The contradictory novel Midnight begins with a scene that greets an important character.
This important figure is the representative of Shanghai enterprise capitalists, Wu Sunfu's old father, Mrs. Wu. This is a stubborn and decadent feudal bureaucratic legacy.
Old Mrs. Wu could not take care of herself because she was physically disabled, and in order to resolve the sins she committed when she was young, he held a large part of the Taishang Induction Collection in his arms and read it all day long.
In order to protect herself, Mrs. Wu specially chose a pair of "golden boys and jade girls" for herself——— Mrs. Wu's fourth daughter Huifang and her seventh son Ah Xuan.
In order to meet her own needs, this decadent old lady Wu ignored the urgent need for her two adult sons and daughters to be well educated and pursue a life that should be her own.
Moreover, he also made various rules for the pair of "golden boys" around him, and he stipulated that his daughter's dress must be subordinate to his preferences.
Sitting in the car carrying Mrs. Wu to Shanghai, the fourth miss Huifang said to the second sister Fufang, in fact, the countryside is also fashionable and beautiful fashion, but in order to meet her father's image management requirements for the "jade girl", the fourth miss Huifang had to swallow the grievances of the stomach, let go of the nature of being a young girl who loves beauty, to cater to her father, according to her father's requirements, dress herself up in the earth.
Seventh Young Master Ah Xuan, because he was used as a protective body "golden boy" by Old Lady Wu, lived with his old father like a decaying wood for many years, because he did not receive a proper education at the right age, compared with the sharp and shrewd brother Wu Sunfu, hun and body revealed a stupid and sluggish atmosphere.
The same is the sister, the brother, why the second miss Fufang is generous and fashionable, while the fourth miss Huifang is inferior and twisted? The third brother Wu Sunfu was decisive and sharp, while the Seventh Young Master Ah Xuan was sluggish and wooden.
In addition to personal characteristics, this mainly has a lot to do with the different living environments they are in.
Because they want to be their father's protective body "Golden Boy and Jade Girl", the fourth young lady Huifang and the seventh young master Ah Xuan have to live with their father for a long time, and they not only rarely have the opportunity to receive new ideas and education, but also have to be imprisoned and bound by their father's decadent thoughts for a long time.
Therefore, compared with their older brothers and sisters who have lived in Shanghai for many years, they naturally have some stupidity in their bodies, and their thinking has become as old-fashioned and self-contained as their father, Old Mrs. Wu.
It can be seen how great the environmental impact of the day after tomorrow has on people's growth.
When the child lives in a rigid, sluggish, lifeless environment for many years, the child's personality will also become timid, inferior and cowardly.
Authoritarian parents like Mrs. Wu often impose their feelings on their children. In the name of love, they blackmail their children into doing things according to the will of their parents, not the will of the children themselves.
Many parents, when they were young, for various reasons, could not fulfill the wishes, but put their hopes on their children, hoping that the children can complete their unfulfilled long-cherished wishes.
Many children grow up, living and learning according to their parents' arrangements.
In the TV series "Little Joy", Song Qian, a single mother, wants her daughter Qiao Yingzi to apply for a prestigious school in Beijing. Song Qian believes that she is thinking about her daughter's future. She feels that only by being admitted to a prestigious school, the child's choice in the future will be greater, and the probability of winning in life will be greater.
However, what Hideko really likes is aerospace, and she made it clear to her parents that she wanted to enter the aerospace major of NTU, but she did not want to be resolutely opposed by her parents.
Later, Qiao Yingzi was forced by his parents to become severely depressed and almost committed suicide by jumping into the sea.
Forced by The parents of Ying Zi, who finally had to be forced by reality, agreed to Ying Zi's application for the Aerospace Major of Nanda University according to his wishes, which saved an unfortunate event.
Some parents, always in the name of all kinds of love, force what they think is valuable and good to their children, they do not care about the real thoughts in the child's heart, thinking that their piece of hard heart is for the good of the child.
However, these parents ignore one thing: children are also independent individuals, and what parents think is good is not necessarily really good for children.
The so-called honey of A, arsenic of B.
Some people think that it is a good thing like honey, and for others, it may be poison.
Therefore, parents who truly love their children and are considerate of their children will never impose their will on their children in the name of love. They will respect their child's choices and support them in doing what they really want to do.
Because, from the moment of separation from the mother, the child is himself a completely independent person, and they have their own preferences and life goals.
As long as parents ensure that our children are healthy and safe when choosing the general direction of life, the rest is to give the freedom of choice to the children.
When children struggle for their true interests and dreams, their hearts will have a steady stream of motivation, tireless, not afraid of hardships, tireless, tireless, and finally reach the goal.
What parents need to do is to truly support their children's choices, respect their children's ideals, and encourage their children to be brave to themselves.