Early in the morning, a girl sent a message asking me what I thought of the domestic violence incident of a man in Xi'an.
To be honest, I've never hit anyone, and I can't figure out why some men beat their wives. After every exposure of domestic violence, there are always people who excuse men, saying that it will not be a woman's cheating, and the child is not biological. Even if there is such a situation, I don't think it should be solved through domestic violence. In any case, it is very immoral for a man to use his physical strength to beat a woman who is powerless to resist.
Coincidentally, I am recently revisiting a classic Korean drama "The Temptation of a Wife", and I will discuss the issue of domestic violence by analyzing the plot of this drama.
"The Temptation of the Wife", starring Zhang Ruixi and others, has been remade in China and named "The Temptation to Go Home". The plot of this Korean drama has always been criticized for dog blood. Born poor, but the gentle and virtuous young girl Gu Encai was raped by the rich man Zheng Qiaobin, married into the Zheng family after pregnancy, washed and cooked like a maid every day, but has been subjected to all kinds of difficulties and bullying by her mother-in-law, while her husband is looking for flowers and asking willows behind her back.
Encai's girlfriend Ellie was jealous of Encai, seduced Zheng Qiaobin with her beauty, and gave birth to an illegitimate child, who was sent to France to study. After returning from school, Ellie deliberately drives Encai away, marries Zheng Qiaobin, and drags Encai into the sea with Zheng Qiaobin, hoping to drown her.
Eun Seol didn't die, but the baby in his belly was miscarried. After Eun Cai returns, he is determined to take revenge. She pretended to be another woman, lured her ex-husband, remarried into the Zheng family, and drove Ellie away; later, she took away all the family property of her ex-husband's family, making her ex-husband's family poor; in a series of fights with Ellie, she took away everything Ellie had, and finally Ellie found herself with stomach cancer and endured the torment of illness.
A pair of scumbags and scumbags finally repented, and in order to atone for their sins, they jumped into the sea where they had dragged Grace into the water.
There are many flaws in the plot of this drama, but there are two points worth affirming, that is, the nature of scumbags and scumbags is vividly interpreted. Scumbags are generally either domestic violence, or cheating, and some are both derailed and domestic violence. These scumbags usually have no ability, they are strong in the outside, they can bully their wives at home, and they are very bad on the outside.
In this drama, Zheng Qiaobin scolds Encai and Ai Li lightly, beats him heavily, and bullies in every way, but in fact, he is a very cowardly and ridiculous man, and anyone outside can bully him and deceive him. Previously, he could still rely on the family's wealth and act recklessly, but after Encai took revenge and took away all his property, he immediately became nothing, lost his basic ability to survive, and became a parasite and a scoundrel.
The nature of scumbags seems to be difficult to change, no matter which woman it is, it is difficult to live with scumbags. Encai was wronged in the Zheng family, and After Ellie deliberately drove Encai away and replaced her, she did not get the happiness she wanted, and she was also disliked by the scumbag and insulted by her mother-in-law.
In the play, Encai completes revenge in a very bizarre way, punishes scumbags and scumbags, and makes the audience laugh, but in reality, this method is almost non-operational and can only be watched on TV.
This time, the wife of Xi'an directly chose to report in the face of domestic violence, so that the domestic violence man was discredited, which was more direct and effective than the complex way used by Encai in the TV series.
Facts have also proved that whether it is school bullying or domestic violence, if the victim chooses to endure in silence and does not know how to resist, it will only make the perpetrator more profitable and make himself a lamb to be slaughtered.
The domestic violence incident in Xi'an also confirms another problem, that is, in marriage, money, work, etc. can not be the only consideration.
The male protagonist in this domestic violence incident belongs to the employees of state-owned enterprises, in the northern city of Xi'an, private enterprises are not developed, and the employees of state-owned enterprises are undoubtedly more attractive to women in the marriage market because of their iron rice bowls, stable work and better welfare benefits, and have become the most important favorable conditions for some women's parents. But having a good job and being able to make money does not mean that you have a good character, a good personality, and no violent tendencies; nor does it mean that you can live a happy life when you get married.
Of course, I'm not saying that men without money won't cheat and commit domestic violence.
I just want to say that in the process of finding a target, in addition to taking into account the work and economic conditions, personality and ideological concepts are also issues to be considered.
But even if there are thousands of choices, there is still a possibility of falling into the pit in the end, after all, people will change and will also disguise themselves. Before the scumbag showed his true nature, no one knew whether he would be violent and cheat.
But once this situation is discovered after marriage, there is only one way to divorce. The story of Gu Encai also proves that indulging in scumbags does not make the other party appreciate you, it will only make him worse, and it will also make him more unfortunate.
Not every woman who is dragged into the sea by her husband can climb out of the water like Gu Encai. Man cannot wait for tragedy to occur and his entire life to be ruined before choosing revenge.