In this day and age, being a "stay-at-home mom" is no longer an enviable thing. Ten years earlier, when you watched a blind date show, if the male guest said, "The female guest does not need to work, I can let you live the life of the husband and son", the resident audience at the bottom will issue a cry of envy, which is the embodiment of women living a worry-free life.
Now, you say in public that you are a full-time mother, public opinion will appear a kind of yin and yang weird voice, full-time mothers will be marked with a lot of negative labels, such as: unkempt, disconnected from society, college in vain, no social contribution, lazy, do not go out to make money.
In aging and established developed countries, such as Japan and Germany, stay-at-home moms are treated as careers. Although full-time mothers have no income, they can occupy the personal income tax quota and play a role in reducing the family's personal income tax. At the same time, society's respect for stay-at-home moms is well done. There are universities in Japan that specialize in training excellent stay-at-home moms, and it is public consciousness for German women to become stay-at-home moms after giving birth. Even few people hire a nanny to raise their children, and even wealthy families are often brought up by mothers themselves, and stay-at-home moms are seen as great professions. In Germany, mothers who do not bring their children in person will even be regarded as a different kind of protagonist of social and humanistic programs and made into a documentary.
The reason for the high status of stay-at-home mothers in the old capitalist countries in society is that there is a general awareness of the important role that mothers play in the development of their children. From the basic education level, the public has been trained to grasp and understand this idea from an early age, and the state also provides guarantees, even if single mothers are full-time at home with their children, social security also provides funds and living conditions to protect the rights of mothers. Respect for maternal rights is the driving force behind population growth.
Chinese mothers after the 80s and 90s are very embarrassed. When the post-80s and post-90s were still children, many people became left-behind children, even if they did not become left-behind children, they also became "caged birds" who were locked up at home by their dual-career parents from childhood to adulthood. Parents want to go to work, parents are afraid of their children's accidents, parents are afraid of their children's loss, and various reasons lead to the lack of companionship in the growth of the 80s and 90s.
When the post-80s and post-90s became fathers and mothers, they suddenly found that no matter what they did, it seemed to be wrong. Choosing to accompany children, to face social pressure, to be a "full-time father", "full-time mother" will be put on a lot of negative hats. Choose to work hard and continue to let your children learn to play alone as they did in the past, and in the end education experts will criticize: you only care about making money, you don't know how to accompany your children.
When a post-80s and post-90s stay-at-home mom is criticized as "unqualified" to be a stay-at-home mom, it's actually unfair. Modern female consciousness is awakened, but the position of awakening is located on the "demand side", pursuing the realization of personal value and the enjoyment of life. However, the "contribution end" and the "responsibility end" are not awakened, and there is a lack of empathy for those mothers who are awakened in the "contribution section" and the "responsibility end".
In fact, each "full-time mother" can only be full-time for a few years, after the school replaces the responsibility of part of the parents, "full-time mothers" will still return to social life, "full-time mothers" can be regarded as an experience, bringing social experience, as rich in commercial value. A full-time mother who graduated from Peking University discovered the method of parenting in the process of being a full-time mother, became a sister with education books and goods, and became a billionaire. Respecting the lifestyle of others and encouraging each other in a social atmosphere will bring more good mood to everyone.