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Actor Chaplin said: "Looking at it from a distance is a comedy, and looking at it up close is a tragedy." ”
Any kind of feeling, from different angles, the result is different, the feeling is not the same.
Instead of stumbling in one place, it is better to take the initiative to go out and have the ability to jump out of the circle to see the circle.
The ancients said, "Brothers love and friends, brothers respect and obey." ”
The most rare thing in the world is brotherhood and sisterhood. We all grew up together and moved forward hand in hand. If the enemy turns against each other, it will be chilling.
How to redeem brotherhood, we must grasp the principle of "difference between near and far". Take a moment to go to the following places to take a walk, see the life in the distance, and feel the life path that has been taken.
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First, go to where your parents are.
Lao She wrote in "My Mother": "My mother was born in a farmhouse, thrifty and honest. For our food and clothing, my mother would wash and mend everyone's clothes. In my memory, her hands were bright red and slightly swollen all year round. ”
You must have a lot of memories of your parents. Even if you don't want to touch on the poor life of your childhood, you still can't forget it.
When you grow up, no matter how far you go, you still have to go back to your parents. During the New Year's Festival, the family sits around, accompanies their parents to a meal, and has a drink with the old father, and their hearts are warm.
As parents, we must expect our children to be kind and harmonious, and not to be noisy.
Therefore, when brothers and sisters go to their parents' homes, they will feel the love of their parents and will be touched by the warm pictures of the family. Family feuds are acts of filial piety to parents.
If your parents have passed away, prostrate yourself on the grave and burn incense. With the help of the love left by parents, awaken everyone's conscience.
Once, in order to pull their children to grow up, parents tried their best. Especially some rural parents, raising pigs, feeding sheep, farming, raising chickens and ducks... It is all hard work, but parents do not cry bitterness, but leave suffering on themselves, leaving happiness and hope to their children.
In front of the "face" of parents, if you have something to say, the family style will also become better.
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Second, the homes of the poorest loved ones.
The playwright Balzac said, "Where a single person may perish, two people together may be saved." ”
The power of one person is limited, but the power of a family is infinite.
Good families are all helping each other, not lifting each other's bars. When you feel "isolated", it will be much better to have a brother pull you along.
In real life, some well-mixed people, although they say "hate their relatives", but at some point, they will still help their brothers and sisters, after all, this love is inseparable.
Go to the homes of the poorest siblings, and you will have a feeling of "unbearable in your heart".
There is a saying that people's hearts are made of flesh, so how can you be willing to hurt flesh and bones? You have no responsibility to pull the poor forward, but you really help the poor and you will have peace in your heart. When you are old, you have a sense of unashamed conscience.
There is a saying in my hometown: "Give a hard hand to your family, count which discipline is skilled, and have the ability to fight the world." ”
As a person, we must be able to distinguish between inside and outside, and do not always "blade inward" and climb up the shoulders of the poor.
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Third, the family of a relative of high morals.
To be a human being, we must learn from moral models. Everyone understands the truth, but there are few opportunities for close contact with moral models, and it is difficult to understand them in depth.
If you look closely, you will find that among the relatives, some of the relatives' families are very harmonious and worth learning.
In my hometown, when young people get married, they need to find an elder who "has both children and children and a harmonious family" to help make the bed. It means that this young couple can also contaminate the blessings of the elders.
Everyone wants to get better, they just haven't found a way to get better.
Go to the homes of morally virtuous relatives, talk to relatives, and you will find their advantages. Their advice will also be heard.
At new year's, my family and I went to my second uncle's house to pay respects to the New Year. The second uncle said, "I gave everything in the house to my eldest son." ”
We wonder, "Isn't the younger son resentful?" The second uncle's approach is too eccentric. ”
The second uncle continued: "The younger son works in Shenzhen, mixes well, and offers to give up everything in his hometown." The old house was renovated, and he also sent ten thousand yuan. ”
"The belly can tolerate, tolerate the things that are difficult to tolerate in the world", brotherly and sisterly exchanges, and the value is "generosity". This is the family of the second uncle, the truth embodied.
Brothers and sisters have a vendetta, and if they compare the hatred in their hearts with the true feelings of their relatives, they will be ashamed of themselves and will have the intention of repentance. There is also a changed direction.
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Fourth, the hospital where life and death coexist.
The Taiwanese writer Zhang Xiaofeng once said: "If I am allowed to declare one more public holiday, I must stipulate that this day cannot be used for entertainment or travel, but to force people to go to the hospital to visit the life, old age, illness and death of human beings." ”
Walking into the hospital, you will see the death of the elderly, the birth of the child, the patient's painful expression, the busy figure of the doctor, and the most rare thing is that some people who have just recovered from serious illnesses have walked out of the hospital. Although the body is not too good, there is a smile on the face, which is like a relief.
In this life, in addition to life and death, there are few major events.
Relatively speaking, what is the hatred of brothers and sisters? When you get old, you can't always bring hatred into the dirt, right? Can't we treat hatred as an heirloom for the next generation?
If you are really sick, and your relatives still look at you every three to five minutes and take money to you, isn't this kind of affection ten thousand times better than hatred?
The mind turns, the mind changes, and hatred becomes something that needs to be discarded.
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The Ming Dynasty thinker Huang Zongyi said: "Between flesh and bones, one more point of thickness means one more point of nature, and there is no need to be too clear on right and wrong." ”
They all say, brothers, settle accounts.
Anything, as long as it is figured out, is fine. This is a theoretical thing, in reality it can not be done, a lot of feelings, money, a lifetime is a confused account. Only by learning to be confused and not to think about it can we truly be relieved.
The scope of a person's walk is his life; the world that a person sees is his pattern.
When encountering hatred, don't panic, if it doesn't work out, then tolerate it.
May you and I, go out for a walk, looking for daylight.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.