jujube's confusion lies in the fact that she has always been a paradox who accepts choices but does not accept reality.
In real life, no matter what the reason, resulting in a woman can not forget the ex and still have contact with the ex, the man must be cautious to marry. Otherwise, in the face of such a broken thread, if a man cannot control his emotions, he must be cursed like Ge Tongsuo.
As a wife, you should always consider your own reputation and men's self-esteem, if you don't even care about the current days, personal interior and men's feelings for the sake of the ex, such a woman will certainly not be able to marry even if she is as good as a thousand!
Second: The past and the current are always confused, which is really confusing
In Fences Woman and Dog, it's clear that anyone is luckier than Jujube! The main reason for jujube's misfortune comes from her "confused" life.
If it is said that the combination with Ge Tongsuo is an arranged combination, unfortunately it is the grievance of jujube, then later married to the ex Xiao Geng, why is jujube still unhappy?
From this point of view, a woman is becoming more and more unfortunate, completely determined by her "confusion".
When he was with Ge Tongsuo, in the face of Xiao Geng's eyes with tears of affection, together with Xiao Geng, he began to care for Ge Tongsuo and lived a difficult life, carrying Xiao Geng to lend money to Ge Tongsuo... What is this kind of bottomless crossing the line, not self-inflicted?
Yes, no matter who she was with, Jujube did not actually commit a betrayal, but the mere "crossing the line" has made her real man's head fresh! Who can bear it?
If, when jujube and Kudzu lock together, they can completely break off contact with Xiao Geng, Ge Tongsuo's fist will definitely be replaced by gentle care!
If Jujube can take out half of the care that he cared about Ge Tongsuo when he was with Xiao Geng later, and treat the former Ge Tongsuo, then Jujube must be happy!
If Jujube can marry Xiao Geng and Ge Tongsuo less "mutual care", Xiao Geng's careful eyes will definitely be covered by the happiness of the jujube cloud.
Who the predecessor is, and who is the current, the jujube flower is always unclear! It seems that no matter who she chooses, she can be involved with her ex continuously! If so, why would happiness favor someone who doesn't know how to cherish?
Women, although they must have their own ideas, must not be based on "destroying" the current emotional relationship.
Although there are too many inappropriate words and deeds in the heart, although the Ge Copper Lock, who does not love the Ge Copper Lock, is partially combined, this is really "forced" by the jujube flower!
Deeply in love with Xiao Geng finally combined, the heart is partial and "can't forget" the good of the Ge family, horizontal and vertical want to "the east family eats the west family to live"?
Jujube flowers are very good, but they are emotionally unclear!
A woman like Jujube, although she is as good as ever, but she is confused in her feelings, she is never worth being married into the door by a man! Because, the ex's constant relationships and the woman who doesn't know how to manage feelings and cherish the person in front of her, you can never let her settle down for herself!
Confused women, life will become more and more complicated, unfortunate will always follow! Mainly, her misfortune will affect everyone around her who cares about her.
It is precisely because a woman like Jujube cannot find the center of gravity of the emotional relationship, so she will be looked down upon, until finally gradually alienated from her!
The woman who is really worth marrying may not look so closed and shy, and her personality may be very strong, but she will definitely be responsible, single-minded, and focused on the current relationship, and will not make the people in front of her miserable because of her close contact with other people of the opposite sex or because of the inability to give up her ex.
At any given time, a woman's best self-love and self-esteem is to maintain a healthy distance from any member of the opposite sex outside of the current relationship. Only in this way can we be entitled to love and be happy!
Men marry their wives not only for the sake of passing on the generations, but also to make their lives shine with sunshine. The wrongly married person will block all the sunlight above the man's head, and the days will be full of haze.
Life is not easy, marriage and love need to be more cautious, do not try to be happy for a while, just invite the wrong person into their own life! Hope all men are encouraged!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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