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Some people say that love between adults is not so complicated, and to know if a man really loves you, you only need to look at two points, which are: transfer money and marry you.
But if you think about it, is this really the case? Not.
The person who is willing to transfer money to you may not really love you, and it may be that he is not short of money, does not care about money, or has other purposes to ask for you; and willing to marry you cannot mean that he loves you 100%, and there may be other reasons, such as business marriage, looking at your family situation, or simply wanting to make your parents feel at ease.
To say that a person loves or does not love is actually biased, and specific problems should be analyzed in detail.
Wondering if a man really loves you or is making a scene, not by looking at what he says, but by what he does. If he can take the initiative in the following three aspects, then he will have a deep affection for you.
Because men are very realistic and sober, they will be treated specially in the face of special people, and once he gives you certain privileges, it means that they treat you as true love.
One: Take the initiative to give you his care, always put you in mind
A man who truly loves you will always put you in his heart, he will pay attention to your every move, will give your circle of friends a thumbs up, and will be familiar with your work, work and life.
Because only in this way can he be close to you and have more opportunities to get to know you.
He knows which day you will work overtime and which day you will rest, so he will always ask you out in time when you are free; he knows your preferences, your life likes habits, etc., so he can always love you in a way that you feel comfortable with.
Even if it's what kind of coffee and milk tea you like to drink, add a little sugar, he knows it all.
These details are actually proof that he is hard enough for you, and only if he loves you enough will he take the initiative to care.
Two: Take the initiative to give you his respect and care about your every thought and feeling
In life, there are many men with macho tendencies, they always feel that women are their appendages, everything should be decided by themselves, after all, they are the head of the family.
But in fact, men and women are equal, and if you really love someone, you should respect her from the bottom of your heart and put her in the same position as you.
Only in this way can the relationship between each other be more stable and lasting.
People who really treat you like a wife tend to care about your every thought. If you agree, he will support you without hesitation; if you disagree, he will patiently give his opinion.
Such equal communication and exchange will make the love between each other more possibilities. Instead of everything being decided by him, what you think, he doesn't care, neither respects nor loves you enough.
Three: Taking the initiative to give you his preference is a manifestation of inner firmness
In the Korean drama "That Year We", Guo Yanxiu, who was reading and studying in the library, saw the male protagonist Choi Woong approaching, and Choi Hung said to her:
"Fool, it's okay to apologize to me, you just have to say sorry, anyway, the person who lost is me."
Such firmness made Guo Yanxiu very moved, it turned out that he was a person who would not lose no matter what he did, and it turned out that he was a person who could be forgiven no matter what he did.
In feelings, it is very necessary to be so firm, firmly choose a person, firmly be with a person, and at the same time firmly believe in what that person has done, firmly believe that the feelings between you will not change.
Many people are not so determined, so they can't give lovers enough security, just like the very popular "library 30 seconds" story on Weibo, a man who is not firm will have the characteristics of indecision and half-heartedness when faced with choices.
They may not have done anything to betray or hurt you, but when they are not firm and you perceive it, many of the things that were previously retained in the relationship will quietly disappear.
The firmness shown by preference is also, to some extent, a kind of responsibility, a courage to believe that the person you choose is your best solution, and dare to take responsibility for your own choice.
The firmness contained in the preference is the core of the sense of security, which can make women think of this firmness and believe in your love when they are most helpless and shaken.
Preference is a derivative of love, and it is also the most able to bring women a sense of security, and the significance of preference lies in this.
When a woman says to you that she is insecure, the subtext is actually saying: She is not feeling your preference for her. When there is enough preference, there is naturally a sense of security.
Showing your preference for a woman, letting her know that she is unique in the world in your eyes, and letting her have the courage to go forward to you is to give them the greatest sense of security.
The man who truly treats you as a wife will respect you, will care about you, will give you his preferences and privileges, and the man who does not love you may not occupy a single one.
Love and unlove are so obvious that only by knowing how to discern can we allow ourselves to encounter true love instead of being hurt frequently.
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