Now many parents will feel that if the children in the family are the happiest and most happy, and with the opening of the two-child policy, many families are not as happy as they are. But there are always some parents who want sons more, but not because of "son preference".
I believe that the phenomenon of son preference is not uncommon, but now this feudal idea has been slowly abandoned by everyone, but there are still many parents who do not want to have daughters, so people will still think of this idea as a remnant of the idea of son preference. But the heartfelt words spoken by a post-90s mother had to make people fall into contemplation.
Cocoa is a post-90s, married to her husband and gave birth to a son, which is a very happy thing for the husband's family who have only one child. After the birth of his son, relatives and friends continued to visit Coco and the baby. And most people who come to visit will also say to Coco that now the country allows the birth of a second child, and then have a daughter, both children and daughters, just put together a good word, life will be complete.
However, Coco said that the reason why she did not want to have a daughter was not so, but that she experienced the pain of having a child, and that experience made her feel painful. So she didn't want to have a daughter and let her go through this pain too, she would be heartbroken.
Coco's words silenced those relatives and friends, and it was not difficult to see from their expressions that they also agreed with Coco's words. And Coco's husband, after knowing Coco's true thoughts, is very distressed about Coco's efforts and is more considerate to her than ever. And the husband and in-laws will take turns to take care of the children, so that Coco can rest better and recover.
Indeed, women experience more troubles than men, and women have always been in a vulnerable position in society. Coco's inner words are very true expressions of the voices of many parents at present.
What are the reasons why couples are reluctant to have daughters now?
1, afraid that the daughter can not protect herself
The complexity of the human heart and society is unpredictable. In the face of danger, women appear particularly helpless and weak. If they have a daughter, parents have to spend a lot of effort to teach their daughters to protect themselves from harm.
However, parents cannot always accompany their daughters, and when danger comes, whether the daughter can protect herself well has become a problem that parents are most worried about. That's why many young couples are reluctant to have daughters.
2, afraid of daughters after marriage is not happy
When the daughter grows up, she will marry someone else's wife and live in someone else's family. As parents, it is inevitable to worry about whether their daughter's married life is happy and whether her daughter has been wronged in her in-laws' family.
Especially now many girls are the pearls in the palm of their parents, if after marriage, from the little princess in their parents' hearts to the old mother of the in-laws or even the punching bag, many parents will be very distressed.
Especially the daughter who is married far away, she has been wronged and cannot return to her parents at once. Therefore, more and more couples are reluctant to have daughters after taking this into account.
3. Fear of suffering from the pregnancy and childbirth of the daughter
For many women, pregnancy and childbirth are like experiencing a life and death catastrophe, and the pain in it will only be clear after experiencing it. Therefore, they are well aware of the physical harm that having children brings to women's bodies. Because of this, they are reluctant to have daughters, afraid that their daughters will be tortured by childbearing.
In any case, it is better to have children and daughters, after all, children are the flesh of the mother. Once the child is born, parents must take care of them carefully and accompany them to grow up with love. Moms and dads, would you rather have a son or a daughter? Why?
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