"I vowed to turn things around, to make the world submit to my mother, to make her sacrifice meaningful."
This is the protagonist of the movie "The Promise of Childhood", Roman Gary made a solemn promise to his beloved mother in childhood.
This French autobiographical film, with a Douban score of 8.3, was released in France on December 20, 2017, directed by Eric Babel, and starring Pierre Nienet, Charlotte Gainsbud, Didier Bourdon, Jean-Pierre Darusson.
The film is based on the autobiographical novel of the same name, in which the young master Roman recalls the past of living with his mother Nina and expresses his deep attachment to his mother.
Mother Nina is a strong, individualistic woman who carries her son alone and supports the family by making hats for the noble ladies. She firmly believed that her son would become an ambassador of France, a famous writer, a hero with medals.
Such high expectations from the mother once became a heavy pressure on the son's heart.
As the workshop business improved day by day, orders for sewing clothes and hats increased greatly, and their lives naturally became more spacious. Nina hired a bunch of teachers and customized a strict study plan for her son, including music, dance, and social etiquette, to prepare him for entering the upper echelons of society.
Later, when the workshop went bankrupt, little Roman promised his mother: "I vow to turn the situation around, let the world surrender to my mother, and make her sacrifice meaningful." ”
During World War II, Roman served as a pilot, and in the days of war, Nina wrote a letter urging her son not to give up writing.
In order not to disappoint his mother, Roman seized all the time to write, often from late at night until dawn.
He made great achievements in Africa, was awarded medals by de Gaulle himself, and his books written during the war were published. Roman returns home with published books and medallions on his chest, eager to see a smile on his mother's face, but is unexpectedly told that her mother has been dead for three years.
The doctor told him that your mother had written 250 letters before she died and had them sent to you twice a week. She said that you need your mother's encouragement, and if you know the bad news that your mother has died, you will not be able to live.
Roman wept bitterly and fell into the trough like stepping into the air, he did not know what it meant to achieve everything without a mother in the world.
Nina, a maverick woman, and her strong maternal love for her son filled Gary's life with twists and turns, and made him an important writer of the 20th century. Just such endless maternal love will eventually become a burden on his life.
This film, for a strong mother's love, there are three aspects worth pondering: the importance of maternal love to a person's growth, what is the harm of a strong mother's intervention in children's interest, and the impact of the mother's strong excess on children's adulthood.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the importance of maternal love for a person's growth</h1>
Roman has always been dependent on his mother, he is a very obedient son, and his mother's teachings have always been kept in mind. According to his mother's wishes, he tried to learn the violin, learn dance shooting and writing.
Finally, under the constant supervision of his mother, the first short story was published in the newspaper, and then he completed 34 novels, two of which were adapted into films, won two Goncourt Prizes, and became the first person in the French literary world.
As soon as he boarded the plane on the battlefield, he placed a picture of his mother directly in front of him. At the critical moment of life and death of the artillery attack, his mother's eyes have been watching him, and his mother's love is like a shadow accompanying him.
When the plane was hit, he suffered a serious injury to his abdomen, and his mother's eyes encouraged him, determined not to give up his life. Roman maneuvered the plane in severe pain, led his companions with injured eyes, completed the mission, and finally returned to the ground safely.
As a result, he became a hero, receiving medals from de Gaulle himself; books written in the spare time of the battlefield were successfully published, fulfilling his mother's wishes.
It can be seen that maternal love guides and encourages a person's childhood, and constantly supervises, which plays a decisive role in his future success.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the harm of strong maternal love to interventions in children's interest</h1>
Nina adopted encouragement + forced education for her son, she first told her son that he had the talent to play the violin, but after his son tried, he resolutely refused to continue learning the violin, and she could only give up.
Her son loved to draw, and Nina died at the age of 35 because Van Gogh, though talented, was poor when she was alive. She asked her son to give up painting and try to practice writing, because Goethe and Hugo would be able to honor themselves when they were alive.
It doesn't matter if Roman doesn't have a talent for dance and music, Nina firmly believes that her son has a talent for writing and can become famous when he is alive. In my mother's eyes, a master of French literature is on the rise. She told her son categorically: he would become Goethe, Tolstoy, Hugo!
The first time he heard his mother say this in public, Roman was very embarrassed, he hid in the attic and cried bitterly, and later deprived of his interest in painting by his mother, and Roman resented his mother.
Strong maternal love, depriving a child of his favorite things, may make him lose touch with greater achievements, and may also lead to his lifelong unhappiness.
Roman eventually succeeded in writing, but he did not find true joy in life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the effects of excessive maternal love on children as adults</h1>
At the end of the film, Roman states:
I did everything she asked for, I did everything, but she was gone, she died without seeing anything, she never knew I had fulfilled my promise. Life is impermanent, making childhood promises unfulfilled, and after that, you will be empty and hungry until the end of your life. Whenever a woman takes you into her arms and tells you what she wants, it is just a scrap of food, and they say they love you with their gentle lips, but you know that a long time ago you found the sweet spring and drank it all.
Obviously, maternal love is the pillar of Roman's life, and no woman can give him true happiness.
I am afraid that Nina did not think that excessive maternal love, resulting in Roman unable to feel other happiness and happiness, this problem is very serious enough to arouse the attention of all mothers.
We all know that maternal love is limited and the needs of children are long-lasting. All mothers in the world cannot accompany their children for a lifetime.
When the child has grown up, the rational mother should understand that in time to slowly withdraw from the child's life, let him grow healthily outside the mother's arms, this is the greatest place of maternal love.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
Parents of contemporary children are keen to give their children a variety of tutoring classes, just like Nina in the last century, hoping to become a dragon and a woman to become a phoenix.
The curriculum of the tutoring class occupies the time for children to play after school and on weekends, which seriously affects the children's happiness. Cultivating a child's interest is a good thing, but once the transition is made, it is counterproductive.
Some children are very talented in a certain field, and under the pressure of their parents, the initial interest becomes a tiresome burden, unwilling to practice well, and failing to live up to the precious gifts given by God.
Parents should not judge with the eyes of adults, give up what is useless, have no future, and the hobbies that children really like, they should resolutely oppose, and they should combine natural interests well and give moderate supervision, which is what parents should do well.
Mother's love should not be the source of children's lifelong happiness, and mothers have the responsibility to guide their children and discover more beauty in the world. Mothers should carefully understand the needs of their children most and teach them the ability to achieve long-term happiness.
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