Words are the bond of emotion and the bridge of communication. Thank you for my encounter, and if you wish, click on the top right corner to follow "Your Treasure Dove" to keep me with you through every lonely moment.
See a very interesting saying: "The feelings of two people are like a barrel, and whether they can stick to it does not depend on the long board, but on the short board." ”
In other words, whether the relationship between you can be maintained better is not how much you like the excellent and positive side of the other party, but whether you can tolerate the other person's shortcomings.
When two people are first together, they will always swear to each other, no matter what you become, I will still love you.
But in fact, sometimes before the other party makes changes, they no longer have enthusiasm and expectations for this relationship.
Everyone likes the positive and gentle side of others, even if they have only met a few times, see others treat themselves politely, they will have a good feeling for him.
And love is a process of reverse thinking, and learning is a truth, everyone likes to try new things, to chase things that have not been touched.
But the essence of learning is that it needs to be repeated continuously, going back over and over again to review the previous knowledge points, so as to learn new things from the past.
Love is also somewhat similar, people are always beautiful from each other, and the time they spend together for a long time will dim the shining point of the other party.
Instead, the other person's shortcomings are replaced, and some small shortcomings begin to be magnified by themselves, and sometimes even question why they chose to be with him before.
We are sometimes attracted to romantic idol dramas, and the deeper we immerse ourselves, the more we feel that this is what love in reality should look like.
When we can't tell the distance between idol drama and reality, it is easy to use the standards of idol drama to demand our other half, or to expect the other half.
But think about it, if your significant other drives you on a date, then gets out of the car and opens the door for you, looks you in the eye affectionately, and says a love sentence that the male protagonist often says.
In fact, it is difficult for you to accept that the plot of the idol drama takes place in real life, and you will only feel strange and feel that he seems to be abnormal.
Where there are so many halos in the love of our ordinary people, there will not be so many delicate and romantic plots, and there will not be that luxurious living environment.
On Friday nights, we rode around the path in an electric car and went to the alley next door to buy some snacks, which made us happy.
Your other half may not have the beauty and perfect body of the male or female protagonist, and we sometimes sleep and can't even brush our hair.
Our figure will slowly change shape, because he is constantly socializing, the beer belly has slowly stood up, and the edges and contours of his face have been slowly flattened by the years.
The eyes gradually lost their charm, once you thought he was a dancing teenager in a white shirt, now you look at him wearing a white shirt, only sighing that tomorrow he will wash his white shirt again.
You also gradually underwent some changes, your skin gradually became a little looser, and you began to pay more attention to skincare than you did every day to spend time on makeup.
Your temper is not as good as before, in fact, you can feel it yourself, but when he asks this question, you will always argue with him and push the responsibility on him.
But you know that your patience is getting less and less, and whenever you are busy at work, your attitude towards others will be very bad, especially to him.
The chat between you has become simpler and simpler, from good morning and good night every day to "Come back for dinner in the evening?" "Help me get the courier after work" "Remember to water the flowers tomorrow."
You share less and less of your life with each other, because you live together every day and there is really nothing to share.
Your life and his life are almost exclusively work, and everything else overlaps, and you are becoming more and more tacit, which is a good thing, but sometimes you feel that something is missing.
You are becoming more and more honest with each other, no longer giving each other valuable gifts for the sake of face, but when you visit the supermarket, carefully calculate which way to buy it is more cost-effective.
When you go shopping, you will not hesitate to bargain with the store, and you don't have to worry about making yourself faceless, you have become accustomed to this way of getting along.
Two people just want to see the worst side of each other, and then ask themselves if they can accept his sloppy appearance, whether they can tolerate his depressed state.
When you understand that he is really an ordinary person in the future, he may always be in this state in the future, and there are no grand events in your life, no obstacles that cannot be overcome, but there are no big surprises.
Will you still stick to your original choice and be willing to accompany him and spend an ordinary life?