Over the years, I have successively attended the weddings of many classmates, especially those in the same dormitory in the university, and I was shocked to find a strange phenomenon - the marriage partner they were looking for was very ordinary, very ordinary!
I remember when we went to school, I especially liked to chase dramas, but there was only one computer in the dormitory, and it was the only desktop computer that a local girl in the city brought from home.
After the chase, we began to "lie down" at night, and you said what was the perfect other half in each mind? He said that he must find some kind of person in the future.
At that time, we were very simple, very happy and really flower idiots who got rid of the "appearance association".
But after a few years, I found that our mate selection criteria have changed a lot, and it seems that everyone is not the ideal type of marriage in the end.
The 168 cm urban girl married a 172 cm woven country boy
The deepest impression is the only city in our dormitory, she is a net height of one six eight, tall and tall, although the person is not particularly beautiful, but the personality is very good, also clean and clean, and sometimes cute and sometimes stable.
The year before she said she was getting married, and I went to her wedding with another girl in our dorm room and met her marriage partner, and to be honest we were a little surprised.
Her husband was 172 centimeters tall, average in height, mature in appearance, and not outstanding in appearance, and at that time we wondered how our classmates could look up to this boy.
The wedding was held in the man's rural hometown, the wedding was very sloppy, and the woman's relatives went to two or three cars. When the celebrant asked the mother-in-law whether she was beautiful to her daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law replied reluctantly, it is okay!
But after understanding, it turned out that the man was introduced by the relatives of his classmates, and the man was a forest public security officer and had a formal establishment. Because my classmates are the only daughters in the family, and the male party works in the city where the same scholar is located, before marriage, they bought a house with the help of their parents and had their own small home.
In this way, it is equivalent to the man doing the door-to-door son-in-law. Although the man's family is rural, he and his classmates live in the city, and they are very close to their mother's home, and they will only return to the man's hometown during the New Year's Festival.
In this way, we seem to understand the choice of our classmates.
Older women in the system marry "ugly" men without academic qualifications
This girl is my friend, we are also from a village, we are both the same age, she has a better school than me, is a graduate of the University of Mines.
After graduating for many years, I also devoted myself to the examination for the public examination, and in the first two years, I was finally admitted to our municipal government (county-level city).
She once told me that before she was admitted, because the family conditions were very bad, others introduced her to a second marriage, did small business without education, and thought she was Gao Pan.
After being admitted, the colleagues and leaders of the unit introduced her to her were basically within the system, and it can be said that others introduced her to at least two levels higher.
In May, she finally got married.
The marriage partner, not in the system, and only a high school student, is short and not handsome or even a little ugly.
But the friend is very willing, after a deep chat, I feel that the friend's current thinking is very grounded, she has a very clear understanding of what she wants and what she can want.
Although this boy is not tall or handsome, he does not dislike her family and is very kind to her parents. The most important thing is that he does have some connections, the ability to do things, his family is doing business, some things friends can't do but he can do and the man has a car, and he has a house in the county town.
This may be the best option for a friend at the moment.
Marriage is really not for others to see, some people may look good but not good for you, so what is the use?
Marriage is the best for themselves, girls really can't recognize themselves, blindly elevate themselves, suppress others, so it is really difficult to find the right person.
Are you married to the ideal type you once were? How is married life today? Feel free to share your views!