All outstanding extraordinary people have wonderful mothers. —English writer Dickens
The movie "Forrest Gump" is a classic in the classic, a fool who lives a more brilliant life than normal people. Forrest Gump's success is mainly due to his mother's successful teaching. His mother firmly told him that only those who do stupid things are fools, and that he is no different from others. She encouraged and guided Forrest Gump to explore the meaning and value of life. It can be said that she is a mother who knows how to let go.
Today, we are going to talk about the movie "Childhood Promise", the male protagonist Roman's mother and Forrest Gump's mother are very different, and even subvert our imagination.
The Promise of Childhood is based on the autobiographical novel of the same name by French writer Romain Gary. Roman Gary's life is full of legends, he is the only writer in the history of the Goncourt Literary Prize to win two times (once by his real name, once under a pen name), and he has written 34 novels in his lifetime, which is the first person in French literature. During World War II, he joined the Air Force of the "Free France" and was awarded the Order of Liberation and became an Air Force Hero. At the same time, he is also the French representative to the United Nations, the consul general in Los Angeles, and a diplomat without compromise.
This film critic is about how Roman Gary, spurred on by her mother, has gradually achieved all the goals her mother has set for her.
<h1>01 Dare to confront fate is genius. - Hugo</h1>
There is one thing in the world that we cannot choose, and that is birth. Roman in the film has been dependent on his mother since he was a child, living a life of displacement, and because of his Jewish identity, they have suffered from scorn and discrimination.
Roman's mother was a fierce and brave woman. At the beginning of the film, someone maliciously reported her theft, and the police entered the house and smashed the things in the house, deliberately making things difficult for her. Not only was she not afraid, but she rushed out with her son in her arms, shouting to her neighbors who discriminated against them: "This is my son, and he will certainly become a French diplomat and a famous writer, and a general." ”
After listening to her words, the neighbors laughed wildly to taunt the mother and son. For the first time, 10-year-old Roman understood what humiliation is. For the first time, he kicked down a stool, dropped something on the table, vowed to fulfill his mother's promise, and fight for her and himself. There is a quote in the film that Roman said: Everything I have now is because of that day.
Roman's mother did not say anything wild, her purpose in doing so was to let Roman know that in this world, others will only mock the weak and fear the strong. Only if you are strong enough, others will not bully you.
In order to help Roman become a real strongman, her mother paid attention to Roman's education from an early age, social etiquette, shooting, marksmanship, violin, etc., she believes that the upper class needs to learn etiquette and knowledge, all let him try to learn, she is sure that these things, Roman will one day come in handy.
However, she stifled Roman's dream of becoming a painter. She believes that painters are generally poor, and writers are more influential. In the decades that Roman grew up, she encouraged and urged him to become a writer. Even when Roman was on the battlefield or sick in bed, she still demanded that Roman keep working.
<h1>02 Choice is greater than effort. --Jack Ma</h1>
Perhaps, you will feel that the mother has manipulated Roman's life, and she wants her children to live as she sees them. In fact, Roman's mother is completely different from those parents who hope to become a dragon. She had Jewish shrewdness and strategy, and she was only forward-looking, helping Roman choose a path that suited him best.
Because she knows that as a Jew, it is difficult to have equal choice, and you only deserve the respect of others if you become strong. Roman's mother sold women's shoes in Poland, but was discriminated against because she was Jewish. She opened a clothing store because Mrs. Rich often paid on credit, and eventually declared bankruptcy. She went to the door to collect money, and Mrs. Rich not only humiliated her, but also blasted her out of the door.
Young Roman saw this, and he vowed to turn things around and make the world submit to his mother, to be worthy of her. He is willing to dedicate his life to this goal.
It can be said that Roman's life is to achieve this goal, which is all the meaning of his life. Unfortunately, by the time he became famous, his mother had been dead for 3 years. At the end of the film, Roman says sadly, "I did everything she wanted me to do... It's useless. She's gone. Does she know how much I went through to get someone to make this dress in London? She never knew I had fulfilled my promise. ”
<h1>03 A good mother is worth a hundred teachers. —George Herbert</h1>
As the saying goes, parents are a child's first teacher. A person's three views are closely related to the original family. The mother said to Roman, "A man has only three things worth fighting with others, woman, honor, France".
Learning that the other children humiliated their mothers, Roman just chose to be silent, and the mother slapped Roman fiercely and told him: "The next time someone humiliates your mother, I hope you are carried back!" Remember my words, from now on, you have to stand up for me, I don't care how big their fists are, it doesn't hurt at all, you have to die for me. ”
These earnest teachings of his mother transformed Roman from a timid and cowardly little boy into a brave man. He dared to fight for his country and beat the doctor who humiliated his mother.
No matter how strong the mother, she has a tender side. The mother feared that Roman would not survive the news of his death. So she wrote 250 letters on the eve of her deathbed and commissioned a friend to mail two letters a week to Roman after her death.
Mother is not a control freak, she knows how to let go when it is time to let go. She replied in her final letter: "... Remember, you don't need me anymore. You've grown up and are no longer a child. Son, I want to express my marriage..."
<h1>04 The secret of success is to never change the established purpose. - Rousseau</h1>
Roman eventually became a writer, a diplomat, a general because he was determined enough to be his goal. Even if his life is full of thorns, bumps into walls everywhere, he is rejected, he is discriminated against in the army, he is sent to Africa, etc., his mother gave him a strong spiritual belief, which has always inspired him to grit his teeth and support him to the end.
What you believe, you will become. In fact, there is a psychological basis. A person's inner projection can change the direction of the outcome of things. Psychology refers to this phenomenon as "self-justifying prophecy":
Self-fulfilling prophecy is a common psychological symptom that means that people unconsciously act on known prophecies and eventually make predictions happen.
It can also refer to what you expect from others, which affects the other person's behavior, and this treatment will cause that person's behavior to be consistent with your initial expectations, and eventually lead to your expectations come true.
The mother wanted Roman to become a writer or a general, and then guided Roman with her thoughts and actions according to her own vision. Roman accepted her subtle influence and kept pushing himself to be that kind of person.
The language of parents implies that there is an immeasurable impact on children. Catherine Hepburn, the most awarded actress in Oscar history. She is the representative of modern women, alternative, individual, strong, and adventurous. She once said: "Most people have believed since childhood that they are as good as the people around them, and I have been told that I am better." ”
She said the biggest gift her parents had given her was freedom from fear. So from an early age, she was able to stick to herself and dare to try many things that traditional women dare not do.
epilogue:
A different mother, a different life. "The Promise of Childhood" Douban score is as high as 8.3, you can imagine how much people love it. This is a masterpiece that can make people taste again and again, never-ending maternal love, harmonious and warm family interaction, difficult and floating bitter life, let people see joy and tears intertwined.
This film subverts our previous cognition, allows us to see a completely different mother image, and also allows us to see the will and strength of the little people in the hard life, never give up.
Nietzsche once said, "Those who cannot kill us will eventually make us stronger." "No matter what fate has given us, we must learn to fight for our lives and move forward."
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