Recently, several "letters of renunciation" from elementary school students have caught fire
"If I get married, don't come, and I won't attend your funeral!"
"Let's break off our friendship!" What love and hope, pull it down! ”
"xxx and xxx are not friends here!"
These contents made netizens sigh:
The boat of friendship turns over!
Some netizens said: The content is too cute, and some of them are also pressed with handprints, which is really angry and funny!
The children's renunciation is so publicized, and the adults are silently alienated.
Then the child has a "conflict" with his classmates at school
Should parents intervene?
Some netizens said:
Let the children's affairs be solved by themselves
Not too involved
Excessive involvement of parents in conflicts between children can lead to
What are the problems?
Children are becoming more and more timid
Children learn to shirk their responsibilities
Children are becoming increasingly unsociable
When a contradiction occurs
How should parents handle it
Regarding their children's social problems, parents should remember that the general principle of helping children cope with social problems is that parents should be a safe base for their children.
Determine whether this is a "normal conflict" between children or bullying
Don't step in to warn or punish the other person
Guide your child to find a way to solve the problem
Communicate skillfully with each other's parents to encourage children to interact normally
Parents should not restrict children from interacting with their peers because of the frequent quarrels and disputes between children, but should create conditions to encourage children to interact with others, so that children can gain experience in conflicts and disputes, and increase the experience of interacting with people.
Contradictions if escalated
What parents should do
Although parents are not encouraged to intervene in most cases, it does not mean that parents should sit idly by in all things. In some cases, the contradictions between children need parents to understand, participate, and help children coordinate to resolve. For example, when a child is in danger, or a conflict with a classmate is not resolved for a long time, parents need help.
If you need to intervene, remember to relax and hold an attitude of assistance, rather than taking the initiative to replace the deputy. During the intervention, parents should pay attention to:
After the child expresses his emotions, accept it, do not immediately criticize right and wrong, do not rush to impose his own ideas on the child, and give the child enough security. After your child's mood has eased, discuss with him/her how to deal with it, or what to do next time you encounter the same thing.
Every child has the wisdom to survive, and when they encounter problems, they will actively think of ways, and if we intervene eagerly, it will deprive the child of the opportunity to grow.
Do not break the rules of the child's getting along, do not face the contradictions between the children, give the child the space for self-processing, guide the child at the appropriate time, and be his/her safe base, this is what parents should do.
Children at school and classmates
Have there been any conflicts?
In the face of this situation, as a parent, you
How is it handled?
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