China is a country of etiquette, and attaches great importance to the cultivation of etiquette, especially for children from an early age. Respecting the elderly and loving the young is the most basic courtesy, and parents are also educating their children. But some politeness, but can not agree, forced children will only let the child's heart be hurt, will also have an impact on the child's personality.
Every New Year's Festival, children should be the happiest and excited, not only can play freely, but also eat a lot of delicious food, but there are also things that make children feel headaches, that is, performance talent.
Xiaoyue is a well-behaved and sensible girl, her parents attach great importance to her education, in addition to daily learning, but also need to learn dance. The study of dance allows Xiaoyue to sing and dance, and her temperament is outstanding, the most important thing is that Xiaoyue's academic performance is still very good, Xiaoyue's excellence makes parents both happy and proud, and always praises their children unabashedly in front of relatives and friends.
New Year's Day, Xiao Yue and her parents visited relatives' homes, the atmosphere was lively, some relatives proposed to let Xiao Yue perform the next dance, Xiao Yue's parents were full of mouth, but Xiao Yue was no longer a child, performing in front of so many people made her feel embarrassed, grinding and rubbing unwilling to go, Xiao Yue's parents could not hang on to their faces.
After returning home, parents began to educate their children, saying that Xiaoyue's performance today was too timid and impolite. Her parents' words made Xiaoyue feel very uncomfortable, and she was particularly resistant to meetings and was unwilling to go.
Xiaoyue thing is very common in China, especially children who learn talents, parents will always let their children perform in front of everyone, and ignore the children's feelings, like the parents of this mandatory courtesy is "Chinese politeness", this "politeness" will slowly destroy the child, but the parents do not know that they are complacent.
: The big one should let the small one go
If there is a dispute in the process of getting along with the child, the parents will generally let the earth let the small, because the parents think that the big has understood things, in many ways it is stronger than the small, the small does not understand things and fool around is understandable, the big let the small can indeed make the dispute stop, but for the big may cause harm, but it is not conducive to small growth education.
Children, whether they are big or small, are children, forcing children to give way will make children feel that their parents are biased and feel that they are not loved, while small people will think that I should let me when I am young, and from then on I will become willful, selfish, and do not know humility. If this happens in a two-child family, it is not conducive to the harmonious coexistence of brothers and sisters.
: Excessive modesty for the child's excellence
Chinese parents are always not good at expressing their affirmation and love for their children, even if the children are excellent in their hearts, but in order to make the children not complacent, stingy with praise, but for the children's mistakes, they will loudly and severely criticize, hoping that the children will correct.
Everyone wants to get the affirmation of others, so do children, and the affirmation of parents is their driving force to move forward, no matter how hard to be excellent, can not get the praise of parents, will make children doubt their own ability, become inferior, so parents should generously express their love and praise for their children, tell children that they are great, so that the children can be optimistic and happy.
: Meet someone to say hello
Some children are cheerful by nature, always love to talk and laugh, parents let him greet people, they shout generously, such children are bound to get everyone's love, but each child's personality is different, some children are cheerful, some children are introverted, and for introverted slow children, they are always unwilling to take the initiative to say hello.
Many parents think that children do not like to greet people is not polite, in fact, children are just introverted and slow, for unfamiliar people they will not be too active, parents should understand the child, and do not force the child.
"Chinese politeness" will affect the child mainly because parents always stand in their own position, ignoring the child's feelings, in our daily life, parents should still pay attention to the child's inner thoughts, do not ignore the child for the so-called face, so that the child can grow up healthy and happy.